I am a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist. I have extensive experience working with diverse populations in different community settings. I have adapted different approaches in my clinical work to fit with the populations that I serve. As a therapist, I work to help make clients feel grounded and supported in our session appointments. I strive for authenticity when working with others. I try to help clients value honesty within themselves and in others. I hope to be able to facilitate growth and change in our time together.

I am a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist who provides counseling to adults and couples using a trauma-informed approach. I am trained in EMDR, Brainspotting, and Accelerated Resolution Therapy (ART), and I help clients process and heal from complex life experiences. I bring a unique depth of experience to my work, having served 25 years as a police officer and over 13 years supporting first responders through peer support programs. I am also a certified domestic violence counselor with experience working with both adults and children impacted by trauma, and a U.S. Army veteran with four years of active-duty service.

I work with adults who feel overwhelmed, stuck, or worn down by stress, trauma, substance-related challenges, or major life transitions. My approach is practical, respectful, and grounded, with a focus on helping you feel understood while building tools that support real, day-to-day change. I bring a steady and structured presence to therapy and offer services in both English and Spanish. My goal is to help you gain clarity, strengthen coping skills, and move forward with confidence at a pace that feels right for you.

I am a clinical psychologist with 40+ years of experience in a major San Francisco Medical Center and in private practice. I have worked with all age groups with a wide range of psychological issues. I have a background in neuropsychology and psychodynamic treatment. I have worked with the geriatric population and I am very familiar the issues of aging.

Hi, I'm a licensed marriage, family therapist out of California with over a decade of experience in therapy. I have my master's of counseling and a family man dedicated to helping others free themselves from their own trappings. Everyone has a unique journey in life and often times, navigating it on own is what we think we're supposed to do. What if there was another way? That's where I would love to come in and support you. I will be in your corner as you navigate life, where I can cheer you on and call you out. Too often, folks think the burden they have is only for themselves to bear. I want people to know that they are not alone and they don't have to face things alone.

Hi I'm Jordan and welcome to my practice. I specialize in working with adults with high-functioning Autism (formerly Asperger's) as well as help clients with addiction concerns. If you or your adult child is on the spectrum and struggling to put words to their emotions, implement real change, or develop friendships, these are very common concerns and I would be happy to meet with you or your child to work through those concerns. I also support clients (ASD or not) with addiction concerns ranging from porn to alcohol and many other drugs. I enjoy my work and ensure that my clients never feel judged and leave feeling empowered to make the changes that are essential for their life.

*I only work with individuals, no couples, no minors (under 18)* Trained in a range of therapeutic approaches, I am available to help clients navigate trauma, anxiety, relational issues, communication skills, depression, and stress management . As a first generation Eritrean American born and raised in the Bay Area, I struggled with a sense of belonging throughout my adolescence, often straddling the line between multiple identities and insecurities surrounding the idea of not being “American enough" and not being “African enough.” Early on in college, I took a psychology class that helped me further understand the human condition and its applications in my own life. I learned transformative concepts in terms of moods, relationships, and behaviors, prompting me to further pursue the field of psychology. Since then, I have taken it upon myself to get advanced training in various therapeutic approaches, which I believe help clients get the most out of their therapy experience.

You don't have to keep carrying this alone. Whether you're navigating anxiety, depression, trauma, ADHD, autism, or a life that feels overwhelming: relief is possible, and you deserve support that truly fits who you are. I'm Matt Tapia, a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist (LMFT) and Board Certified Behavior Analyst (BCBA), licensed in Arizona and California. My background is genuinely unique: I'm one of the few therapists who holds both a clinical therapy license and a behavioral science certification. That combination means I bring two powerful perspectives into every session: the emotional depth of relationship-centered therapy and the practical, evidence-based tools of behavioral science. We won't just talk about how you feel. We'll understand why you do what you do, and build a real plan to change it. I work with children, teens, adults, couples, and families, and my practice is proudly neurodivergent-affirming. You belong here.

I empower my clients to become more confident, achieve the goals they set for themselves, and to better communicate with the people around them. I aid my clients in gaining a better understanding of themselves and help them explore how to solve problems while staying aligned with their core values. I approach my work from a person-centered lens, while also utilizing CBT and solution focused practices with a dash of narrative therapy and humor. This allows my clients to feel both seen and heard, while also enabling the creation of lasting changes in their lives.

I’m Cory Sullivan, a Licensed Clinical Social Worker trained at the University of Southern California. I’m passionate about helping people find their “new normal” after traumatic injury or chronic illness, and I bring both clinical and lived insight into the grief and identity shifts that can follow. I take an eclectic, integrative approach to anxiety and depression, blending practical tools, psychoeducation, and collaborative support. My clients know they don’t have to face this alone — we work through it together.

I am passionate about the impact of spirituality in mental health therapy. As an attachment informed humanist LPCC, I consider the bio-psycho-social-spiritual/existential condition of the folks with whom I work. Healing is a matter of integrating the disparate and fragmented parts of life. Empathy, acceptance, positive regard, and genuineness are crucial elements for effective therapy and these are the characteristics I seek to cultivate in my practice. As far as a specific toolkit, CBT and Motivational Interviewing are the primary evidence based methodologies I employ to be with people in their self-paced, goal oriented healing efforts. Those who want to examine the angst, anxiety, disquiet, and friction in their lives will find a fellow traveler in me.

I am a Licensed Clinical Social worker in California with a demonstrated ability to develop rapport with people from various backgrounds. As a social worker, I have had the opportunity to work in various settings from medical and psychiatric hospitals, community mental health agencies and the criminal justice system (juveniles and adults). I have also worked with individuals challenged by addiction. Through the use of interpersonal dynamics, I can support individuals in accessing various psychological parts of themselves while focusing on the past, present and future.

Hi, I’m Luke Lorefice, a therapist and college/career counselor dedicated to helping men, young adults, including neurodivergent students and those facing emotional or academic challenges, find clarity, confidence, and purpose. I hold a Master’s in Social Work from Simmons University and a College Counseling Certificate from UCLA Extension. My work blends mental health expertise with academic counseling, employment, and life transitions. Through Grow and my private practice, Wave Point Counseling, I help clients explore meaningful paths whether that’s higher education, a career pivot, or rediscovering a sense of direction.

I'm Dr. Les Aria, a pain psychologist with over 23 years of experience helping people understand and recover from chronic pain. I specialize in the neuroscience of pain — how the brain and nervous system learn pain, and more importantly, how they can unlearn it. My work draws from Polyvagal Theory, Pain Reprocessing Therapy, Acceptance and Commitment Therapy, and mind-body medicine. I offer both individual therapy and group-based pain recovery programs.

Hi! I'm Nick and I am a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist who specializes in helping adults who are ready to move beyond just surviving and into a place of genuine connection and wholeness. I understand the profound weight you’ve been carrying for so long, whether it is the shadow of childhood trauma, navigating addiction or recovery, or the deep fatigue of not being fully seen. If you’ve spent years trying to hold it all together, navigating the world as a man, a trauma survivor, someone who is queer, neurodivergent, or in recovery, you may have learned to mask, people please, or stay small simply to survive. I specialize in supporting those who have felt fundamentally “othered” because of their identity, their sensitivity, or their complex struggles. My approach can be direct, relational, and deeply connected. You will not find judgment in our sessions. What you will find is honesty, profound compassion, and the kind of authentic support that allows you to safely let your guard down. I believe the most transformative healing happens in relationship through empathy, attunement, and having the space to be fully yourself, without the need for code-switching, masking, or minimizing any part of your experience. I bring warmth, humor, and realness into our work, meeting you exactly where you are today. Therapy with me is a genuine partnership, focusing on what you need, rather than a rigid prescription. We will collaborate to heal early wounds, develop profound self-compassion, and cultivate a life where you feel a sense of belonging in your own skin. If any of this resonates and if you are ready for a change and a relational experience with someone who understands your journey, I would be honored to connect with you.

My practice is built on the belief that everyone possesses the capacity for meaningful change. I view therapy as a truly collaborative, reciprocal, and flexible alliance. My goal is to provide a steady, supportive space. Having navigated multiple career journeys, I experienced the challenges and rewards of professionally starting over. I help clients re-author their personal narratives to find lasting growth and purpose. I am grateful to be part of a healing profession that promotes self-awareness, self-acceptance, and personal growth.

Hi. I'm a licensed clinical social worker and received my Masters from USC. I've provided therapy since 2010. I've spend 14 years working with adolescents but i also having experience working with veterans and people with addiction. I've worked with people that have PTSD, Depression, Anxiety, anger issues, drug and alcohol addictions; I've also facilitated various groups in schools and in psychiatric facilities

Hello there, I am Jamey. Do you feel like there are just not enough hours in the day, or that you are being pulled in a million different directions? Do you feel like you are struggling to keep up with your relationships, your work, or your health? Sometimes when this happens, we tend to blame the person in the mirror. Fortunately, I am here to help you get over that hump. I strive to help you manage anxiety and avoid burnout. My goal is to help work together with you, and identify what is working well, and not so well, and help you find that balance you and so many others are looking for. I consider myself to be very adaptable to my clients, and work to find what works best specifically for you! I would also like to assure you, that you are not the only one feeling this way! Whether you are overwhelmed, having relationship issues, dealing with trauma, or cycles of anxiety and depression, I am here to help. If you are having trouble with your children, and are seeking input and new techniques, I would be glad to assist you. Seeking therapy can feel scary, but this is the first step towards making the right choice. You deserve a safe space to heal and grow. In our sessions together, I will meet you with empathy and compassion in a judgment-free zone, working with evidence-based techniques to help you overcome the hang-ups and habits holding you back. Let us work together!

I’m a Licensed Clinical Social Worker who is passionate about helping people grow, gain clarity, and break out of patterns that no longer serve them. I work with adults navigating anxiety, identity exploration, life transitions, and relationship challenges. I take a collaborative and practical approach to therapy, combining evidence based methods like CBT with creative and personalized strategies. My goal is to make therapy not only insightful, but also engaging and applicable to your real life. I strive to create a space where you feel supported, understood, and empowered to challenge yourself, build confidence, and move toward the version of yourself you want to become.

I'm a License Clinical Counselor with more than 15 years of experience listening and helping adult, young adults, and adolescent clients who seek relief from stress, anxiety, depression, substance use, interpersonal problems, trauma, grief, anger, and spiritual concerns. Clients have found that I'm sensitive, discerning, and have helped them see things through the kaleidoscope of diversity, such as race, class, ethnicity, immigration experience, rising from poverty through education and professional development.

I am very pleased to meet you. Before coming here and seeing my profile, you may have struggled alone for a long time, unable to easily share your personal issues with anyone, or perhaps you did share, but felt misunderstood or not fully supported. In a safe and trustworthy environment, I am ready to listen to your concerns or issues with empathy, without any bias or judgment. With my expertise, I am confident in working together with you to resolve your worries or challenges. I will listen to your unique history and problems with curiosity and respect, and I will do my utmost as a counselor in collaboration with you.

Hi! I am a licensed Marriage and Family Therapist with a Master's in Counseling Psychology with a specialty in somatic, or body-oriented, psychology. I also have a Master's in Creative Writing, and lived as a lay monk in a Zen monastery in Japan. I help motivated young and middle-aged adults who tend to live "in their heads" become more composed, resilient, and effective in living according to their values. This is a problem common to folks with relationship challenges, PTSD, dissociation, anxiety, and mood disorders.

Hi! I'm Wen. I am a licensed marriage and family therapist. I help adults who are struggling to deal with everyday stressors and burnout. I empathetically listen to what you have to share and want to fully understand your situation before working collaboratively on solutions. I consider myself a direct person and try to break down the concepts that I teach into easily understood ideas.

Hi, my name is Gerald Anderson. I am a licensed Therapist in California, an LMFT. I have worked as a therapist for a long time. Helping people from many diverse back grounds. I have worked with couples, individuals, and children, helping them to have the support and the tools to process and work through their problems, marital conflicts. I have also worked with drug involved individuals, who are in recovery and I am familiar with the 12 step process.

My name is Christopher, and I believe life can be better than what we have adapted to and gotten used to. Over the years I first began working with the indigent population and there I learned about the connections between substance abuse, mental illness and trauma. I then worked more with addiction when I worked with people struggling to stop substance abuse and once again, I recognized a connection between these behaviors and trauma. Finally, before completing the last stages of earning hours for my license I worked with children and families and noticed the way personal trauma experienced by adults effected parenting and family relationships. Helping people address anxiety and depression symptoms independent of a trauma made improved my abilities who help people that deal with those symptoms along with other trauma indicators.

I believe that life is a beautiful thing, but at times, hurdles and trials can obscure us from seeing that vision. Do mornings greet you with anxiety or sadness? Have you noticed that your motivation within you has dwindled? Hi, I'm Ben, and my passion is collaborating with individuals like you to help them rediscover their very best selves. I thrive on connecting with my clients right where they are. Whether you're wrestling with depression, grappling with anxiety, or simply feeling adrift, I invite you to take the initial step and schedule an appointment with me! We will work together to chart a new course to rekindle your appreciation for the beauty surrounding us in life. My primary approach is Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT), which empowers you to unravel negative behavior patterns, allowing you to break free from thoughts and actions that might be constraining your happiness.

Hi there, I'm Joshua! As a Licensed Clinical Social Worker in California with a master’s degree in social work, I specialize in providing compassionate, client-centered therapy using Dialectical Behavioral Therapy (DBT) and Internal Family Systems (IFS). My approach integrates these evidence-based methodologies to offer a holistic and effective path toward healing. I am dedicated to creating a safe, supportive environment where clients can explore and understand their internal experiences, develop practical skills for managing emotions, and foster personal growth. Together, we work towards lasting change and improved well-being, tailored to your unique needs and goals.

Are you currently struggling with your relationships and feeling overwhelmed and disconnected with yourself as well as with others? Are you feeling anxious or depressed or a combination of both or unsure exactly what you are going through? Are you too often feeling exhausted emotionally, mentally, and spiritually and not sure how to make necessary changes in your life to regain fulfillment and satisfaction? I can support you as we work together to identify the sources of your discontent. Together, we can focus your attention on those areas of your life that may be overlooked and consider other choices to help change how you are feeling. With us working together, you will be engaging in a safe, validating, and empowering therapeutic space. The building of our relationship will provide you with the opportunity to reframe your self-doubt and self-criticism without judgment into a constructive plan for moving yourself along so that you can experience your life more aligned with how you want it to be.

I provide mental health treatment to individual adults, couples and adolescents. I'm an empathetic therapist who helps clients navigate and improve their sense of self and family/partner relationships. I specialize in anxiety, stress, and depression and relationships using a variety of therapeutic modalities to help my patients begin to make progress and start feeling better. My approach to therapy varies based on the individual needs of each client I work with. I enjoy assisting clients navigate and improve their sense of self and family/partner relationships.

Many of my clients come to me feeling overwhelmed by the weight of their emotions, relationships, or life transitions. They may be navigating anxiety, depression, grief, identity shifts, or the residue of past relationship injuries that continue to shape their present. My work focuses on helping you develop awareness, create meaningful change, and strengthen your emotional resilience to move forward with confidence. I draw from evidence-based practices—such as Cognitive Behavioral Therapy, Emotion-Focused approaches, and trauma-informed methods—to provide a space that is structured, encouraging, and collaborative. If you’re reading this and something resonates, I want you to know that therapy doesn’t have to be overwhelming—you don’t have to figure everything out on your own. I offer a warm, non-judgmental space where your experiences are met with empathy and respect. Reaching out can feel like a big step, but it’s also a courageous one. When you’re ready, I’m here.

I'm a graduate of Smith School of Social Work, and a licensed psychotherapist. Over the past 15 years I've worked in clinical and educational settings. I am flexible in my approach. I trust clients’ innate capacity to heal and emphasize their ability to notice, regulate, and build on their own bodily wisdom. At the same time, I take an active, attuned role—offering moment-to-moment guidance to help organize experience and support nervous system regulation.

I am a husband, father, and twin brother (I have and identical twin sister). I am also a reiki master and hypnotherapist. When I am not conducting psychotherapy (talk therapy), I enjoy conducting past life regressions to help people resolve past life trauma. I also use hypnotherapy to heal trauma. Hypnotherapy is not covered by most insurances and may result in cash pay. I enjoy helping people identify their wants and needs so they can then identify their goals and dreams. I believe we all have had experiences that have stifled our self-confidence which then causes us to doubt our ability. I enjoy helping people discover that part of themselves that is hidden as a result. I believe the world is a collective of people. We need to take care of ourselves, each other, and the animals we share this planet with. I DO NOT CURRENTLY ACCEPT COUPLES FOR MARRIAGE COUNSELING.

Luke is a Licensed Clinical Social Worker with a background in emergency medical services and hospital emergency departments. He is a United States Coast Guard veteran located in California. Luke believes in healthy habit development, consistent focus on goals, and problem solving to improve quality of life. Luke's approach to therapy includes: positive psychology, stress management, reducing substance use, communication skills, solution focused therapy, and cognitive behavioral therapy (CBT). Outside of work Luke enjoys outdoor activities like camping, mountain biking, sailing, and scuba diving.

Hello, my name is Gabriel Perfecto, LMFT - I received my Bachelor of Arts in Psychology at San Jose State University and my Master of Arts in Counseling Psychology with an emphasis on Marriage and Family Therapy at the University of San Francisco. Throughout my career, I've worked in community mental health clinics serving those with severe mental illness and a criminal justice history. I've worked with Santa Clara County's Mobile Crisis Response Team to assist community individuals who may be experiencing an acute mental health crisis. Additionally, I've conducted therapy to children, adolescents, young adults, adults, and couples within the private practice space. I enjoy utilizing a wide range of clinical modalities which include a person-centered approach and combination of Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT), Motivational Interviewing, Solution-Focused, and Gottman Method for couples.

I am a dual-licensed clinician committed to supporting individuals in achieving their personal and therapeutic goals. My approach to therapy is collaborative, focusing on enhancing clients’ existing strengths while cultivating new skills to more effectively manage life’s challenges. Drawing from a diverse range of evidence-based clinical modalities, I aim to promote increased self-awareness, emotional resilience, strong self-worth, and sustainable personal growth.

As a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist, I am passionate about helping people navigate difficult moments and find a greater sense of balance and clarity. I specialize in trauma-informed care, crisis intervention, and working with individuals facing depression, anxiety, stress, and major life challenges. My goal is to meet you where you are and support you in building tools that feel meaningful and sustainable.

------------Cash Pay: Sliding Scale Available Upon Request --------- Hi, I’m Javier, a trauma-focused ecotherapist and founder of Eutierria Therapy. I help Black, Indigenous, and People of Color heal from deep-rooted trauma, especially the historical and intergenerational wounds that affect identity and belonging. My approach blends trauma-informed care, cultural sensitivity, nature-based practices, and ketamine-assisted therapy to guide you on a holistic journey of self-discovery, healing, and reconnection with both your cultural heritage and the natural world. At Eutierria Therapy, I focus on healing the individual and the collective by fostering a deeper connection to the Earth and ancestral wisdom. Together, we’ll explore your roots, build resilience, and strengthen your relationship with the land through mindfulness, land-based rituals, and somatic practices. Whether you're facing trauma, life transitions, or seeking spiritual connection, I’m here to support your journey toward wholeness. If you’re ready to reconnect with your heritage and the natural world, let’s work together to reclaim your sense of self and create a life of deep connection and empowerment.

Through connection, empathy and a non-judgmental approach, I offer ways to help you discover what may be blocking you from finding your true path in life. By not seeing an individual for what symptoms they have or what is affecting them, I am more interested in helping you find what is the cause of symptoms and how to process them. I work with adults from all backgrounds. I am also open to any culture, belief, identification or orientation. All are welcome. I base all individual therapy on a client-focused approach and adapt sessions to the needs of each person.

I’m a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist with over 15 years of experience supporting individuals through life’s challenges. I specialize in working with clients who speak only Cantonese or Mandarin, providing culturally sensitive care tailored to their unique needs. I partner with my clients to manage mood changes, strengthen relationships, and navigate major life transitions. In our work together, I aim to help you uncover your strengths, develop practical strategies, and gain the confidence to move forward. My ultimate goal is to support you in building a more balanced, meaningful, and fulfilling life.

My name is Dion Davis, originally from Santa Barbara County. I am a licensed Marriage and Family Therapist who has a thriving private practice in downtown Los Angeles. I have worked with diverse populations, such as survivors of trauma and abuse, blended families, foster parents, couples (dating, engaged, and married), adults with substance/sex addiction, mood disorders, and elder adults/seniors. My communication style is empathetic, incorporating positive language and active listening.

My name is Farbod. I am a second generation Persian-American. My own background continues to shape the way I approach this work. Growing up in California I often felt caught between two cultures—never quite fitting into either. I approach therapy through a combination of learning skills to work through stress, guiding clients to better understanding themselves, and a space to be heard. I also am an avid gamer (tabletop and video games), home cook, and runner.

My values as a therapist include openness, non-judgment, empathy, cultural humility, strength based, and unconditional positive regard. My approach is integrative and centers the needs of my clients; I utilize active interventions involving cognitive behavioral therapy, dialectical behavior therapy, solution focused-therapy, motivational interviewing, grief and loss, to name a few. I aspire to cultivate a trusting, safe and empowering space for the people I serve. I place a lot of emphasis on building a therapeutic relationship with patients that allows for authentic self-expression.

I’m a therapist who primarily works with men dealing with relationship struggles, trauma, and anxiety that’s started to affect work, family, and daily life. I’ve worked in a men’s trauma center as well as in private practice, so I’m very comfortable sitting with the heavier stuff that most guys have learned to keep to themselves. My style is direct, non‑judgmental, and very relational, think real conversation, honest feedback, and a focus on what actually helps you feel and live better, not just “talking about your feelings” for an hour.

You might be at a turning point. Drained by work or the people around you, disconnected from whatever used to give things meaning, or trying to find your footing after a major life change. Maybe anxiety creeps in, thoughts get stuck on repeat, or there's a heaviness you can't quite shake. These are the kinds of crossroads I help people navigate. I'm a Licensed Clinical Social Worker in Sacramento. My background spans community mental health, residential treatment, and crisis intervention, with a focus on addiction recovery, trauma, and complex life transitions. Before that, 15 years in the arts and nonprofit world gave me a close-up view of the burnout that people who give a lot of themselves often carry quietly.

We are all faced with challenges. These challenges can create limitations that interfere with gaining a sense of self, forming healthy relationships, and pursuing our goals. I believe we should not allow these obstacles to dictate how we respond to the environment around us. Learning healthy coping skills, challenging negative self talk, and setting effective boundaries can facilitate desired outcomes in our daily life. Given the opportunity, I would enjoy working with you right where you are. Let’s get to work!

I worked at Oak Grove Center for Education Treatment and the Arts, a level 12 treatment facility, for children and adolescents in Murrieta, California for 10 years before entering into private practice with a large group practice for two years located in Temecula, California. I have operated a solo private practice in Murrieta, California since March of 2013 called Edmond Child & Family Counseling.

Hi! I'm a Licensed Clinical Psychologist based in California. I received my bachelor's degree from Cornell University, a master's degree from the State University of New York (SUNY) system, another master's from the University of New Mexico, and a Ph.D. in Clinical Psychology from the University of New Mexico. I've trained at three Veteran's Affairs hospitals (most recently VA Puget Sound) and completed my residency at Kaiser Permanente in Northern California. I've co-authored more the 25 scholarly articles, chapters for medical textbooks, and symposia at national conferences, worked on a number of research grants funded by the National Institutes of Health, and have been providing psychotherapy for individuals, couples, and groups since 2014.

*Currently not taking couples** I am a licensed Marriage and Family Therapist based in California. I received my master’s degree at Pacific Oaks College with a specialization in Trauma and I have been practicing for over 7 years. I help people by providing them with coping skills when they are overwhelmed, assist them with building a “life worth living”, and help them with working through every day life stressors including: work, relationships, family difficulties.

Hi, I’m Justin, a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist with over a decade of experience supporting adults with anxiety, trauma-related symptoms, and relationship stress. My approach is compassionate, structured, and grounded in evidence-based treatment, including EMDR, CBT, and DBT-informed skills. I believe therapy should feel both safe and effective—where you feel deeply understood while also gaining tools that lead to meaningful change. I strive to create a calm, supportive environment where healing feels possible.

Hello, my name is Michael Chavez, LCSW, and I provide individual therapy to adults facing a variety of challenges, including anxiety, depression, work related stress, and relationship issues. I understand how tough life can be. Before I became a therapist, I went through my own challenges — unhoused, unemployed, and struggling with substance use. Getting sober and working my way through college wasn’t easy, but it shaped the way I show up for others now: with understanding, patience, and zero judgment.