I am a Licensed Clinical Social Worker (LCSW) in Illinois, North Carolina, and Connecticut. I am registered to do telehealth in South Carolina and Florida. I have over 30 years of professional work experience. I have experience in helping clients with stress and anxiety, coping with grief and loss, motivation, self esteem and confidence, & depression. I believe in treating everyone with respect, sensitivity, and compassion. I will tailor our dialog and treatment plan to meet your unique and specific needs. It takes courage to seek out a more fulfilling and happier life and to take the first steps towards a change. I am here to support & empower you in that journey.

I am a student of life with a goal of becoming a kind, compassionate, authentic individual able to keep my cool in the worst situations. I have a Master's degree in Mental Health and Rehabilitation from University of South Florida. I have experience working with issues of trauma, abuse, violence, hurt, loss, rage and confusion, to name a few. I offer frank, non-judgmental feedback to help my client and client couples create the life and approach that best expresses their integrity.

Hi! I am a Licensed Mental Health Counselor (LMHC) and a (LCPC). I received my Masters degree from Springfield College and have been providing therapy for over 15 years. I help clients with Chronic mental health conditions, Depression, Anxiety, Traumas, PTSD, Domestic violence, Grief, Anger management, Substance abuse/Addiction, Geriatric counseling, and Couple counseling. I provide a safe place where you will feel comfortable.

My approach is holistic and encompasses the whole person. I meet clients where they are emotionally, and we walk part of their path together in a collaborative way. I work with clients who have dual diagnoses, for example, a mental health disorder and a substance use disorder, or more than one mental illness, for example, bipolar disorder and PTSD. Many of the clients I work with do not meet criteria for PTSD, but have post-traumatic stress that is causing other conditions. I have lived in a few countries other than the U.S., which has allowed me to be familiar with Hispanic culture and the language. I am trained in Accelerated Resolution Therapy, a modality that helps clients make changes quickly.

Hello, my name is Gabriela, but you can call me Gabby.
I specialize in supporting women who are navigating challenges such as anxiety, depression, and trauma. As a mother and wife, I bring a diverse and compassionate perspective to our sessions, blending personal insight with professional expertise.My goal is to provide a safe and nurturing space where you can feel truly heard, understood, and supported. Together, we will build a foundation for healing, growth, and thriving in the face of life’s challenges.I know how rare it can be to find a place where you feel fully seen, which is why I became a therapist—to create that space for you. Let’s take this journey toward resilience and empowerment, one step at a time.

My name is Joe Calhoun, and I am a Licensed Clinical Social Worker (LCSW) based in Tampa, Florida, and working with clients state-wide via telehealth. I work with teenagers, and adults and specialize in treating addiction, anxiety, anger management, and relationship difficulties, using Cognitive Behavioral Therapy, Faith Based Therapy, REBT, Motivational Interviewing, and Solution Focused Therapy to help my clients meet their treatment goals.

As a seasoned therapist with nearly 20 years of consecutive licensing across multiple states, I specialize in a diverse array of client issues, including men's issues, LGBTQ+ concerns, aging and chronic illness challenges, sexual addiction, trauma and PTSD, anger management, clinical depression, and anxiety. My approach is built on an affirming and caring nature, allowing clients to feel safe and understood in our collaborative work. I utilize various therapeutic modalities, including person-centered therapy, CBT, and ACT, alongside group therapy, to tailor my interventions to each individual’s unique needs. My strong listening and speaking skills facilitate deep connections with clients, empowering them to explore their struggles, find meaning, and ultimately create positive changes in their lives. The impact of my work is reflected in the growth and resilience of my clients, as they navigate their personal journeys toward healing and fulfillment.

Hi! I’m a Licensed Professional Counselor (LPC) based in Texas. I earned my Master’s degree in Counseling from Lamar University and have been practicing for over a year. I specialize in helping teens and adults who are struggling with anxiety. Through a compassionate and client-centered approach, I work with my clients to understand the root causes of their anxiety and develop effective coping strategies. Whether you’re facing daily stress, overwhelm, or persistent worry, I’m here to support you in building resilience and creating lasting change in your life.

My individualized and pro-active approach helps create a supportive environment where clients can feel comfortable addressing life’s challenges through a strength based, solution focused and change oriented approach. It also helps people of all ages and ethnic backgrounds develop self-awareness, self-confidence and see life from a different perspective in order for them to believe in themselves and cope effectively with emotional, behavioral and stress-related problems. My therapeutic approach involves understanding how the patient’s past impacts their current level of functioning and then through this self-awareness, help them make healthier decisions today in order to reach their full potential and live mentally, physically and spiritually healthier lives.

Hi! I'm a Licensed Mental Health Counselor (LMHC) and Certified Neuropsychotherapist (C-NPT) based in Florida. I earned my master’s degree from Troy University and am a certified trauma professional. I’m passionate about supporting individuals navigating depression, anxiety, and post‑traumatic stress disorder. A core part of my work is helping people understand the neurobiology behind their emotions. When clients learn how their brains function, they often discover they have far more influence over their emotional world than they ever realized. My goal is to empower each person with practical tools that foster confidence, joy, and a renewed sense of peace.

I am deeply committed to supporting you in your journey toward growth, healing, and self-discovery. Whether you are dealing with a personal struggle, a relational challenge, or navigating life changes, I believe in a compassionate and collaborative approach to therapy. My goal is not only to help you address the challenges you face today but also to provide you with tools to thrive long-term. Together, we can develop a path forward that allows you to feel empowered, supported, and ready to face the challenges life may bring. Let's work together to unlock your full potential and build a future where you can feel balanced and at peace.

I am a licensed therapist practicing in Florida, Colorado, and Nevada, with seven years of experience. I specialize in guiding individuals who are ready to embrace the inner work needed to heal patterns that no longer serve them. My goal is to support your journey toward growth, self-awareness, and lasting transformation. My lived experience and clinical expertise allow me to connect authentically with clients, fostering a safe and nonjudgmental space for growth and healing.

Hi, I’m Victoria, and I truly understand the importance of mental health from both a personal and professional perspective. With 8 years of experience in the mental health field, I’ve seen firsthand how life’s challenges can affect us, and I’m passionate about helping others navigate their struggles with empathy and support. I’ve worked as a Crisis Therapist, providing immediate care to those in distress, and as an individual therapist helping clients of all ages—ranging from 6 to 45 years old—through issues like anxiety, depression, suicidal crises, and life transitions. I earned my Bachelor of Science in Psychology from Southeastern University and my Master of Science in Clinical Mental Health Counseling and Psychology from Troy University. I believe in meeting each person where they are and creating a safe, open space for healing and growth.

Hello! I am a Licensed Mental Health Counselor. I received my Master’s at Lynn University. I am also trained in EMDR. I work with adult clients who may feel lost or struggle with spirituality, work, or life stress, and assist them in learning more about themselves and develop/grow the desire and willingness to grow and become better versions of themselves.

Hi! I'm Jordan, a California and Florida Licensed Mental Healthcare Practitioner and I'm glad you're here. I am a compassion focused and evidence-based clinician, meaning my focus is working with you to generate meaningful and lasting change. Using a combination of effective therapies I help clients like you develop, understand, and accomplish their therapeutic goals. In California, I currently hold contracts with and am accepting new clients for: Kaiser NorCal, Aetna, Carelon, Cigna, and Anthem. In Florida I hold contracts with and am accepting new clients for: Aetna and Ambetter. I am also happy to accept many other insurance carriers and EAP programs, including a proud partnership with Amazon's EAP program through the Grow Platform.

As your licensed mental health counselor, we'll begin by building a strong and trusting rapport, which lays the foundation for effective therapy. Together, we will carefully identify your presenting issues and concerns, exploring the patterns, emotions, and experiences that have shaped your current challenges. Using evidence-based therapeutic techniques such as Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT), Dialectical Behavior Therapy (DBT), and mindfulness practices, I will tailor our sessions to meet your unique needs. Along the way, we will create clear, achievable strategies designed to help you reach your personal, academic, or professional goals. Throughout the process, you will feel genuinely heard and understood in a safe, supportive environment. You will gain confidence in your ability to navigate difficulties, develop greater emotional resilience, and foster personal growth that leads to meaningful and lasting change. My goal is to empower you to live a more fulfilling, balanced life while equipping you with the tools to continue thriving beyond our time together.

I work with high-functioning adults who feel stuck in cycles of anxiety, emotional pain, or self-sabotage—even after years of traditional talk therapy. My approach integrates trauma-informed, somatic, and nervous system-based practices with subconscious reprogramming. Together, we’ll gently uncover and shift the deeper beliefs and survival patterns held in your body, creating healing that is not only insightful, but embodied and lasting.

As a licensed marriage and family therapist and certified life coach, I am here to guide you through the many challenges we face as we navigate life. Since 2005, I have provided a number of specialized therapeutic services to those dealing with challenging life experiences. Patient well-being and satisfaction is my number one priority. I am passionate about working with every individual and their families, whenever needed, to help reach the goals we set together.

My name is Chiwoo. I enjoy working with individuals who struggle with overthinking, perfectionism, and people-pleasing. As a recovering people-pleaser myself, I understand the challenge of being your authentic self while trying to meet other people's expectations. In therapy, I combine evidence-based approaches with my own healing journey to help you feel less alone, build self-trust, and live with more confidence.

I’m a licensed therapist who helps women navigate life transitions, anxiety, stress, and self-esteem challenges while integrating Christian faith and practical coping tools. My goal is to create a safe, grace-filled space where you can reconnect with peace, purpose, and confidence in who you are. I especially enjoy supporting women who are feeling overwhelmed, adjusting to new seasons of life, or learning to prioritize their own healing. My approach is warm, supportive, and goal-oriented—helping you focus on what’s working, build emotional resilience, and move toward a life that feels more balanced and fulfilling.

My path to becoming your therapist is somewhat unique compared to others in the field. Over the years, I have built a diverse professional background that began with a career in sales. I then transitioned into the Long-Term Care Industry, where I served as both an Admissions and Marketing Director and a Director of Social Services. In addition to these roles, I have been actively involved in my community, working as an HIV/AIDS Intervention Specialist and a Substance Abuse Counselor. For a decade, I also had the privilege of serving as a Licensed Pastor. On a personal level, my life has been enriched by becoming a husband, a father, and more recently, a grandfather. Throughout my journey, I have experienced many of life’s joys and victories. At the same time, I have learned valuable lessons from self-inflicted setbacks and from dealing with the consequences of choices that cannot be changed.

Hi! My name is Desiree, and I'm the founder and owner of Light at the End Counseling Services, LLC. As a mental health therapist in the state of Florida, I specialize in working with adults, children, and teens struggling with anxiety and stress management. I also see individuals who struggle with self-esteem, relationships, and family issues. My style of counseling is characterized by a kind and direct manner, combined with compassion, in a culturally sensitive context. I am also a certified school counselor. My past work enhanced my professional experience as an educator in St. Lucie County and as a dependency case manager for The Department of Children and Families (DCF). I graduated with honors from Webster University with a Master of Arts Degree in Clinical Mental Health Counseling. I returned to graduate school to receive my Education Specialist Degree in School Counseling from Florida Atlantic University, graduating with honors. I was born and raised in Florida and enjoy spending time with my family at the beach, especially during those hot summer days!

Hello! My name is Elizabeth Morgante (please call me Liz 😊) and I am a Licensed Mental Health Counselor and Certified Addiction Professional in Florida. I am also the founder and owner of The Resilient Mind Counseling and Consultation. My mission in practice is to challenge the stigma surrounding substance use and mental health disorders, as well as contribute to the growth, hope, and healing of those experiencing one of the many challenges associated with the human condition.

What typically surprises people is that I am the 11th of 13 children - all from the same parents. Growing up with so many siblings has given me a great opportunity to learn about family dynamics and effective discipline. My parents did a great job of maintaining a safe and well-behaved home, and I use their example as a template while also incorporating my own experience as a parent for working with families today.

Hi there! I’m Victoria, a Licensed Clinical Social Worker (LCSW). My passion is helping adults gain a deeper understanding of themselves and make meaningful changes in their lives. Whether you’re dealing with challenges like setting healthy boundaries, navigating depression, improving self-esteem, or managing everyday stress, I’m here to support you every step of the way. Through a variety of therapeutic techniques, I aim to empower you to create the life you envision. I truly believe in fostering a warm and safe environment where you can fully express yourself and thrive.

Helping women through life transitions find balance, peace, and renewed strength. My approach is compassionate, collaborative, and grounded in a developmental perspective that honors each woman’s unique story. I integrate psychoeducation with evidence-based therapies to help clients better understand themselves, build resilience, and reconnect with their inner strength. Whether you're navigating a major life change, healing from past wounds, or seeking a deeper sense of self-worth, I’m here to support your growth and healing.

Hi there:) My name is Lauren. I’ve been providing therapy for about 11 years now. I have experience with just about every population from school age to the elder years. I believe strongly in the mind/body connection and the utilization of a holistic, client centered approach to address both physical and mental health as they both work in conjunction to promote quality of life. I am passionate about helping others learn the skills they need in order to evolve into the best version of themselves.

Hi there! My name is Angelica, and as the founder of Root & Bloom Counseling, I have created this space with a belief in your innate capacity for growth and healing. My passion is to help individuals to cultivate a life of profound well-being. I am a Licensed Clinical Social Worker dedicated to supporting individuals through life challenges. With nearly 10 years of experience, my work focuses on helping you navigate the complexities of trauma, grief, anxiety, and depression.

Hi, my name is Vanessa, and I’m a licensed therapist based in Florida. I specialize in supporting individuals through trauma, anxiety, depression, and life transitions. With over six years of experience, I’ve had the privilege of working with a diverse group of clients as they navigate life changes, heal from past experiences, and face mental health challenges. I provide culturally responsive and compassionate care by meeting clients where they are—personally and emotionally. I believe therapy works best when it feels like a partnership, and I value building a strong therapeutic relationship where we collaborate on your goals. My experience includes working with a wide range of concerns such as interpersonal challenges, family dynamics, racial and ethnic identity issues, and adjustment disorders. No matter what brings you to therapy, I strive to create a safe, supportive space where you feel understood, empowered, and equipped to grow.

Hi -- my name is Sam, and I became a therapist because I know what it feels like to be stuck. It sucks. I love getting into the nitty gritty details of the mental chaos with my clients and then working on finding practical ways to untangle ourselves other than the classic "think positively" response (disclaimer: yes, it helps, but it's a lot more complicated than that). It's a lot of energy to work towards peace, I know, but I love what I do, and I'm more than willing to help.

I’m a licensed mental health counselor (License #MH25984) committed to helping individuals navigate life’s challenges with compassion, cultural understanding, and evidence-based care. Originally from South Africa, my path has taken me across continents—from Europe to the U.S., where I served as a medic in the Army. These diverse life experiences inform my work and deepen my dedication to healing. I specialize in treating anxiety, depression, trauma, and relationship issues. My approach is client-centered and collaborative, rooted in the belief that therapy should feel safe, supportive, and tailored to your unique needs. In our work together, I integrate cognitive-behavioral therapy (CBT), dialectical behavior therapy (DBT), acceptance and commitment therapy (ACT), mindfulness, and person-centered techniques to help you build insight, develop effective coping skills, and create meaningful change. Seeking support takes courage. Whether you're facing stress, life transitions, or struggles with self-esteem, I’m here to walk alongside you on your journey toward growth and healing. Let’s begin—reach out when you’re ready.

My name is Dr. Joseph, and I am a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist and Licensed Mental Health Counselor. I have a doctoral degree in Counselor Education and Supervision. I have been in the field for 21yrs. I love the opportunity to help clients navigate life's challenges. My priority and passion are to do what is best for the client as much as this is possible. My goal is to help clients to live their lives to their full potential. I find this to be very gratifying

I believe that effective therapy is built on insight, action, and compassion. I enjoy working with individuals who want better for themselves and are ready to move forward, even if they’re still figuring out where to begin. In therapy, I focus on building connection and trust, creating a space where you can feel safe to explore what’s really going on without judgment. Together, we’ll look at patterns that keep you feeling stuck and find supportive, practical ways to start shifting them right away—so you can feel more grounded, authentic, and empowered in your life.

Hey there...My name is Tiffany Hall. I absolutely LOVE therapy. I am a mother of four, 20+ years in education and 10+ years in therapy! I believe that we all need therapy and that it is just a conversation. My approach to therapy is direct and solution focused with a sprinkle of warmth, humor and compassion. I combine CBT, mindfulness, reality, and motivational interviewing to help my clients get to a place where they are healthy and happy.

Hi, I’m Trish. Life can feel really heavy at times—whether it’s stress from work, changes in relationships, past experiences that still affect you, or just the day-to-day feeling of being stuck. You don’t have to figure it all out on your own. My role is to walk alongside you, offering support, tools, and a safe place where you can process what’s happening and start to feel more like yourself again.

I work with people who are ready to slow down, look inward, and truly start feeling more like themselves again. I specialize in helping with anxiety, depression, and life transitions like break ups and divorce, job loss, or starting something new. My goal as a therapist is to help people figure out how to feel better, find out more about themselves, and face tough decisions.

Welcome to my profile! Thank you for being here. I am Crystal, and I am a Licensed Clinical Social Worker. I am excited that you are ready to embark on a journey self care focused on improving overall health and wellness. I would love to collaborate with you on this incredible and transformative journey! Therapy is about curating a safe space where you can be your authentic self, while crafting intentional goals that assist you in becoming the very best version of yourself. I bring a wealth of professional experience that is both culturally aware, and non judgmental.

Hello! I am a licensed clinical social worker with over 10 years experience helping people see their value, manage their emotions and feel empowered. I am licensed in Georgia, North Carolina and Florida. I am a retired Air Force Veteran who has a passion for those who serve, whether it is military service or serving your family. I have experience helping people with depression, anxiety, grief, anger management, phase of life stressors, relationship conflict and self-esteem concerns. I am also very passionate about my relationship with Christ and love helping other build their relationship with Christ along with managing life circumstances. I love helping others find a balance physically, mentally, emotionally, socially and spiritually. Seeking help can be scary, my desire is to ease that fear and to help you laugh, feel comfortable and confident whatever environment you find yourself in.

Welcome! I work with adults who are navigating the challenges of anxiety, depression, self-esteem issues, and trauma. My ideal client is someone ready to explore their thoughts and feelings in a safe, supportive environment. If you’re seeking to understand yourself better, develop coping strategies, and foster personal growth, you’re in the right place. Together, we can work towards healing and empowerment, helping you to create a fulfilling and balanced life.

Beverly holds a Master’s Degree in Psychology from Radford University and a Bachelor’s Degree in Psychology from Appalachian State University. As a Licensed Clinical Mental Health Counselor Supervisor in North Carolina, a Licensed Professional Counselor in Virginia and a Trauma certified clinician, she has more than 15 years of experience providing mental health counseling to a wide variety of people. Prior to joining Teladoc, Beverly served as clinical director for a psychiatric hospital, as well as regional director for a community mental health agency. She spent more than 5 years working as a clinician with active-duty military members and their families at both Camp Lejeune and MCAS Cherry Point. Beverly is passionate about providing mental health care for those in need. A native of North Carolina, Beverly moved to the eastern part of the state in 2007 to enjoy the laid-back beach lifestyle. In addition to spending time with her husband, daughter and her fur babies, Beverly loves boating, fishing and anything else you can do on the water.

Are you struggling with intense emotions that keep you exhausted and depleted? I understand the struggle and how frustrated or hopeless you may feel. Life can be demanding at times. Asking for help takes courage and can be the turning point to achieving wellness, peace and fulfillment. Perfection does not exist and we cannot make all our problems go away, but 
Psychotherapy can give you the skills to cope and exert your true self so that you can thrive and take control of your life.

I am a compassionate and dedicated professional, guided by a strong sense of humanism and a genuine vocation for helping others. I believe that a good life is not a fixed state, but an ongoing process—a direction rather than a destination. I see therapy as a meaningful path toward self-awareness and personal growth. It offers an opportunity to better understand yourself, redefine challenges, and transform them into learning experiences. Entering therapy requires courage, commitment, and openness, and through that process, real and lasting change becomes possible.

Much of my professional experience includes a vast range of ages including children, adolescents, young adults, and seniors. I value the importance of community connections by reducing the stigma of mental health in organizations as well as stress reduction techniques. I enjoy working with couples, and families who are struggling in communication. I specialize in overcoming life difficulties including trauma, grief and loss, relationship issues, ADD/ADHD, Depression, Anxiety, coping skills, self-esteem, infertility, family conflict and unexpected birthing outcomes. As well as overcoming perinatal/ maternal post-partum disorders. I am a compassionate bilingual licensed clinical social worker who has served the SWFL community for over 16 years. She is also a qualified supervisor and a mentor for those seeking clinical supervision for licensure. Carolina Ferrer is a unique psychotherapist who incorporates, body, mind and body practices as well as group meetings connections

My name is Claudia Ewald. I am a Licensed Clinical Social Worker with 20 years of experience practicing psychotherapy in South Florida. I received my Bachelor's degree in International Relations from Beloit College, Wisconsin, and my Master's in Social Work from Florida International University. Populations that I have served include victims and perpetrators of domestic violence, at-risk girls, homeless individuals and families, adolescents with co-occurring disorders, college students, convicted felons and a wide variety of clients in private practice.

John Checkett is the first man in history to earn a master's degree in Women's Studies in Florida. How many times has this happened to you: You've made an innocent remark, and the other person distorts it and blames you for the distortion, not for what you actually said. That's called the Strawman Argument and is a common problem of communication -- communication typically being the single biggest problem couples have. Communication is one of the social sciences, and one of John's specialties, along with Women's Studies, Pastoral Psychology and Clinical Social Work. He helps high-functioning men and women free themselves from low self-esteem and negative thinking. As a former officer in the Theosophical Society and a former professional psychic, he firmly believes in the value of Spirituality to Mental Health. He can also help with exercise and nutrition, to help create a holistically healthy situation for you. Whether you're dealing with anxiety or depression, relationship problems, or just feel overwhelmed, Prof Checkett is here to help -- even with time management! You might feel bit nervous about starting therapy, but he's extremely easy to talk to, knowledgeable in a wide variety of subjects, and very media-literate. Most people feel better after a session. In a short time we can get you unstuck and back to living a happy life again.

Hi, I’m William Barney, LMHC. I am a Licensed Mental Health Counselor with experience supporting individuals, couples, and families through challenges such as anxiety, depression, trauma, and relationship difficulties. My approach is collaborative and evidence-based, drawing from modalities like Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT) and Dialectical Behavior Therapy (DBT) to help clients build coping skills, improve emotional regulation, and create meaningful, lasting change in their lives. I strive to provide a safe, supportive space where clients feel heard, understood, and empowered on their journey toward wellness.

Hi! I'm Jenn and I am a licensed mental health counselor based in Tampa, Florida. I have over 15 years of clinical experience working with people struggling with depression, anxiety, complex trauma and substance abuse as well as those just having difficulties dealing with everyday life. I enjoy working with adults, adolescents and children and love watching people increase self-awareness and create sustainable change in their lives. I specialize in Cognitive Behavioral Therapy, Trauma-Focused CBT and Acceptance and Commitment Therapy. I use these modalities in individual, family and group settings. I take an individualized approach to every client I work with. Everyone has a unique story to tell I am here to listen and help them work through any challenges. My goal is to see my clients reach their highest potential. I want to equip them with the tools they need to succeed in all areas. I want to empower them to identify the things that could be blocking them and how to break though. My clients appreciate my authentic and genuine approach to treatment. I am truly passionate about what I do! I am excited about the opportunity to work with you!

Stephanie believes that everyone is deserving of a safe place to work through life’s difficulties so she strives to create a warm, welcoming environment that promotes one’s highest potential. Stephanie has walked alongside many young adults, mature adults, and couples through difficult periods of life, transitions, and choices. Stephanie understands that no single approach is the right one for every individual so is trained in a range of modalities. She views therapy as a joint venture where combined knowledge and skills are used to determine the best path of treatment and successful outcomes. A large portion of her work is with people across gender, cultural, and sexuality spectrum.

Hello, I am a Licensed Clinical Social Worker with 24 years of experience with a variety of individuals, partners, and family units. I received my master's degree in social work in 1998 from Florida State University. I am open to work with anyone who has a desire to grow and learn about themselves and others. My shared goal is to partner with folks on informed choice and decision making in life.

My name is Susana Mejia Vargas. I am a fully bilingual (English and Spanish) Licensed Clinical Social Worker (LCSW), and my main focus is to help clients with unresolved trauma. Depending on how you are affected, trauma can cause difficulties in your daily life, such as hopelessness, anxiety, depression, sleep disorders, constant irritability, and stress. I help my clients better understand the challenging aspects of traumatic events that are affecting their emotional and mental health. I will make clinical judgments about how to proceed in certain situations, but you are an expert on yourself, even if you don't feel that way.