Therapists in New York

Walesca Marmolejos is a Licensed Clinical Social Worker and has over a decade of experience working with individuals and groups across the lifespan. Walesca's approach is holistic, relational, collaborative, and trauma informed. Walesca is also a certified yoga instructor who believes in focusing on the whole individual (mind AND body), not just their circumstances. Walesca's approach is open, relational, and collaborative. An environment that is safe and non-judgmental, where a person can develop a sense of trust and well-being is a priority and of utmost importance. Together, we take a deeply personal journey, exploring possibilities and facing what has been difficult. The goal is to help you heal and guide you toward increased self-knowledge and emotional comfort. Walesca offers supportive counseling and psychotherapy for individuals including children/adolescents dealing with stress, depression, grief and loss, and family issues and one of my chief areas of interest is in the field of trauma. I offer evening hours and virtual sessions only.

A genuine and progressive therapist with real world experience. Authenticity. Self-acceptance. Empathy. Mutual trust and respect. These are the cornerstones of my approach! Not ready to book a session? Learn more about me on Instagram @patricelcsw or Psychology Today (https://www.psychologytoday.com/profile/1077447). Send me a message and we'll chat to see if we're a good fit. I embrace an affirming approach to therapy which includes validation and advocacy across the spectrum of gender identity and sexual orientation. As a Racial Justice Ally, I make efforts to open up healing discussions around race in therapy and take a de-centering approach to addressing the impact of racial injustice in our society. You are the expert in your own life experiences. I will listen and explore in a way that creates a safe space for healing and diving deeper into what weighs you down. My aim is to empower you, helping you tap into your inner strength and wisdom. Your journey towards resilience is a personal one, and I am here to support you in uncovering the strength that has always resided within you. With over two decades of experience as a Licensed Clinical Social Worker, I bring a wealth of knowledge and expertise in the field of mental health. I am well-versed in various Evidence Based Treatment Models. Healing is not one size fits all. So, we will work together to find the approach that fits you.

My current focus is working with adults on a variety of concerns such as anxiety, depression, trauma, and general life stressors that have become overwhelming. I assist with processing events, healing from emotional pain, and learning effective coping skills. I earned a Bachelor’s Degree in Psychology from the State University of NY at Oneonta and then a Master's Degree from Sage Graduate Schools.

I am a Licensed Mental Health Counselor (LMHC) with over 10 years of experience working with adults in clinical, school-based, and telehealth settings. I support individuals and couples navigating anxiety, depression, life transitions, and self-esteem concerns. My approach is supportive and strengths-based, and when clients desire, I thoughtfully integrate spirituality as a resource for coping, meaning, and emotional well-being overall.

I believe people thrive when they feel heard and cared for, and that belief is at the heart of my practice. In our work together, we’ll explore challenging thoughts, feelings, and life experiences—including relationship dynamics, trauma, and stress—with compassion and clarity. I listen deeply, and collaboratively develop coping strategies that support healing, resilience, and meaningful growth. My goal is to create a non-judgmental space where you feel supported, understood, and empowered to thrive.

I am a counselor with four years of experience supporting clients through practical, honest, and compassionate therapy. I take a straightforward approach that helps people recognize unhelpful patterns, build effective coping skills, and create lasting change. I believe clients already have the strengths to make meaningful changes and my role is to provide guidance and support along the way. I value connection, collaboration, and empowering clients with tools they can use in their everyday lives.

I have been in practice 35+ years as a social worker and therapist. My training is in pyschoanalytic psychotherapy and CBT along with holistic gestalt techniques. My practice covers a wide demographic of all ages. At the core I intend to help patients develop a greater self esteem, undo early and ongoing emotional losses, and feel safe in our work together. 

I am a licensed therapist providing trauma-informed care to adults experiencing anxiety, depression, trauma, substance use concerns, and relationship challenges. I employ an eclectic, client-centered approach that integrates psychoeducation with evidence-based interventions to help clients gain a deeper understanding of their emotional and behavioral patterns. My work focuses on building insight, strengthening coping and regulation skills, and supporting meaningful, sustainable change that improves overall well-being and quality of life.

I worked for 15 years in a hospital, providing individual, family, and group psychotherapy. I had the privilege of working with clients from all over the world, with different backgrounds and of various age groups. Currently, I transitioned to work privately providing telehealth therapy. I believe compassion, caring, and the therapeutic alliance are most important in the helping process. These are the core values informing my practice. I use a gentle and creative approach in guiding my clients on their healing journey. I draw from various therapeutic approaches depending on the clients' needs, stage of therapy, and mental health issue. For example, for Bipolar disorder, I combine interpersonal, supportive and CBT modalities in a collaborative and empathic setting. Most importantly, I believe that compassion, openness and acceptance, build a strong therapeutic alliance, key to maximizing a client’s successful outcome.

Your mind never stops. You overthink, you carry everything alone, and you are tired of feeling like you have to hold it together. You have spent years being strong and doing what needs to be done. On the outside you handle life, but inside you may feel anxious, overwhelmed, or unsure how to stop repeating old patterns. You do not want to just survive anymore. You want clarity, peace, confidence, and healthier relationships with yourself and others.

My counseling style is warm, caring, and interactive. I create a safe, stigma-free environment where all clients are treated with respect, dignity, and compassion. I work to form a treatment plan in coordination with the client so that we can have the most successful counseling relationship possible. Together we can begin to create a space where they feel seen, heard, and understood. As we discover potential underlying issues, I integrate cognitive behavioral therapy with strength-based approach to help people change their thoughts, feelings, and patterns of behavior to improve their current situation and their work and interpersonal relationships.

Hello, my name is Linda Pelosi, LCSW-R, and thank you so much for stopping by my profile. I am truly excited to meet you and see whether we are a great fit for the work ahead. Couples therapy is my niche, and I have been dedicated to this work for 35 years. Over these decades, I have gained deep wisdom, perspective, and compassion from the many couples I’ve had the privilege to support. What I bring to the table is a unique ability to see each partner as an individual with their own story, needs, wounds, and strengths — and to understand how those experiences shape the couple dynamic. I work collaboratively and wholeheartedly, walking beside you as we explore new ways to bring your relationship into a healthier, more connected, and thriving place. I look forward to the possibility of working with you soon.

Welcome! I'm a licensed mental health counselor based in New York. I'm also a Credentialed Alcoholism and Substance Abuse Counselor and Licensed Art Therapist. My practice is primarily psychodynamic while incorporating elements of cognitive and behavioral therapies as needed to assist in restructuring self-defeating patterns. My role is to travel your path with you, to create a space and relationship that is welcoming and safe.

Hello! I am Yesenia. Thank you for taking the time to view my profile and most importantly for taking the time to seek assistance with your journey. I am a psychotherapist with 13 years of experience and it would be my pleasure to help you achieve serenity in your life. I received my clinical training from New York University and have 2 clinical licenses. I have experience working with Depression, Anxiety, mood disorders, addictions, marital troubles, difficult family dynamics among other issues that may prevent clients from living their best life. What you can expect from me as your therapist is full confidentiality, acceptance, commitment, empathy and guidance. I welcome you to view me as your guide through your path to happiness. I am confident that by working together, we can achieve your ultimate goal.

Taking the first step toward personal growth is a brave and meaningful decision, and I’m here to support you on that journey. I hold a Master’s in Psychology from St. Francis College and a Certificate of Advanced Study in Mental Health Counseling from Alfred University. As a Clinical Supervisor, I have had the privilege of supporting individuals through life's challenges and mentoring future therapists. I specialize in working with people who are ready to look inward, whether you're navigating anxiety, healing from trauma, or simply trying to understand yourself more fully. My goal is to create a space where you feel safe to explore what you’re carrying without judgment, shame, or pressure to fix yourself. With training in trauma-informed care, multicultural counseling and psychopathology, I bring both heart and skill to the work that we'll do together.

I am a Licensed Mental Health Counselor, dual licensed in New York and Florida. I am also a certified New York MASTER CASAC and a Florida MCAP for substance abuse. I have been in the field since 2014 and I help those who struggle with substance use, anxiety, day to day life, returning from incarceration/military into the community, mood swings, and depression. I can help you reach your goals at you own pace through guidance and positive reinforcement. I look forward to watching you grow and succeed

I am a Licensed Mental Health Counselor (LMHC) in New York and Licensed Professional Counselor (LPC) in New Jersey. I have over 20 years of experience working with individuals and families in foster care and program settings. I have worked with individuals in a private practice setting for 10 years and currently work with individuals using a telehealth platform.

Hi! I am a Licensed Mental Health Counselor (LMHC & LPC) based in Connecticut. I support my clients through life’s inevitable stressors and help them to understand themselves better, all while maintaining a culturally sensitive and empathetic approach so you may feel most supported. I have experience in working with anxiety, adjustment, trauma, anger management, depression, relationship issues, life transitions, and in providing career and academic guidance. It is my aim to bring compassion, insight, and everyday coping tools to my work with you; using an integrated approach of person centered therapy, cognitive-behavioral therapy (CBT), and mindfulness practice. Therapy can be a challenging yet life-changing process. If my approach resonates with you, I encourage you to reach out. Taking that first step is often the hardest!

I predominantly work with young men struggling with social anxiety disorder. Do you struggle with social anxiety and poor self-confidence? I know that overcoming it is possible! Many come to therapy for social anxiety because of childhood trauma and how it has manifested in their adult lives. Often this manifests in feelings of poor self-confidence, poor self-worth, and poor self-confidence. At its root, the fundamental belief of those who have social anxiety is the belief, “I am not enough.” Clients get into the habit of comparing themselves to others and it makes them feel inadequate and insecure. Over time clients begin to avoid situations that elicit their anxiety, particularly social situations. This can lead to social isolation and loneliness. Clients will present with complaints of frequent panic attacks, not having a romantic partner, not having friends, not being happy in their jobs and feeling disconnected from life. They are labeled by others as shy, quiet, or introverted. This scenario described myself for much of my life which gives me lived experience to better able to assist you. I help individuals combat their social fears and begin to live a rich and fulfilling life. I do this through cognitive behavioral therapy techniques primarily but also integrate solution-focused therapy, assertiveness training, exposure therapy, and acceptance & commitment therapy. Whether you're a teen struggling to make friends and socialize or you are an adult unable to speak up at work meetings or unable to ask someone out on a date, I'm here for you! Seeking therapy can be frightening but I want to assure you that you will be most welcome if you take that leap of faith!

Hi! I am originally from Massachusetts and I have lived in Canada, New York and now Texas. I am a Licensed Clinical social worker (LCSW) in both New York and Texas. I received my masters degree from CUNY Hunter College in New York in 2014. I have worked with adults and children at schools, hospitals, non profit centers and in the ER during times of crisis.

Are you feeling overwhelmed, stuck, or weighed down by life’s challenges? Whether you are struggling with depression, anxiety, substance use, trauma, relationship issues, or the stress of everyday life, you do not have to go through it alone. My name is Michael, and I am a licensed therapist with over a decade of experience helping people from all walks of life find clarity, healing, and growth. I have worked extensively with individuals facing depression, anxiety, bipolar disorder, substance use and recovery, childhood and relational trauma, men’s issues, self worth, identity struggles, and relationship difficulties. My approach is compassionate, practical, and supportive. I focus on meeting you where you are and working together to untangle what feels overwhelming, while giving you tools that create real change. Therapy with me is not about quick fixes but about building a life that feels balanced, meaningful, and authentic. I also understand the importance of creativity and personal expression. My background in the arts has shown me how vital it is to have outlets for what we carry inside. Many of my clients are artists, performers, and writers, but creativity is not required. What matters is that you are a human being with a story, and I am here to help you move forward with strength and clarity. When we work together you will find a therapist who listens without judgment, asks thoughtful questions, and collaborates with you to find solutions that fit your life. I look forward to meeting you, learning your story, and helping you take the next step toward healing and growth.

Hi, I'm Copley I specialize in individual, family and couples counseling. I especially enjoy helping women who seek assistance coping with depression, anxiety and/or struggles with self-worth and relationships. I especially enjoy helping women and others in need of therapeutic support. I am comfortable treating depression, anxiety, anger, self-esteem issues, adjustment and career concerns. I typically integrate multiple clinical approaches based on what my client's goals are and what preferences they may have. I include CBT, motivational interviewing, person centered, Adlerian, Jungian, Freudian. I create a safe, nonjudgmental space for clients to be themselves and growth into their coping skills. What attracted me to being a therapist was the beauty is helping others reach their personal goals. I too had great therapist and wanted to be a helper for others

Hi I am a Licensed Clinical Social Worker based in Long Island New York. I have been practicing professionally for the past 25+ years and work closely with adults and young adults who are struggling with career stressors and interpersonal relationship issues. I work to help them to become the best versions of themselves. I have long standing relationships in the community and currently work as a manager of a large team of social workers and maintain a thriving private practice.

I am a Licensed Mental Health Counselor who blends warmth, honesty, direct feedback, and evidence-based strategies to help clients feel more grounded and in control of their lives. I work with people navigating anxiety, stress, and big life transitions, and I focus on giving you practical tools you can use right away while still holding space for deeper reflection and growth.

As a social worker, I am committed to providing compassionate, client-centered support grounded in respect, integrity, and collaboration. I work to create a safe and welcoming environment where individuals feel heard and empowered. My practice focuses on understanding each person’s unique experiences while offering practical, strengths-based strategies to support growth and resilience. I value clear communication, consistency, and advocacy, and I strive to build meaningful partnerships with those I serve. Clients can expect professionalism, empathy, and a thoughtful approach tailored to their specific goals. Choosing to work with me means partnering with someone who is dedicated to promoting well-being and supporting positive, lasting change.

I'm a Licensed Clinical Social Worker (LCSW) based in New York I’m dedicated to empowering clients. I provide a compassionate space for healing and voice. I help clients identify the emotions that keep them stuck. I am here to help you unlock that potential. Together, we will forge a path toward confidence, empowerment, and healthy coping strategies. From age 15, my dedication to psychotherapy became evident. I passionately believe in the transformative power of healing and resilience. My life's mission is to support those navigating trauma, anxiety, significant relationship challenges, and self-doubt.

Here’s a clean, warm **three-sentence intro** that works perfectly for a Grow Therapy profile and still feels like *you*: I am a Licensed Clinical Social Worker who uses Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT) to help clients understand the connection between their thoughts, emotions, and behaviors. I take a collaborative, strengths-based approach to support clients in building practical coping skills, improving emotional regulation, and creating meaningful change. My work is trauma-informed, culturally responsive, and focused on helping clients feel empowered, supported, and confident in their growth.

Mateja Petje is a Holistic Psychotherapist, Clinical Hypnotist, and Stress Management coach with 20 years of experience working with adults who are struggling with depression, anxiety, chronic stress, mild PTSD, OCD, relationship issues, love addiction, narcissistic abuse, codependency, and life transitions. Her special interest is working with adults who have experienced childhood abuse and trauma and still affect their lives (this is now known as complex PTSD or C-PTSD). She also equips her clients with top behavioral techniques to manage stress and daily challenges using a holistic and integrative medicine approach that includes EFT tapping, NLP, and hypnosis. Please note hypnosis and NLP self-pay only. INDIVIDUAL SESSION ONLY please no family or couples therapy.

As a therapist, I understand the importance of providing individualized care to those struggling with anxiety, depression, trauma, and other mental health concerns. My goal is to empower my clients to overcome these challenges and improve their overall well-being. To achieve this, I utilize a combination of evidence-based therapies, including Cognitive-Behavioral Therapy (CBT), and an eclectic approach that takes into account each clients unique circumstances and needs. By working together, we can identify and challenge negative thought patterns and develop new, healthier coping mechanisms. In addition to CBT, I may also incorporate other therapeutic approaches, such as mindfulness, narrative therapy, and religious and spiritual exploration. My ultimate goal is to provide a safe and supportive environment where clients can feel heard, understood, and empowered to make positive changes in their lives.

Hello!!! I'm a Christian Psychotherapist, a Licensed Clinical Social Worker (LCSW) based in Miami, Florida. I received my Masters from the Florida International University in 2002 and have been practicing for 6 years. I assist young adults struggling with life choices, couples with relationship issues, family unit to function correctly, single parent with parenting skills all with biblically values. Individuals that suffer from anxiety, depression, or low motivation for the things that create a rich and meaningful life.

Hi! I'm an LPCC in CA and an LMHC in NY, currently living in Los Angeles. I work with teens through adults, and am very eclectic in my approach, mixing mindfulness, breathwork, meditation, somatic work, CBT, trauma work, emotionally-focused, solution-focused and IFS. I was an opera singer, am very comfortable working with all kinds of performers, and also teach yoga. Would love to meet you! How can clients contact my intake team? Call: +1 (786) 244-7711 Email: reception+Sondra17965@growtherapy.com

I'm a Licensed Professional Counselor (LPC) and Licensed Mental Health Counselor (LMHC) based in Virginia. I received my Bachelor's Degree from the University of Florida and my Master's Degree from Adelphi University in New York. I have been in this field for 15 years and in private practice for 13 years. I specialize in anxiety, am currently writing a book on it, and am fiercely passionate about how readily clients can create the changes they desire.

I work with adults navigating stress, anxiety, relationship challenges, identity concerns, and life transitions. I take a whole-person approach, looking at how your thoughts, emotions, body, and daily habits all connect. My approach is supportive, culturally responsive, and grounded in real-life experiences. I aim to create a safe, nonjudgmental space where you can feel heard, explore your challenges, and develop practical ways to feel more balanced, confident, and connected in your everyday life. Therapy with me is about understanding you, not fixing you, and helping you make meaningful changes at your own pace.

I'm an LCSW who believes therapy works best when it feels thoughtful, supportive and collaborative. I value creating a space where people can slow down, reflect and better understand themselves without pressure or judgement. I believe meaningful change happens through understanding yourself more deeply, building self-compassion and feeling supported along the way. I use an insight-oriented, trauma informed approach, integrating practical skills when helpful to support lasting change.

I am a Licensed Clinical Social Worker and have worked with individuals and couples seeking counseling for over 9 years, both online and in private practice. It will be my pleasure to have the privilege of working with you. In providing psychotherapy my goal is to support and empower Clients to resolve concerns/challenges and to gain skills to use going forward. I offer a confidential and safe space where you can feel comfortable discussing your concerns.

Hi, I’m Erin. I’ve been supporting clients therapeutically for over seven years, with a primary focus on youth and young adults. I believe deeply in the power of relationships and family systems to shape who we are and how we heal. My approach is warm, collaborative, and grounded in curiosity. I draw from family systems, cognitive-behavioral, and strengths-based frameworks to help clients explore challenges and build resilience. While much of my work centers around supporting youth, I welcome individuals and families of all ages who are seeking connection, clarity, and growth. I’m passionate about creating a safe, compassionate space where people can be seen, heard, and supported as they navigate life’s complexities.

I'm a relatable, no-fluff therapist who brings a bit of quirk, fun, warmth, and authenticity to session. I have a passion for real, human conversations and believe healing works best when you can show exactly who you are. I am a Clinical Social Worker with 8yr of experience. I graduated from Binghamton University with my MSW, and have professional experience with people of all ages in a community mental health setting.

I've tried to live my life by the word "YES", which I wrote on the rear of my VW van in the 70's. As I've aged this has shown me the way through many difficulties. I studied Psychology in the 70's, eventually leaving doctoral work to open a Stained Glass studio and eventually obtained a second MA degree in Social Work. leading to my work here. Along the way I've garnered many different paths of therapeutic work and learned how to use them to fit the clients I work with.

Hi! I'm a Jamaican Licensed Clinical Social Worker (LCSW) based in New York. I received my Masters from the University at Albany (SUNY) and have been practicing over 8 years. I work with adults (18+) on an individual basis who are dealing with depression, anxiety, adjustment, and stress-related disorders. I like to work with the whole person utilizing my background in Medical Social Work to address Medical Comorbidities that impact a person's emotional and mental well-being.

Everyone needs help and it's OK to not be OK. I specialize in life transitions/new life roles, relationships, family issues, boundaries, parenting, and any stressors in your world. I provide a caring and safe place to talk through your concerns, challenges and barriers. I have extensive experience treating anxiety, depression, trauma, ADHD, self esteem issues, relationships, LGBQT, and mood disorders. I always emphasis the importance of self-care and will help you develop personal methods.

I am a Licensed Therapist from New York City practicing my skills for over 28 years. I received my Masters Degree in Social Work at Fordham University. I have conducted therapy in English/Spanish. My experience is broad with all age range. I have conducted Cognitive Behavioral Therapy, thought-stopping and reframing to positive thoughts with rumination, and obsessive thought process as well as with other therapies.. My approach is to listen to your inner most thoughts and emotions by providing a safe and warm environment. I am firm about directing your path to a place of strength and healing with talk therapy. We will journey together to identify what works best for you for to reduce stressors in your life. You are the creator of your story and know your obstacles which challenge you. Taking this first step, will help you become more relaxed and empowered to enjoy a more fulfilling life. I am here to support you in this very exciting next chapter in your life journey.

I am an Licensed Clinical Social Worker in NY, CT, and NJ. I have worked with clients to help them overcome stress, anxiety, depression, LGBTQ+ identity, and depression. I enjoy working with individuals who want to work on healing to become a better self and accomplish their goals. I specifically love working with men who identify as gay and/or bisexual having increased stress and need talk therapy.

Welcome! Thank you for considering working together with me to reach your goals. I work with issues related to depression, anxiety, goals, interpersonal relationships, self-esteem, boundaries, stress, anger, conflict, and philosophical/spiritual issues. I see clients of all orientations and cultural/ethnic backrounds. I am respectful of all religious traditions as well as secular and philosophical traditions. I work with individuals, couples, families and children/teens. My aproach to therapy is: Direct Respectful Non-judgmental Solution-focused Empowering Positive In the short term you should feel better going out than you did coming in. Over the long term, you should feel more empowered, clearer, more self-supporting, more compassionate with yourself and more skilled with others. I look forward to working together with you! Sincerely, Miriam Mendelson, LMHC, PhD (Dr. Mimi)

I am a Licensed Clinical Social Worker providing therapy through Kaiser insurance for adults who are emotionally reflective, high-functioning, and interested in trauma-informed, nervous-system-based work. Many of the clients I work with appear capable and successful on the outside, yet feel internally overwhelmed, stuck, or disconnected due to long-standing emotional or relational patterns. My work is depth-oriented, collaborative, and accountability-based, supporting clients who want to understand themselves more fully and engage consistently in the therapeutic process.

I'm a NY based licensed marriage and family therapist and creative art therapist with over 20 year of experience helping individuals and couples navigate life's challenges. In a warm, supportive and collaborate space, i help clients address relationship conflicts, anxiety, depression, and life transitions. Together, we create practical tools, strengthen connections and build healthier , fulling lives. My approach combines evidence based techniques with a personalized, compassionate touch to empower you to feel understood, supported and ready to thrive.

I am a Licensed Clinical Social Worker in New York State and have a PhD in Clinical Psychology. My 36+ years of experience working with teens, young adults, and their families afford me the opportunity to empathize and relate to a broad range of individuals and their families. While helping people achieve long lasting change, I try to make counseling pleasant and enjoyable. I empower my clients to recognize the comfort and enjoyment of the here and now as we journey through life’s trials and tribulations. I am LGBTQIA affirming. Focusing on harm reduction, I utilize a client-centered approach, working from a systems perspective, to help families resolve their internal and external conflicts in a holistic manner. We will work together to help you meet your parenting goals. From my perspective, one’s mind, body and spirit must be strong, healthy and in sync for one to be truly happy and feel fulfilled.

Reaching out to a therapist can be an overwhelming experience. I provide a safe and non-judgmental environment for my clients to process their thoughts and emotions. My therapeutic approach is eclectic and tailored to meet my client’s needs. I have a Master of Education in Mental Health Counseling from Hunter College and a background in finance and advertising, which helps me understand the pressures of high-stress environments.

As an LCSW specializing in EMDR, DBT, CBT, and addiction treatment, I work with individuals to help them heal from past trauma, manage difficult emotions, and break free from unhealthy patterns. I offer evidence-based therapies like EMDR to process trauma and DBT and CBT to build coping skills and promote emotional regulation. My goal is to support you in making lasting changes, improving relationships, and achieving a healthier, more fulfilling life

Hello! I’m Michelina, though you can call me Michelle. I’m a Licensed Clinical Social Worker (LCSW) with 12 years of experience, based in Pennsylvania. I hold a Master’s degree from Fordham University, and my focus is on helping adults navigate the challenges of anxiety and depression. Together, we work as a team to manage symptoms and guide you toward becoming the best version of yourself.

Hi, my name is Samantha and I enjoy the work that I do with my clients. I always say it is a privilege to be a part of someone's journey towards healing and to get to see the vulnerability that therapy opens people to. I am a compassionate therapist that provides space to build in trust and safety for the opportunity of change to grow. Together we can embark on your journey to well-being and grow into the version of yourself you are aspiring to be.