Self Esteem Therapists in Iowa

Finding a therapist who specializes in self-esteem can be essential for building confidence, fostering self-acceptance, and improving personal resilience. With 28 verified therapists in Iowa who focus on self-esteem support, you can filter by therapeutic approaches such as cognitive behavioral therapy, supportive counseling, and solution-focused therapy to address self-worth, negative self-talk, and personal growth. Each Grow Therapy-verified therapist is currently accepting new clients and has upcoming availability, providing timely access to the support needed to cultivate a stronger, more positive self-image.

Availability updated: 6/5/2025

Charles King

(he/him)

Charles King, LMFT - Iowa Therapist at Grow Therapy
$150/session
LMFT
4 years of experience
Virtual
I am a husband of 13 years, a father of a 10 y/o neurodivergent son and a 6 y/o precocious daughter, a veteran of the US Navy with 12 years served, including 1 deployment, and a geek. I am what the Japanese culture describes as an otaku, in that I work to support my passions. In my free time I enjoy video games (mostly on Nintendo Switch), movies (all kinds, although my favorite is the 2005 animated Transformers movie), books (current favorite author is Brandon Sanderson), and spending time with my family.

Trent Eisenbeisz

(he/him)

Trent Eisenbeisz, LISW - Iowa Therapist at Grow Therapy
$95/session
LISW
10 years of experience
Virtual
I am a licensed independent clinical social worker with over 13 years of experience working as a clinician, therapist , and crisis interventionist. I have worked with clients with a wide range of concerns including depression, anxiety, substance use problems, psychosis, and ADHD. I also helped people who have experienced trauma or emotional abuse. I would like to clarify my expertise does not include eating disorders, or pornography addiction as of yet, although I do understand some of the symptoms and causes. My therapy style is genuine and solution focused.. I believe in treating everyone with respect, sensitivity, and compassion. My approach is dialectal behavioral based with strengths perspective and motivational interviewing. Any treatment plan to meet your needs will be collaborative, timely, and with measurable goals. I have worked extensively in crisis intervention in the agency and on the streets, in hospitals, and in mental health courts and case management agencies, and have managed in this capacity. I also have many years experience related to substance use disorders and have worked as a therapist utilizing primarily Dialectical Behavioral Therapy as my main approach and utilizing Cognitive Behavior Therapy . Regardless of any experience, upbringing, current, or past situation, everyone has choices they can make that best serves them and the life they want to live. I look forward to working with you!

Aneka Spencer

(she/her)

Aneka Spencer, LISW - Iowa Therapist at Grow Therapy
$130/session
LISW
4 years of experience
Virtual
Hi, I’m Aneka Spencer, a Licensed Clinical Social Worker (LCSW) serving clients in Illinois. I earned my Master’s degree from Chicago State University in 2011 and have been a social worker for over 10 years, with more than 4 years of experience as a practicing therapist. If you’re looking for a compassionate therapist who truly listens, offers honest insight, and partners with you to create meaningful, lasting change—you’re in the right place. I work with adults who are ready to better understand themselves, manage emotional challenges, and strengthen their inner resilience. Many of my clients are navigating life transitions, dealing with anxiety or depression, experiencing high stress, or simply seeking a safe, supportive space to reflect and grow. I offer free initial meetings because I believe that the therapist-client connection is essential to meaningful work. We can schedule a brief 15–20 minute video call via Google Meet so you can get a sense of who I am and how I work. Let’s talk—your healing journey deserves the right support. https://calendly.com/aneka-f-spencer/20min

Brad Chamberlain

(he/him)

Brad Chamberlain, LISW - Iowa Therapist at Grow Therapy

Frequently rebooked

$79/session
LISW
12 years of experience
Virtual
I am Bradley Chamberlain, a licensed clinical social worker/mental health professional located in Iowa, but clinically licensed in IA, NE, CO and TX. You may also be seeing my LMSW Board Supervised Candidate Jonathan Chambers as well if you live in Iowa only. He is under my direct supervision and his license # is 124877, Iowa only. I work with individuals with ADHD, OCD, Trauma, anxiety and sexual concerns such as men's issue and polyamory. My treatment modalities focus on the individual and it's not a cookie cutter approach. I incorporate modalities like CBT, Mindfulness, Stages of Change, Trauma Informed Therapy and Solution Focus therapy, and with use YouTube, Insta and TikTok videos as supplements as well.

Kate Hindle

(she/her)

Kate Hindle, LISW - Iowa Therapist at Grow Therapy
$150/session
LISW
10 years of experience
Virtual
Hello and welcome! My name is Kate Hindle and I am a Licensed Clinical Social Worker. I have been practicing for about 9 years now and am a firm believer that the best way to help someone is to understand the person. Therefore, I take the time to get to know you, your struggles and goals to form a person-centered approach to our sessions.

Janice Frum

(she/her)

Janice Frum, LMHC - Iowa Therapist at Grow Therapy
$110/session
LMHC
13 years of experience
Virtual
Fully licensed and accepting new clients in NC, WI, and IA. Do you wish you could lessen the effects of emotional pain without having to relive it? Internal Family Sytems is an evidence-based, intrapsychic approach rooted in the multiplicity of mind, based in systems thinking, and a very psycho-spiritual (not religioous) approach. Using art & journal therapy, EFT & relaxation & meditation, we will work together to calm your mind and free parts of you that are frozen in time. I believe each of us have both a unique set of gifts and a world view shaped by past experiences and present circumstances. Let's get together and chat about how to quiet your mind and make your life more fulfilling. As an evidence-based relaxation and meditaiton trainer, I am uniquely qualified to help you learn to cope with grief, anxiety, past trauma, women's issues, and vicarious trauma experienced by veterans and first responders. My approach is eclectic, using interventions from a broad base of solidly-grounded, accepted theoretical orientations, including Cognitive Processing Therapy, an evidence-based, brief modality for resolving PTSD symptoms. I see clcients for anxiety, trauma, life transitions, and women's issues. Through sessions together, I will collaborate with you to assist you in recognizing your individual strengths and strive to empower you with the self-awareness and self-confidence to pursue your dreams. i also practice Internal Family Systems, a means of healing PTSD without having to revisit the event. this is evidence based and rooted in both Attachment Theory and Family Systems Therapy. I take a person-centered, creative, non-judgmental approach to creating a safe space for counseling sessions, allowing you to unburden yourself and share your goals, while helping you to see how your uniquely shaded lenses of experience have color your perceptions.

Dr. S. Kyle Cardwell

Dr. S. Kyle Cardwell, LMHC - Iowa Therapist at Grow Therapy
$225/session
LMHC
16 years of experience
Virtual
I’m Dr. S. Kyle Cardwell, a licensed mental health professional with over 15 years of experience providing therapy to teens, young adults, and adults. I specialize in helping people navigate anxiety, trauma, depression, OCD, identity concerns, and life transitions. I’ve worked extensively with adolescents in both outpatient and residential settings, and I understand the unique emotional, relational, and developmental challenges they face. In addition to my clinical work, I’ve also served in executive leadership roles—including as CEO of a residential treatment center for youth—where I oversaw program development, staff training, and systems-level implementation of trauma-informed care. My approach to therapy is both compassionate and direct. I offer a safe space for patients to speak freely, but I also ask meaningful questions and challenge patterns that may be holding them back. I use a range of evidence-based methods including CBT, DBT, EMDR, REBT, and psychodynamic principles, adapting treatment to meet the needs of each individual. For patients who wish, I can also integrate Christian faith into the process in a respectful and thoughtful way. Whether you’re feeling overwhelmed, stuck, or simply ready for change, I’m here to walk with you toward healing, clarity, and a more grounded life.

Katy Thompson

Katy Thompson, LISW - Iowa Therapist at Grow Therapy
$100/session
LISW
8 years of experience
Virtual
My name is Katy Thompson and I work to serve those that know they can do better, but don't seem to have the strength they need to pick themselves up out of the ditch. I'm a licensed Clinical Social Worker who believes that this world is hard, but inside of us is something greater just waiting to be expressed and proved through a more fulfilling life.

Lisa Talerico

Lisa Talerico, LP - Iowa Therapist at Grow Therapy
$200/session
LP
20 years of experience
Virtual
Hello and thank you for visiting my profile and for taking the time to learn about my psychotherapy practice. I am a Clinical Psychologist who provides a safe, trusting, nonjudgmental, and respectful environment in which my clients are able to work through their difficult issues. I provide individual psychotherapy, couples therapy, and family therapy. Throughout my career I have worked with individuals of all ages from a wide variety of cultures and backgrounds. In addition to my private practice, I have had the opportunity to work with children, adolescents, and adults in various settings such as school settings, residential programs, substance abuse programs, transitional living facilities, group homes, and hospital settings. My experiences in these settings enables me to bring valuable knowledge and resources to my clients in my private practice. I specialize in depression, anxiety, eating disorders, weight management, grief/loss, substance abuse, LGBT issues, adolescent issues (school, emotional, behavioral/family), young adult issues (career, transition, relationships), and personal growth.

Elexes Hetzel

(she/her)

Elexes Hetzel, LISW - Iowa Therapist at Grow Therapy
$100/session
LISW
7 years of experience
Virtual
Are you feeling frustrated and overwhelmed, as if you have lost control over your own life and are unsure how to get back on track? It happens to all of us sometimes. Our minds can be our biggest enemies, where our expectations get the best of us. Allow me to collaborate with you in order to unpack your thoughts and emotions to gradually make adjustments to help you become a stronger version of yourself. Whether you are struggling with a life transition, pregnancy and postpartum, caregiving for a loved one, grief and loss, anxiety or depression; I will work with you to process and navigate through these difficult times. I will empower you to find your strengths and use them to make a little progress every day.

Dena Sidmore-Seyer

(she/her)

Dena Sidmore-Seyer, LMHC - Iowa Therapist at Grow Therapy
$90/session
LMHC
15 years of experience
Virtual
Hi! I'm Dena (she/her). I have 15 years experience and truly love my vocation! I enjoy empowering individuals to achieve their goals and live their best lives. I believe everyone has the ability to heal, sometimes we all need a little help. I am passionate about the power of therapy to aid people in living their best, most authentic lives. I live on the tristate border and provide remote therapy for persons in Illinois and Iowa. An Iowa native, I spent about a decade living and working in SoCal and Phoenix before returning to the Midwest to be with my (now) husband and step kids. Yes, I left sunny San Diego, in December, for the snowy Midwest! The things we’ll do for love! I have personally benefitted greatly from therapy. I am Bi/queer, have ADHD, and several physical disabilities, all of which were diagnosed after college. Therapy helped me develop much needed coping skills so I could be successful in grad school and beyond. Therapy also helped me with the intense stressors related to being a young professional during the Great Recession. I continue to utilize therapy as part of my self care routine. If you are coping with symptoms of anxiety, depression, low self worth, or concerns related to ADHD or chronic health conditions, I would love the opportunity to work with you. I would love to help you to achieve a present no longer overshadowed by past traumas, negative self talk, or uncontrolled anxiety.

Jami Wood

(she/her)

Jami Wood, LISW - Iowa Therapist at Grow Therapy
$90/session
LISW
12 years of experience
Virtual
I'm passionate about working with adults coping with depression, relationship difficulties, substance use/co-occurring disorders, complicated family dynamics, career or academic challenges, life transitions, and the effects of trauma. In our work together, I'll incorporate reflection, curiosity, and humor alongside therapeutic modalities such as solution-focused therapy, mindfulness, and cognitive-behavioral therapy. I'll hold a safe, shame-free space for us where we can explore new ways to address unhelpful patterns, move through uncomfortable feelings, and be kinder to yourself. Therapy does not need to be scary nor dull. My clients would say I come across as competent and compassionate. No one deserves to do life alone. I look forward to being on your team and tackling challenges together one step at a time.

W Joseph (Joe) White

(he/him)

W Joseph (Joe) White, LMHC - Iowa Therapist at Grow Therapy

Frequently rebooked

$125/session
LMHC
26 years of experience
Virtual
Hi, I’m Joe. With 26 years of experience across outpatient and hospital settings, I help individuals and families navigate life’s challenges with compassion and clarity. I specialize in working with teens and families during times of transition, using a collaborative approach that focuses on building insight, connection, and resilience. Together, we’ll work to understand what’s getting in the way and develop the tools you need to move forward. I’m here to support your growth every step of the way.

Alyssa Coan

(she/her)

Alyssa Coan, LISW - Iowa Therapist at Grow Therapy
$175/session
LISW
12 years of experience
Virtual
I am a Clinical Social Worker that focuses on helping people who are experiencing anxiety or depression. I have been in this field for more than 10 years and love watching people I work with feel like they have control over their lives again. I believe that the body and brain hold onto experiences after certain events and might get hung up or even stuck. In my assessments, I determine how these impacts can reveal themselves in our behaviors and the decisions that we make every day. I work to help identify where the mind and body have gotten hung up and I use an eclectic “whole person” approach to unraveling these barrier areas in life.

Annie Bendgen

Annie Bendgen, LMHC - Iowa Therapist at Grow Therapy
$150/session
LMHC
5 years of experience
Virtual
Hello, my name is Annie Bendgen. I am a Licensed Mental Health Counselor in Florida and Iowa specializing in trauma, addiction, prenatal & postpartum, and codependency. Over the years I have worked with teens and adults in all levels of care including residential, PHP, IOP, and outpatient. I am passionate about the work I do and love coming alongside my clients to help them break free of the beliefs, toxic shame, and other obstacles that are preventing them from moving forward and being the people they are capable of being.

Odalis Romero

(she/her)

Odalis Romero, LMHC - Iowa Therapist at Grow Therapy
$150/session
LMHC
7 years of experience
Virtual
Have you experienced some life experience or change, which you feel you need help to overcome, divorce, grief, or trauma? Have you felt as if sometimes you are drowning in your emotions instead of just experiencing them? Does anger, sadness, anxiety, or fear keep impacting your life in ways you don't want it to? Do you struggle managing your emotions and would love to learn how to cope with them effectively? Do you struggle with thoughts of self-harm, of not being good enough, hopelessness, or emptiness? Or do you have children/teens that might be going through these things? If you want a therapist who will not judge you and will help you manage what seems unmanageable, you have found me! I want to help you or your child/teen, start your new healing journey and enjoy life once more! I want you to learn to love yourself and build good relationship and have power to control your emotions and thoughts, while learning to have self-control and conquer the journey ahead! I have spoken in some conferences and am very involved in establishing awareness of mental health. I have two kids of my own and love helping parents and kids/teens understand each other and form better bonds. I also enjoy holistic medicine and therapy and therefore due practice it when needed. I am always eager to learn some new technique or read new research to better help my client's. I would be honored to help you in your healing journey.

Terri Hoag

(she/her)

Terri Hoag, LISW - Iowa Therapist at Grow Therapy
$150/session
LISW
30 years of experience
Virtual
Hi, I am a Licensed Independent Clinical Social Worker. I currently live in Mobile, Alabama but I am licensed in four other states as well. I have a Masters Degree in Social Work from the University of Iowa. I have been a Social Work for 30 years and have worked with all ages. I feel my purpose is to help you identify ways to improve your life.

Colette Alls

(she/her)

Colette Alls, LISW - Iowa Therapist at Grow Therapy
$120/session
LISW
5 years of experience
Virtual
Hi I'm a Licensed Clinical Social Worker (LCSW) based out of Georgia , but licensed in multiple states. I received my Masters from Clark Atlanta University and have been practicing for 5 years. I help young/older adults struggling with depression, anxiety, and grief. I enjoy working with clients to help them become the best versions of themselves. Being a support system for my clients and understanding they are the true experts.

Virginia Jones

(she/her)

Virginia Jones, LISW - Iowa Therapist at Grow Therapy
$120/session
LISW
10 years of experience
Virtual
Welcome, I am Virginia and it is so nice to meet you! Thank you for taking this first step in feeling better, I believe this is the hardest one because people generally don't wake up one morning and desire to include a stranger in on their most personal thoughts, beliefs, feelings, and troublesome behaviors. It can be overwhelming, we can work together to find the right flow that works for you.

Kelly L Brock

(she/her)

Kelly L Brock, LISW - Iowa Therapist at Grow Therapy
$100/session
LISW
10 years of experience
Virtual
Hello! My name is Kelly Brock and I am a Licensed Clinical Social Worker in the state of Pennsylvania and also in Iowa. Maybe you are just feeling stuck, and don't know why? Or maybe you know why, but don't quite understand what tools to use or how to use them to get yourself to that next level up in self-understanding and comfort? I believe finding one's peace in life is a journey of exploration… Sometimes our human side tends to make the exploration in life's journey a tad bit complicated. When we know more about ourselves (and others)... we are just able to navigate life better!

Toni Elliott-Boulter

Toni Elliott-Boulter, LMHC - Iowa Therapist at Grow Therapy
$95/session
LMHC
16 years of experience
Virtual
Finding the right therapist can be a journey in itself and connecting with your therapist is imperative. I offer services for depression, grief, anxiety, stress, career & workplace difficulties, women's issues, postpartum anxiety, anger management, and coping with life changes. Nutrition is also a key player in some mental wellness issues and I feel is very important to assess. My approach provides empathy, engaged listening and behavior change support as part of my therapy style. I am licensed in both Iowa (MHC License 123416) & Texas (LPC 62282) as a counselor. I look forward to supporting you.

Ayonna Chappell

(she/her)

Ayonna Chappell, LMHC - Iowa Therapist at Grow Therapy
$140/session
LMHC
11 years of experience
Virtual
Hello, I'm Ayonna, a licensed professional counselor with over 10 years of experience working as a licensed mental health counselor. Throughout my career, I have had the privilege of working with clients facing a wide range of concerns and struggles, including depression, anxiety, relationship issues, parenting problems, divorce issues, and individuals who have experienced physical and/or sexual trauma or emotional abuse.

Kat Andrade

Kat Andrade, LISW - Iowa Therapist at Grow Therapy
$120/session
LISW
28 years of experience
Virtual
Greetings, my name is Dr. Katherine Andrade, and I am a Licensed Clinical Social Worker. I have 28 years of experience working in Medical, Health, Mental Health, and Substance Use. I have worked as a school, mental health, medical, and military social worker. I have a Master's and Doctorate degrees in Social Work. I specialize in working with adults/seniors with mental health and substance use challenges as well as family issues, stress, adjusting to medical challenges, and military/veteran issues.

Camilla Philippe

Camilla Philippe, LISW - Iowa Therapist at Grow Therapy
$130/session
LISW
4 years of experience
Virtual
Creating a space where you can find what works best for you in your journey. Focusing on strengths helps individuals recognize their own resilience and capabilities, which is vital for growth. By tailoring my approach to each person's unique situation, I honor their individuality and foster a deeper sense of self-understanding and agency. People often thrive when they feel heard and supported in a way that aligns with their own needs and goals, rather than being pushed into a redefined mold.

Helen Roberts

Helen Roberts, LMHC - Iowa Therapist at Grow Therapy
$150/session
LMHC
25 years of experience
Virtual
Hi, nice to meet you; my name is Helen Roberts. I’ve been a therapist since 2000, graduating from the University of Wisconsin Oshkosh. I have a unique combination of 20-plus years of experience working with Christian Counseling, Trauma Treatment, Attachment Therapy, Sexual Addiction, Betrayal trauma, Couples, Adults, and children. I began seeing clients two years earlier while working as a secondary therapist with families having children at risk of being removed, as well as attachment issues. I am trained in Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing (EMDR), CBT with children, Attachment therapy, and as a Certified Sexual Addiction Therapist and many other modalities. I am board certified by the National Board of Certified Counselors. I started the Trauma and Recovery Center in Green Bay, WI. I was one the founding members of Peace Makers Ministries and Under His Wings Ministries, working with attachment issues, trauma recovery, and Christian counseling. In 2015, I began training as a Certified Sexual, Addiction Therapist (CSAT), supervised by Dr. Kenneth Adams. I was trained in Betrayal Trauma by Dr. Kevin Skinner. Since that time, I have continued to work with attachment, adoption issues, trauma issues, sexual addiction, pornography addiction, anxiety, depression, and betrayal trauma. These types of therapy mean that I can work with you if you have difficulty connecting with your mom or dad, saw or experienced abandonment or rejection, or were involved with a traumatic (to you) event. I work with children, couples, individuals, and families. You deserve recovery and healing with a well-trained therapist who specializes in the modalities for your healing. I know you may not know how to fix your situation or relationship right now, but I know how to help. Request an appointment today; let’s start the conversation.

Dr. Tracy Mallett

(she/her)

Dr. Tracy Mallett, LP - Iowa Therapist at Grow Therapy
$200/session
LP
25 years of experience
Virtual
Kudos on taking this first step toward change! I am a licensed psychologist, licensed marriage and family therapist, and an international parenting, divorce, and coparenting coach. You can read my full bio here: family-options.com/dr-tracy-mallett-bio. I have been working with single adults, couples, children and families for over 20 years. My clients learn to overcome issues such as anxiety, depression, stress, and trauma; poor self-worth; relationship struggles; and many other challenges in their lives. I have expertise working with couples and families in conflict, or who are struggling with communication. I am Level II trained in the Gottman Method, and utilize this extensively with couples. My clients report successes such as trauma recovery; anxiety and depression reduction; managing existential and identity issues; gaining peace of mind; reducing stress; and controlling anger. I have counseled in mental health, addiction treatment, and criminal justice settings. I have a private practice in south Florida (family-options.com), where I supervise master's level mental health counseling and psychology trainees. In addition to Florida, I am licensed as a psychologist in Arizona and Iowa, and am a PSYPACT credentialed clinician, having obtained an Authority to Practice Interjurisdictional Telepsychology (APIT) from the PSYPACT Commission, which also allows me to serve clients via telehealth in AL, AR, CT, CO, DE, DC, GA, ID, IL, IN, KS, KY, ME, MD, MI, MN, MO, NE, NV, NH, NJ, NC, ND, OH, OK, PA, RI, SC, TN, TX, UT, VA, WA, WV, WI, WY. I also teach graduate-level courses in ethics, disaster and trauma response, abnormal behavior, community counseling, and criminal behavior, and I mentor graduate dissertation students in forensic psychology.

Debra Tomlinson

Debra Tomlinson, LISW - Iowa Therapist at Grow Therapy
$150/session
LISW
18 years of experience
Virtual
As a therapist with an eclectic approach and 18 years of experience, I am dedicated to providing personalized and effective mental health care. I draw from various evidence-based techniques, such as Cognitive Behavioral Therapy, psychodynamic therapy, and mindfulness, to tailor treatment plans that meet each client's unique needs. My goal is to empower clients to overcome challenges, improve their mental well-being, and live fulfilling lives.

Ephraim Tokar

Ephraim Tokar, LMFT - Iowa Therapist at Grow Therapy
$250/session
LMFT
12 years of experience
Virtual
I'm a licensed Marriage and Family Therapist with 12+ years of experience. My specialties consist of psychosomatic illnesses, relationships, and career counseling. I received my Bachelors degree in Child Psychology, initially working with the teen/young adult population. I then transitioned over to adults as I pursued my Masters in Marriage and Family Therapy. Whether it's individuals, couples, or the geriatric population, I'm happy to get to work with whomever comes my way. I do my best to facilitate a warm, trusting environment. Looking forward to speaking with you soon!

Frequently asked questions

Why filter by Iowa rather than a city like Des Moines?

When looking for online therapy, you can see anyone that is credentialed in the state. We want you to find the best fit, therefore, Grow Therapy shows available therapists across Iowa from Cedar Rapids to Davenport! If you’d rather see someone in-person, you can change the filter from virtual and find a therapist near you in Iowa.

Will my therapist take insurance?

When booking you’ll be asked to verify with your Member ID. However, if you don’t have any of the insurances available you can select cash. Our therapists will have their cost of appointment on their profile. Individual session costs will vary.

How does the Specialty Filter work? Can I find a therapist that focuses on Self Esteem?

The specialty filter is optional. You don’t need to check any boxes to see a provider. However, fit is very important when selecting an online therapist. If you have knowledge or experience to recognize what specialties you may need. For example, your selected specialty, Self Esteem, is filtering therapists in Iowa that work with patients with similar concerns.

Why use Gender, Age, and Identities filters?

Finding a provider with a similar life experience can be beneficial because it can be easier to establish rapport and potentially be understood quicker and clearer.

What to expect during your first session?

Your first therapy session is for you and your therapist to meet each other and to ask any questions that you have about the counseling process. This is where you can expect your therapist to do the same as they will ask questions to gain insight into your specific situation. In this first session the therapist is doing their part to gather as much information so they can better assess if they are able to meet your therapeutic needs.

Depending upon your provider's specialty, you may also discuss the methods the therapist will use. For additional information on therapy methods, please visit the Grow Therapy Help Center. Some people feel nervous before their first appointment, and that is totally normal! Coming prepared with a list of questions for your therapist may help. Remember, you're taking a brave step by seeking therapy, and it is okay to be nervous as you try something new.