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My approach draws on psychoanalytic thinking, which revolves on one central idea: much of what we think and feel remains outside of our awareness. Sometimes we keep powerful feelings hidden so we can continue moving through the day, or we simply cannot find time to reflect on everything that is happening to us. In any case, keeping these potent experiences hidden may leave us feeling stiff, dreary, unfulfilled, or even numb and dull.
In our first session together we’ll start with brief introductions and dive right into your concerns. You will find the session to be relieving, and you will likely feel seen/heard. You will speak about how things have been for you. We will discuss your cadence for individual psychotherapy sessions and frequency. This will help me create a tailored plan for us to work through in follow up sessions. You will be provided a bevy of resources.
THINGS PEOPLE ASK THEMSELVES: Why did I act the way that I did? •My meltdowns are frequency overloads • I don’t need to be “fixed” I need to be “felt” •I been triggering my self; constant irritability •My life changed when I lost all of my hormones and the “threads got slimmer” (Menopause) •I let people “skate” but I never mention the ice is thin •On our gravestone it might as well say “got here a lot earlier out of an inability to say no.” •Refined aggression and avoidance behaviors •Time blindness - a lack of awareness of how much time has passed and an inability to assess how much time is needed What was I feeling at the time? •Anxiety/Nervousness/Nerves shot •I was invited but I wasn’t welcomed •I kept getting comfortable in a future that I expected but didn’t see •Rigid when I’m “not well or at my best.” •Negative thoughts about the self, world around you, about the future •The more I humiliate myself maybe the closer I can get to what I want •Those around me have “the art of implying everything but saying nothing” helpful •On the receiving end of veiled insults, disguised as complements “it’s not an exception, it’s the rule - bless your 💚.” Could I have acted differently? •Self reflection, adaptability; flexibility •Set Firm/Fair/Safe Boundaries •Stop over giving, then charging people for it later when they don’t reciprocate •Little by little, return to self-compassion and don’t take my errors so personally •Adaptive thinking = the ability to reflect in action and upon action •Listen to the voice of my intuition, it often speaks in sounds, images or words. It can show me my orders; moment by moment. •Rest/Medicine/Nature/Acupuncture. •Give yourself the benefit of time/credit. •I have to take my time, my routines and my mornings are now slower. •9 times out of 9.9 my gut feeling is right •Notice my insecurities, yet don’t act on them •Foster your own independence, it’s always a “green flag” for exploration •Don’t idealize other couples; what you see on social media is not what they are. It’s just them on a good day •Identify your best qualities as a partner. Write them down and recall evidence for each of them. It’ll make them feel real to you. I missed so many years? •Grief/loss •Silence has made me sick •”Under charging” distorted my business relationships •I might not ask for help but I remember who offered •No matter how much I train in the gym, read or do, I can’t protect myself from a lie •I have been “miss lil I can do it myself” •I have been “over-functioning” and attracting people who love me for what I can do for them, not people who love me for me •Finally coming to terms with the fact that it may not have been in my Mother’s “soul contract” to be nurturing •Feeling sorry for “them” was the beginning of my misfortune •A “going in my stay and a stay in my going” •Realizing too late that the “butterflies” were a LIE • I might be known as someone who takes flight and shuts down •Ignored too many “intuition signals” •Stingy with the truth = Self Serving “fibs.” •Time aggravation = Current, Future, Existential •Shame for the person I used to be Could I do something different now? •Self appreciation •Break things down only to complete the very next step •Detach from a “habitual” solution •Self-soothe, self-regulate •I let them shame me for too long, I have made my mind up and I am going to get some “nerve pills” (SSRI) and I don’t need to tell nobody about it. •Prevention doesn’t start perfect. It starts anyway •Choose psychotherapy as a part of my “wellness plan” •Set realistic expectations •Choose vitality management over stress management •If no one is coming to save you, no one is likely coming to stop you either. Remember you are self-supervised •Monitor moods/triggers/reframe •Pausing to decide if it’s worth your energy •Increase engagement in meaningful activities •A “no” to them may mean a “yes” to YOU.
Cognitive Behavioral (CBT)
The goal of CBT is to help the individual understand how their thoughts impact their actions. There are three pillars of CBT, which are identification, recognition, and management. Read more below to learn more about the three pillars of CBT. 🕊️ Identification 🔦 The first pillar of CBT is identification. This is where you identify your thoughts, emotions, and behaviors. These are the components that make you, you. These things, however, can become negative over time. Negative thoughts, negative emotions, and negative behaviors lead to a negative mindset and life. Identification is important because you must be able to differentiate between what is serving you well and what is not. Recognition 👀 The second pillar of CBT is recognition. This may seem like identification, but it takes identification a bit further. Identification is identifying that you may have negative thoughts, emotions, and behaviors in certain moments; recognition is recognizing in the moment that you are having negative thoughts and emotions or are behaving in a negative way. Once you recognize that you are thinking or behaving negatively, you can stop these wayward patterns. You can prevent this by practicing new skills. Management 💡 The third pillar of CBT is management. Management is your ability to use skills and activities to help ease your mind, nerves and body. Management can be done in the moment, but also during moments where you are not engaging in unhelpful thoughts or behaviors. Managing your thoughts and behaviors need to be done outside of the negative moments, too.
3 ratings with written reviews
March 4, 2026
Felicia is the best. I have had 3 sessions so far and I feel so safe, heard, seen and comfortable. She validates my experiences and it means so much to me. It is very easy to open to her. She definitely is a great listener and has provided great resources, literature and coping mechanisms thus far. She is authentic and gentle and honest. She is very knowledgeable and speaking to her just makes everything make sense. So grateful for her.
July 20, 2025
Her experience and what she specializes .
June 10, 2025
Amazing first session, beautiful introduction to healing. Talking to Ms. Felicia is like a big hug!