As a person with autism and adhd I never missed an opportunity to remind an authority figure about free will. I am not here to tell anyone who they are or what they “should” do. I am here to help you get to know who you are, what you want to do, and how to get out of your own way. In short, I help people explore whether their intentions are consciously aligned with their actions.
I am conscientious and collaborative in how I conduct sessions by giving you the following options. 1. Say whatever is on your heart, mind, and just lemme know if or when to chime in. I can also say nothing and send you my thoughts after the formal session is complete. 2. Give me the wheel and I’ll ask you some questions, make suggestions, etc 3. Practice this formula: Start with your feelings only. Forget the facts until prompted. Try saying out loud “I feel angry/sad/excited/etc because …” and let’s see what happens. Then we’ll review the facts and decide what value/belief/goal aligned actions to take (if any). Note: Wanna block your camera sometimes? Sure! Whatever makes you comfortable! Angry with ME about something? Fantastic! An opportunity to practice assertive (safe, respectful, honest) communication.
I am collaborative, humble, and ever eager to learn and grow. I believe in “radical intentional/ethical honesty” and I practice this every day. Happy to give you the deets if you’d like 🙂
Over the course of my nearly half century as a human and quarter of a century formally studying the conscious, unconscious, and collective psyche (happy to elaborate on this if you’d like) I figured out a lot of things that have helped me and might help you. For starters, I figured out the world is insane. Not the person who is self aware enough to be seeking therapy. Any person who knows that their values, beliefs, intentions, and overall goals don’t always align with their behaviors is one of the sanest people in the current world. Any person actively working on this is one of the bravest. If money is an issue for you, we will work this out. I will not charge you a dime more than you can afford. If money is not an issue for you, I will ask you to pay what you truly believe the session is worth.
I start by asking every client what they like about themselves, what strengths they possess and how we can apply that to their chosen goals.
I have studied and utilized various modalities over the years including Cognitive Behavioral Therapy, Emotion Focused Therapy, Cognitive Processing Therapy for trauma work, EMDR, psychoeducation on effective communication techniques and emotional regulation skills, “parts” work/internal family systems, and motivational interviewing which may help with procrastination and resolving ambivalence. I’ve recently been trained in Exposure and Response Therapy to help with OCD symptoms and/or chronic avoidant behaviors. Frankly I know too much lol. Let’s start with what you’ve tried, what helped, what didn’t, and we’ll continually collab on an individualized plan 🙂