Hi, I'm a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist based on stolen Lisjan Ohlone land, colonially known as Oakland, CA. I support adults and older teens (16+) get out of cycles of overwhelm, perfectionism, and shame. Through a combination of relational psychodynamic therapy, Internal Family Systems (IFS), and somatic / body-based practices, I can help you release control, feel more confident, trust your intuition, set boundaries, and build sustainable, mutually loving and supportive relationships. Along with your own strengths and inner wisdom, my collaborative approach fosters deep self-awareness, emotional regulation, and safe vulnerability, thereby empowering you to move from being in survival mode to living the balanced, meaningful life that you want.
In our first session, we'll explore the concerns that feel most pressing for you in order to determine what we need to prioritize. We'll get a better sense of how we fit and collaborate on a plan that aligns with your goals.
As a depth therapist, I work with you to go beneath the surface and uncover the core wounds that influence your greatest challenges. I can teach you skills, sure, but skills don't go a long way if we don't know why we're using them or if they're not addressing long-term emotional wounds. Diving deep into our internal worlds allows for a holistic, expansive approach to healing that goes beyond mere awareness and results in lasting change.
My clients are typically people who feel stuck trying to "get it right," people-please, and "perfect" the healing process. They find that they cannot get out of the same patterns of ignoring their own wants and needs. As such, they end up sacrificing important parts of themselves that otherwise want to flourish. I enjoy working with people who are ready to make more space for their true selves and break down barriers to accessing their unique strengths.
We explore your early childhood relationships to understand how you learned to feel safe and connected, as well as what it was like for you to experience disconnection and emotional pain. As adults, we tend to repeat relationship patterns in our intimate relationships, whether that be romantic or otherwise. By using an attachment-based approach, I can help you disrupt unhelpful patterns so that you can have mutually supportive, meaningful relationships.
I have extensive experience working with people exploring their gender identities, or navigating existing gender identities as they relate to other parts of life, such as romantic relationships, family, work, friendships, and school. I support with clarifying your feelings, normalizing fears and concerns, and tolerating any discomfort that may occur in the process of exploring gender.
Relational psychodynamic therapy focuses on returning to our past to gain insight into our present feelings and relationships. In addition to exploring early childhood experiences and relationships, this approach considers how the therapy relationship can activate our attachment system. As such, the therapy relationship becomes an opportunity to safely practice being vulnerable, and to notice how we relate to each other, including what allows our connection to flow and get stuck.
Internal Family Systems (IFS) is a non-pathologizing, empowering approach to understanding the different parts that make up who we are and how we feel and act. With IFS, you learn to notice the parts of you that are trying to get your attention. These might be parts that are afraid to feel your emotions, release control, and set appropriate limits. Learning to be with those parts of you creates more space so that they don’t lead to overwhelm. We’ll also uplift the parts of you that have been neglected. Both of these methods give you greater access to your core wisdom.
Soma means body, and somatics is the experience of living in the body. Somatic therapy is therefore about connecting back with the body. When we move through life with urgency and overwhelm, we often miss important cues from our body to slow down and take care of ourselves in the ways we need. Somatic therapy is a way to slowly focus attention to the here and now, moment by moment experiences of our bodies and feelings. This approach includes relaxation techniques, guided visualizations, and breath work.