Licensed to practice in 2 states and accepts 22 insurances. Specializes in Depression, Anxiety, Trauma and PTSD and 10 more.

Tom Alexander

(he/him)

LPC, 12 years of experience
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About me

Most people who reach out to me are tired. Tired of holding it together, tired of explaining themselves, tired of feeling like the version of them that shows up to work or family dinner isn't the real one. If that sounds familiar, you're in the right place. I'm a licensed professional counselor working with adults across Texas and Colorado on anxiety, depression, stress and burnout, relationship strain, life transitions, and the old stuff that keeps resurfacing at inconvenient moments. You don't need to have it organized before you get here, and you don't need a diagnosis or a crisis to deserve support. We'll figure out together what's actually going on and where to start. Expect warmth, honesty, and a real conversation rather than someone nodding at you from across the screen.

Get to know me

In our first session together, here's what you can expect

Nothing scary happens in the first session, I promise. Mostly we talk. I'll want to know what made you reach out now, what you've already tried, and what you wish your ordinary Tuesday felt like instead. You can share as much or as little of your history as you want. If something feels too raw to open up yet, just say so and we'll set it aside until it's yours to bring up. I'll ask about the practical stuff too, like how you're sleeping, how work is going, what your relationships look like, and what a good day and a hard day each look like for you, because I'd rather see the whole picture than a corner of it. Toward the end we'll talk about what working together could look like, how often we'd meet, and what you actually want out of this. You get to ask me questions too. Fit matters, and you should leave the first session with a sense of whether I'm the right person for you.

The biggest strengths that I bring into our sessions

I'm trained in EMDR, DBT, ACT, CBT, and motivational interviewing, but I don't run everyone through the same protocol and hope for the best. I pay attention to what you respond to and build from there. What I hear most from clients is that our sessions feel like a conversation instead of an interview, and that they leave with something they can actually use before the next one. I also look at the whole picture rather than treating one symptom in isolation, because the anxiety, the sleep, the relationship tension, and the thing you've never said out loud are usually connected. Nothing you bring in is going to rattle me. If you've been told you're too much, or you've tried therapy before and it didn't stick, that tells me where to start rather than being a reason to turn you away. I'll be honest with you about what I'm seeing, and you'll always know why we're doing what we're doing.

The clients I'm best positioned to serve

I work with people navigating just about anything life throws at them. Anxiety. Depression. Stress that has stopped feeling temporary. Grief and loss. Relationship and family struggles. Big transitions like a new job, a move, a breakup, or a season where nothing feels quite like it used to. Some people come to me knowing exactly what they want to work on. Others just know something's been off for a while. Both are good places to start. Some of the people I see have been managing on their own for a long time and are worn out from it. Some have been in therapy before and it never quite clicked. Some have never gone at all and feel a little unsure about the whole idea. Wherever you fall, you're welcome here, and you don't need the right words ready before we begin. I also work with people carrying things from the past that still show up in the present, whether or not you'd call it trauma. If that's part of your story, we can go there when you're ready and not a moment before. If something in your life feels heavier than it should, that's reason enough to reach out.

Specialties

Top specialties

Other specialties

Addiction

Child or Adolescent

Grief

Health/Medical Issues

Identifies as

Man

Serves ages

Teenagers (13 to 17)

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Location

Virtual

My treatment methods

EMDR

EMDR is a way of working with memories and experiences that still have a grip on you. Sometimes something from the past keeps showing up in the present, in how you react, what you avoid, the way your body tenses before your mind even catches up. Talking about it helps, but for a lot of people it only goes so far. EMDR works differently. Instead of asking you to explain the experience over and over, it helps your brain finish processing it, so it stops carrying the same charge. In practice, it's less dramatic than it sounds. We spend time up front getting to know each other and building steadiness before we go anywhere difficult, and we don't move faster than you're comfortable with. When we do the processing work, I'll guide you through short sets of eye movements or gentle tapping while you hold a memory in mind. You stay in control the whole time. You don't have to describe every detail out loud, and we can stop whenever you need to. Most people notice that the memory is still there afterward, but it doesn't grab them the way it used to. It becomes something that happened, rather than something that's still happening. I use EMDR when it fits, not with everyone and not right away. If it seems like it could help you, we'll talk it through together and you'll decide.

Cognitive Behavioral (CBT)

CBT starts from a simple idea: the way we think about a situation shapes how we feel about it and what we do next. Most of the time that happens automatically, faster than we can catch it. You get one short reply from your boss and by lunch you've decided you're on the way out. You cancel one plan and by the weekend you've concluded nobody wants you around anyway. The feeling is real. What we look at is whether the thought underneath it holds up. In session, that means slowing those moments down. We'll look at what actually happened, what you told yourself about it, and what that set off in your mood and your choices. Then we test it. Not by telling you to think positive, which never works and tends to make people feel worse, but by checking the thought against the evidence and seeing whether there's a truer way to hold it. The other half is what happens between sessions. CBT works best when you try something small in real life and we look at what came of it. That might mean tracking a pattern, having a conversation you've been putting off, or doing the thing your anxiety says you can't. I keep it practical and doable, and we build from there. People tend to like CBT because it's concrete. You can see it working, and over time you start catching the patterns on your own, which is really the point.

Existential

Some of what people bring into counseling isn't really a symptom. It's a question. What am I doing with my life. Does any of this matter. Who am I now that the thing I organized myself around is gone. Those questions don't have tidy answers, and trying to treat them like a problem to be fixed usually makes people feel more alone with them. Existential work takes those questions seriously instead of routing around them. We look at what actually matters to you, not what you've been told should matter, and at the gap between the life you're living and the one you'd choose. We make room for the hard parts too. Loss, mortality, freedom and the weight that comes with it, the loneliness that shows up even in a full life. Naming those out loud tends to loosen them. In practice, this doesn't look like philosophy class. It looks like honest conversation about your choices, your regrets, the things you've been avoiding deciding, and what you want the next chapter to be built around. I won't hand you meaning, because it doesn't work when it comes from someone else. What I can do is walk with you while you find your own, and be steady company while you sit with the parts that don't resolve. A lot of people leave this work with fewer answers than they expected and more clarity than they've had in years.

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