I offer collaborative, dynamic tele-counseling services for men struggling with anger and resentment, as well as couples navigating conflict in their relationships. I also provide individual counseling for men and women seeking an existentially focused grief-healing process following the loss of a loved one or a significant life setback caused by a broken connection or relationship. My approach is straightforward & practical: helping men & their partners manage stress, repair trust, rebuild dreams and heal after broken connections, resolve conflict, communicate in healthier and more effective ways, and tackle real-life problems that matter most by creating strategies then implementing action plans. No jargon. No fluff. Just straight talk and practical strategies—delivered with humor, candor, and the hard-earned insight of a guy who calls himself a "Frequent Flyer to Hell and Back".
Our first session is about connection, conversation, and getting to know each other — while also making some important decisions together. I respect the courage it takes to do what I call "The Therapy Two-Step": making the appointment, then actually SHOWING UP. Research consistently shows that the relationship between counselor and client is one of the most important factors in successful therapy — and I agree. I want to understand what has brought you to this point in your life where counseling feels like an option worth considering. Together, we’ll explore the current narratives of your life and the stories, stressors, and experiences driving your desire to seek therapy. We’ll discuss your goals, what you hope to gain from the counseling experience, and the type of therapeutic process that may best fit your needs. I’ll also share my approach, philosophy, and style so we can decide together whether I’m the right person to support you on your journey. If we connect, and you feel confident that our work together will be productive and meaningful, we’ll schedule another meeting. If not, we can discuss other options and resources to support your continued growth and healing.
I am a strengths-based counselor who works to normalize what we all call “life” — the challenges, changes, losses, and chaos that come with being human. Using humor and a narrative, life-story approach, I help people build the psychological fitness skills needed to improve the quality of their lives and relationships. I’ve faced my own share of struggles: recovery from addiction, rebuilding after financial devastation, keeping my marriage alive and thriving, raising two amazing and confident children, surviving two open-heart surgeries, and grieving the loss of two of my four children. These experiences, combined with my clinical training, professional background, and a personality grounded in honesty, resilience, and humor, shape the way I connect with clients. My clinical work includes experience in emergency rooms, community mental health, and private practice, along with years of teaching and keynote speaking — sharing stories and insights drawn from both lived experience and professional counseling work. All of these experiences inform my mission: helping people reframe their struggles, embrace life’s challenges, strengthen their relationships, and design a life they want to live with greater confidence, resilience, purpose, and meaning.
I work with men (individual counseling) and couples to identify, understand, and heal the roots of resentment and conflict — what I describe as “anger and anxiety in stereo.” When anger, resentment, and relationship conflict take over, life can start to taste like a cardboard dirt sandwich with a side of sawdust. I work with men and couples to identify what they truly want from life, clearly define what they desire, and create practical action plans to move toward it. Anger is the sound of hurt and fear leaving the soul. It’s not the problem — it’s a signal. Anger often shows up as outbursts, withdrawal, irritability, or turning to substances when we feel wounded, overwhelmed, or afraid. By uncovering the pain and fear beneath the anger, we can begin to shift behaviors and regain control over emotional life. Conflict is often the result of misalignment between people — differences in expectations, values, perceptions, needs, agendas, coping styles, and problem-solving approaches. Conflict resolution is not about agreement; it’s about alignment. I help clients advocate for themselves while also practicing empathy, reflective listening, and collaboration. These skills reduce conflict, strengthen relationships, and make life more enjoyable. Anxiety often impacts highly intelligent and creative people. Why? Because it takes imagination to worry about what hasn’t happened — or may never happen at all. I help clients rethink how they interpret, predict, and prepare for the world so anxiety becomes more manageable instead of overwhelming. There’s a cultural myth that says, “Men don’t go to therapy.” I understand why many men feel that way. Traditional therapy can sometimes feel irrelevant, overly clinical, or disconnected from how men naturally think and process experience. My approach speaks to the male brain and soul, offering a practical, direct, and no-nonsense path toward emotional wellness.
Other specialties
Narrative
Narrative Therapy helps us separate who we are from what we struggle with. Problems are problems. People are people. We are not the problem—and neither are the people we love. Through exploring life stories—past, present, and future—I help clients step back from dysfunctional behaviors, difficult emotions, and frustrating outcomes. From that distance, they can see more clearly, respond more intentionally, and begin to rewrite their story in a way that aligns with who they truly are.
Reality Therapy
Reality Therapy is built on four practical steps: Plan. Do. Check. Act. Simple in concept—powerful in application. Improving the quality of our lives requires more than insight. It requires action. We begin by creating a clear, realistic plan. Then we put that plan into motion. From there, we evaluate—what’s working, what’s not—and make the necessary adjustments. Plan. Do. Check. Act. This process helps clients develop stronger coping, problem-solving, and communication skills—not just in theory, but in real, everyday life. Because meaningful change isn’t accidental. It’s intentional, measurable, and adaptable.
Rational Emotive Behavior Therapy
Rational-Emotive Behavioral Therapy teaches a simple truth: we think, we feel, and we act. In therapy, these are often discussed in a linear way. Life isn’t linear—it’s process-driven. Our thoughts shape our emotions, our emotions drive our behaviors, and our behaviors reinforce the outcomes which then the process. Understanding this process is key to improving mental wellness. When we change how we think, we influence how we feel. When we shift how we feel, we change how we act. And when we change how we act, we create different—healthier—outcomes and better lives for ourselves.
Motivational Interviewing
Motivational Interview is grounded in a simple reality: if a baseball bat actually motivated people to change, I’d use it. But it doesn’t. Change is hard. And often, it’s not very appealing. Deciding on and making change is WORK! Motivational Interviewing respects where people are, without pressure or force. Together, we explore what change might look like, what makes it difficult, and what makes it worth it.
Person-centered (Rogerian)
Person Center is a foundational, holistic approach grounded in one essential truth: the relationship matters most. Research consistently shows that the therapeutic relationship between counselor and client is the single most important factor in effective therapy. In session, I show up as myself—warts and all. I strive to be authentic, genuine, and transparent, and I invite my clients to do the same. Because meaningful change happens through real connection, honest conversation, and a space where people feel seen, heard, and understood.
8 ratings with written reviews
March 24, 2026
My first session with Bob already helped me feel more at ease. I can already tell from this appointment that he will help me with my struggles. He was funny, kind, intelligent, he listened and made me feel like a friend.
January 29, 2026
Bob was great and very solution oriented. I am so happy to have connected with him as we start this journey together and I look forward to continuing my work with him.
December 17, 2025
I enjoy the fact that Bob is easy to converse with. He’s compassionate & caring