I have 10 years experience working with very hard family situations. I am a therapist that has worked with the hardest parts of the family situations: child welfare, children in foster care, parents who are trying to get their children back from foster care, heightened family conflict preceding divorce, parental alienation, reunification therapy, working with both perpetrators and victims. My experience extends also to some of the alternative relationship structures such as polyamory and kink communities.
I am a very active listener and I really try to get to the heart of the matter. Our first session may feel very business oriented, but we really need to cover a lot in the first session. The first session will always have these three parts to the session: 1) A BRIEF summary of what is going on now. 2) A list of about 10 questions that we need to ask 3) A description of how I do therapy and how I do my practice- 4) How do you want to do it- Fix the surface topic or rebuild the foundation?
I really try to look at all of the circumstances that influence our feelings and actions. If it is a couple, I am focusing on both partners to understand what is influencing their feelings and actions. My experience working with families in crisis and serious difficulties has afforded many insights and references to support our work. We will always have homework every week and maybe even a book to read that will help give us things to consider.
The best client population that I am equipped to serve are the couples at their last stages of their relationship. This is a time that clear expectations, third party involvement, and setting small goals can begin to really help the relationship. Let's quickly talk about how deep you want to go.... Do you want therapy to be a short term, quick fix on a particular issue, or do you want to rebuild the foundation of the relationship.... Be sure to talk to me about that perspective of the goal. We tend to choose one or the other.
Using Christian heritage, worldview, and spiritual concepts to work through tough issues
Focusing on how our thinking affects our behavior and our feelings
Working to improve understanding between the partners when typical communication has not worked