Matt Shaffer
First, I help us develop trust and build a positive relationship; then, I help you increase your capacity to ask yourself questions, challenge previous assumptions and patterns, understand your family and social environments (while trying out new thoughts and actions).
Together, we walk the path of progress and change, taking steps towards becoming the best possible version of ourselves, as often as we can.
Together, we walk the path of progress and change, taking steps towards becoming the best possible version of ourselves, as often as we can. I was awarded a Master’s degree from University of Chicago in 2007, and Bachelor’s degree from Dartmouth College in 2001; my post-Master's training includes Dialectical Behavioral Therapy (DBT) Skills, Motivational Interviewing, and Social Thinking/Social Behavior Mapping to support individuals with Autism Spectrum Diagnoses.
First session
After our first session, clients leave feeling a sense of hope and that the effort that goes into creating change will be worth it. They will also be instilled with the belief that they are capable of driving these changes, and that they will be supported as they move forward. Knowing that they're not alone is part of it. Discovering that they're more capable than they realize, is the rest.
Strengths
My life experience includes working as a school-based clinician, working as a clinician in a nursing home, and as a private practice therapist. I'm also a parent of a school-aged kid. I understand the challenges of parenting and supporting aging loved-ones. My approach is warm and collaborative, and I can also challenge my clients to explore alternate ways of thinking and new behavioral choices. We can explore the benefits and drawbacks together, and then reflect on the impact and effectiveness of any new changes that are tried.
Ideal clients
My ideal client is someone 18 years old or older who is dealing with workplace stressors, parenting challenges, or challenges related to aging. They have already tried managing these challenges on their own, and are looking for guidance and support. It's okay if they don't know exactly where to start or what the desired end results look like. They just have to be willing to explore and willing to try.
Treatment methods
Cognitive Behavioral (CBT)
I help people develop greater insight into the relationship between their thoughts, emotions, and actions. We challenge longtime beliefs (or habits) that may no longer be of service.
Dialectical Behavior (DBT)
I help clients build a plan for using Distress Tolerance skills when they get overwhelmed. This helps them distract themselves in a healthy way and feel grounded. I also teach Emotion Regulation skills so that clients can better understand how emotions come to be for them, and then manage the emotional intensity in more effective ways. I also teach Mindfulness skills so clients can be aware of their feelings in the moment. Lastly, we work on Interpersonal Effectiveness skills so clients can get better at setting boundaries and making assertive requests to voice their needs.
Motivational Interviewing
I help clients work through resistance to behavior change; things they know will help them, but they have reasons for not changing.
Location
Virtual sessions