Welcome and thanks for stopping in. My name is Kristy, I am a Licensed Clinical Social Worker (LCSW) and my pronouns are she/her/hers. My ancestry is both Native American and northern European. I have been working with young people since 2013 and I have seen how overwhelming life can feel these days. There are so many pressures in school, at home, with your peers and in society at large! Have you been feeling stressed, anxious, and/or worried about your future? Perhaps you feel consumed with thoughts about how you compare to others and what others think of you? Is your mind full of racing thoughts about how you just might not be good enough? Or perhaps there is a relentless inner critic that won't let you off the hook? I know how this feels because I have been there myself and I can tell you it does not have to be this way. You can learn to develop a different kind of relationship with yourself: One in which you can learn how the mind works & how to navigate its unhelpful & painful patterns more effectively; one in which you can discover how to approach yourself with kindness & support--the way you would a good friend in pain; one in which you uncover your strengths, gifts & values and allow this self-knowledge to help you make decisions in your life of which you feel proud. PARENTS: Are you in a place where you are ready to dive deeper into your own unconscious patterns that are affecting the way you parent? Do you ever think that you do not want to do some of the same ineffective things with your children that your parents did with you, but find it hard to stop? I am here for you too.
In our first session, we'll focus on getting to know you and what is bringing you into therapy. We'll spend the first several minutes talking about how therapy works and going over a few administrative matters. You will have a chance to ask me any questions on your mind. Then we will spend the rest of our time exploring your current life circumstances and needs. Once we both feel I understand what is going on, this will lead to the co-development of your treatment plan.
As a young person you interact with a lot of adults who are telling you what to do, how to be, even how to think and feel. You won't find that with me. Instead, I enjoy providing a space for you in which you feel safe enough to let down your guard and open up, both to me and to yourself. In our work together you will feel seen, heard, safe, encouraged and empowered. This environment can lead to important insight that will help you embody the healthy change you are seeking. Parents: As a parent myself, and a therapist who has worked for 12 years with children, youth and families, I know how important and valuable it is for a parent to have someone to talk to as well. Someone who listens without judgement and with encouragement and kindness. I enjoy providing you with a sounding board as you reflect both on your own parenting experiences as well as the ways in which you were parented yourself. These reflections often lead to new insights and growth that can bring healing to hurting relationships. I find deep fulfillment in guiding this process toward healing in yourself as well as repair and healing in your relationship with your child.
Through this approach you will learn how to find some distance between who you really are and all your thoughts. While getting skilled at grounding into the present moment, you will get clarity on what truly makes your life meaningful. The focus is then on moving in the direction of creating your life based on what matters to you most.
In this approach, you are the expert on you and I am your guide. We will turn your focus inward, where you will become aware of the parts of you that are in pain, why they cause pain and then you will be guided into a healing process led by the wisest part of you.
I have been certified by Tara Brach and Jack Kornfield as a Mindfulness Teacher and I also teach young people Mindful Self Compassion. Learning to develop a new relationship with yourself that is filled with understanding and kindness is a healing step toward a life you love.
CBT helps you uncover the unhelpful thinking patterns that have gone unnoticed, and are causing you pain. Once you begin to see what the mind is feeding you, you can feel empowered to question some of these thinking patterns, come up with new healthier ones and improve how you feel.