What is therapy?

Therapy can be life-changing, but figuring out where to start isn’t always easy. You might be feeling stuck, overwhelmed, or simply curious about what therapy could look like for you. You might have questions about how it works, what it costs, or how to choose the right therapist.

What’s important to know is that you don’t need to come into therapy with a clear agenda. Many people start by simply describing what feels off and work with their therapist to make sense of it from there.

Whether you’re just starting to explore your options or ready to make an appointment, this guide will help you find clear answers and real support every step of the way.

What is therapy?

When you hear the word “therapy,” you might picture someone lying on a couch while a quiet therapist takes notes, or imagine intense conversations about your childhood. In reality, therapy today takes many forms, and it’s built to meet you where you are.

According to the American Psychological Association, therapy refers to the “remediation of physical, mental, or behavioral disorders or disease.” In a mental health context, it typically refers to psychotherapy.

Psychotherapy is defined as “any psychological service provided by a trained professional that primarily uses forms of communication and interaction to assess, diagnose, and treat dysfunctional emotional reactions, ways of thinking, and behavior patterns.” It may be provided to individuals, couples, families, or groups.

At its core, therapy is a confidential, supportive space where you can talk openly with a trained mental health professional. You might explore thoughts, emotions, habits, or challenges, and work together to feel better, grow, or gain clarity. You don’t have to have everything figured out before you walk in. In fact, many people start therapy simply because they know something just doesn’t feel right, but can’t quite say exactly what it is.

Therapists do more than just listen. They can help you notice patterns, reflect your own words back to you in new ways, and offer tools to work through challenges. In your sessions together, you might work together to:

• Explore how your emotions and thoughts influence one another
• Build tools to manage stress, anxiety, or other tough emotions
• Process difficult past experiences at your own pace
• Improve your communication and relationships
• Notice your strengths, even the ones that feel hard to see

There are many types of therapy. Some are short-term and goal-focused, while others are more open-ended and ongoing. Some sessions might feel light and practical, while others might bring up deeper emotions. All of that is okay. You set the pace, and your therapist helps guide the process.

The main thing to know is this: therapy is a collaboration. You bring your life experiences and goals, and your therapist brings training, perspective, and a safe environment for change. Over time, you build a relationship that makes it easier to be open and work on what matters most to you.

Ways therapy can help

Therapy isn’t just for moments of crisis, though it can absolutely be a lifeline when things feel heavy. Therapy can support you through many parts of life. It can help you navigate stress, relationships, life transitions, grief, identity questions, mental health diagnoses, or simply those times when you feel stuck. Some common ways therapy can help include:

• Navigating stressful life events like breakups, career changes, or moves
• Processing grief and loss
• Working through trauma or difficult past experiences
• Managing mental health conditions like anxiety, depression, or PTSD
• Exploring questions about identity, purpose, or values
• Breaking out of “stuck” patterns that keep life from moving forward

Therapy can also give you the space to slow down, reflect, and learn to make intentional choices in a world that’s often moving too fast. Even when nothing feels “wrong,” it can be a valuable part of your overall wellness.

See how therapy fits into daily life, not just emergencies. Explore the many reasons people go to therapy

Wondering if you should start therapy?

The decision to begin therapy can bring up a mix of feelings. You might be relieved at the idea of getting support, but also nervous about opening up to a stranger. You may wonder whether your struggles are “serious enough” or worry about what people will think.

Here’s the truth: You don’t need to hit a breaking point to deserve support. If something is bothering you and it’s affecting your life, therapy might help. That’s reason enough.

Still unsure if it’s time? Here’s how to decide if therapy is right for you

How to find a therapist

The process of finding a therapist can feel like a big step, but knowing where to look and what questions to ask can help. When you start your search, think about both practical and personal needs.

1. Get clear on what you’re looking for. Think about both practical and personal needs. Do you want in-person or virtual sessions? Are you hoping to focus on something specific, like anxiety, grief, or relationship issues?
2. Check your insurance (if you’re using it). Look for in-network providers or call your insurance company for help. You can also explore platforms like Grow Therapy to filter by coverage and availability.
3. Search in the right places. Try online directories and provider platforms, or ask your doctor or someone you trust for recommendations.
4. Review therapist profiles. Read bios to get a feel for their experience, style, and focus areas. Notice what resonates with you.
5. Reflect on the connection. A good fit often feels like someone who listens without judgment and whose approach makes sense to you. You don’t need to feel instantly comfortable, but you should feel safe to show up as yourself.

Looking for a therapist who really gets you? Follow our step-by-step guide to finding the right therapist

Helping someone else get therapy

Want to help a friend or family member get help through therapy? Encouraging them to seek therapy can be a loving way to help, but it’s important to do it in a gentle and respectful way that respects their pace and autonomy. If you’re not sure where to start, try:

• Gently asking how they’ve been feeling. Give them space to share, and listen more than you speak. You don’t have to “fix” anything; just being present is powerful.
• Sharing a resource. Offer a helpful link, article, or therapist directory. You could say something like, “I saw this and thought it might be helpful, no pressure, just wanted to pass it along.”
• Offering to help with logistics. Making that first appointment can feel overwhelming. You might offer to sit with them while they search for providers, help with insurance questions, or even go with them to their first session if they want company.
• Using language that centers care and choice. You can say something like: “I care about you, and I think therapy might be something worth exploring. Would you be open to it?”, or “You don’t have to do this alone. I’m here for you either way.”

The goal isn’t to convince or push. It’s to remind them they’re not alone, and that help is available if and when they’re ready. Your support can be the first step toward healing, even if it takes time.

Want to support someone you care about? Learn how to help someone get started with therapy

Different types of mental health providers

You’ve probably heard terms like therapist, psychologist, or psychiatrist, but they’re not all the same. While they all support mental health, their training, licensing, and what they practice differ. Some focus on talk therapy, others can prescribe medication, and some do both.

• Therapists & counselors (LPC, LMFT, LCSW, LMHC) provide talk therapy to help you work through thoughts, emotions, relationships, and stressors. They’re trained, licensed, and can’t prescribe medication.
• Psychologists (PhD, PsyD) specialize in therapy, evaluations, and psychological testing. They don’t prescribe, but offer structured, evidence-based care.
• Psychiatrists & psychiatric mental health nurse practitioners (MD, DO, PMHNP) are medical providers who can diagnose conditions and prescribe medication. Some also provide therapy.

Want to learn more? Read our full breakdown of types of mental health providers

Therapy types and modalities

Not all therapy looks the same. Some approaches are structured and skills-based. Others focus on understanding how past experiences shape the present, or on using mind-body techniques to promote healing.

Not sure which type is right for you? That’s okay! Many therapists blend approaches to match your needs as you grow.

Some common types of therapy include:

• Cognitive behavioral therapy (CBT)
• Psychodynamic therapy
• Somatic therapy
• Acceptance and commitment therapy (ACT)
• Mindfulness-based therapy

Knowing your options can make you feel more confident when choosing a therapist or setting goals for your sessions.

Want to dig deeper into how each of these works? Explore the different types of therapy

How to pay for therapy

One of the most common worries about starting therapy is cost. The good news? There are more ways to afford therapy than you might think. You can:

• Use health insurance or an HSA/FSA
• Ask about sliding scale fees (some therapists lower their rates based on income)
• Look into employee assistance programs (EAPs) at work
• Explore group therapy or low-cost clinics

It’s always okay to ask a therapist about cost before starting. Transparency helps you plan and stay in care that works for you. Our guide to paying for therapy gives you practical strategies for finding affordable care without sacrificing quality or consistency.

Don’t let cost stop you from getting care. See ways to afford therapy that actually work

Your first therapy session: What to expect

It’s totally normal to feel nervous before your first session. You don’t have to know exactly what to say. You can even start with, “I’m not sure where to begin, but I know I don’t feel like myself lately.” That’s more than enough.

While each therapist works a little differently, most first sessions follow a general rhythm. Here’s what you can usually expect:

1. Getting to know each other: You’ll start with a warm conversation and talk about what led you to therapy.
2. Privacy and safety: Your therapist will go over confidentiality, including what’s private and what situations may require them to share information.
3. Exploring your needs: You’ll talk through what’s going on in your life, and your therapist might ask a few questions to better understand how to help.
4. Beginning to set goals: You may start thinking about what you’d like to get out of therapy, whether that’s feeling less overwhelmed or working through a specific issue.
5. Looking ahead: You’ll decide on next steps, like scheduling another session or discussing how often you want to meet.

Think of this session as a two-way street. While your therapist is getting to know you, you’re also getting a feel for them. Do they help you feel heard? Do you feel safe and respected in the space? That connection matters, and it’s okay if it takes a session or two to find your rhythm.

Curious what therapy sessions are actually like? Here’s how your first session usually goes

How therapy and medication work together

If you’re wondering how medication fits into your care, you’re not alone. For some people, therapy alone meets their needs. For others, medication can be a helpful part of treatment. Many people use both. It’s not about choosing one or the other, it’s about finding the right support for your mind and body.

Only certain professionals can prescribe medication, like psychiatrists, psychiatric nurse practitioners, and some primary care doctors. If you’re considering medication, your provider can talk with you about your options.

Trying to figure out if medication fits into your care? See how therapy and medication can work together to support you

What will your relationship with your therapist be like?

The relationship you have with your therapist will be different from any other relationship in your life. You’ll share a deeply personal bond that’s unique in that it’s more one-sided than other relationships. There are also professional boundaries and considerations to keep in mind. This relationship is structured to support your healing, with clear expectations that help you feel safe and seen.

You’ll likely experience:

• Flexibility in sessions that are scheduled and that you can count on
• Emotional safety that lets you speak freely without judgment
• Professional boundaries that protect your space to heal
• Privacy, with clear limits around safety

People are sometimes surprised to learn just how important the bond with their therapist is to the success of their treatment. Comfort, trust, and even chemistry are essential to your therapy outcomes.

Curious how the therapist-client bond further shapes your care? Find out how your relationship with your therapist fully works

Challenges that may arise during therapy

Therapy is powerful, but it’s not always easy. You might feel stuck, hit emotional roadblocks, or discover that your therapist’s style isn’t quite the right match. Even in a strong therapeutic relationship, challenges can come up. These are some common bumps in the road that many people experience in therapy:

• Feeling stuck or like you’re not making progress
• Therapy feels emotionally harder than expected
• It’s hard to open up or stay honest
• You’re not sure what to talk about anymore
• You’re avoiding conflict or withholding feedback
• Therapy is affecting your outside relationships
• You’re thinking about quitting therapy

Running into one of these doesn’t mean you’re doing therapy wrong, or that it has to end. There are often ways to adjust, reset, or explore new directions that still support your growth.

Wondering if what you’re feeling is normal in therapy? Here’s how to handle common therapy challenges

What are some red flags to look out for?

While therapy should always be helping you make progress toward your mental health goals, it’s normal for questions or concerns to come up. In rare circumstances, therapists can behave in ways that are unprofessional or detract from the therapeutic work.

There’s a difference between situations where therapy could be more helpful and times when it’s clearly no longer safe or appropriate. Here’s a general way to think about it:

• Could be better: You feel misunderstood, sessions feel off-track, or your therapist’s approach doesn’t match your needs. It might be time to adjust or look for a better fit.
• Time to reconsider: You notice crossed boundaries, unethical behavior, or feel unsafe. These are serious red flags that mean it’s time to leave.

Not sure how to tell the difference? Learn what’s okay and what’s not

When and how to end therapy

There’s no set timeline for therapy. Some people go for a few months, others for longer. At some point, you may feel ready to stop. Whether you’ve met your goals, need a break, or want to try a different approach, ending therapy with intention can help you carry what you’ve learned forward.

If you’re wondering whether it’s time to pause, wrap up, or move in a new direction, here are a few common signs to consider:

• You’ve reached your goals
• You’re not learning anything new
• You don’t feel heard or understood
• You feel judged
• You dread your sessions
• Your needs have changed
• You feel unsafe or disrespected

Therapy can be something you return to at different points in life. Whether it’s a one-time chapter or something you revisit over time, the choice is always yours.

Thinking about taking a break? We’ll walk you through when and how to end therapy with care

Ready to take the next step?

Starting therapy can feel like a big step, but you don’t have to do it alone. Whether you’re figuring out what kind of care feels right or you’re ready to meet with a therapist, Grow Therapy makes it easier to find someone who fits with what you need. Wherever you are in your journey, help is here when you’re ready.

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