Rated 5.0 stars out of 5, 88 ratings

Paul Basenfelder

LCSW, 6 years of experience

Frequently rebooked

Authentic
Solution oriented
Intelligent

About me

I work with adult clients 18 and up, and I have a special interest in promoting healthy relationships with both individuals and couples, as research shows that having close and loving relationships is the most significant contributing factor to happiness over the life span. I have experience and proficiency in treating mood disorders, career issues, self-esteem problems, ruptured attachments, grief, etc.

Get to know me

In our first session together, here's what you can expect

In our first session, we will chat for several minutes about what’s bringing you to therapy, and then I will conduct a thorough assessment of many aspects of your history. We will discuss your goals for therapy and what you can expect from me as your provider.

The biggest strengths that I bring into our sessions

My greatest strength as a provider is my deep understanding of the pain of attachment wounds and facilitating a safe, warm and productive environment for clients to heal and have emotionally corrective experiences. I also thrive in promoting self-acceptance and compassion. Lastly, I have common sense, good problem-solving skills and a good sense of humor, and I have found that these qualities are great for building rapport with clients.

The clients I'm best positioned to serve

I work best with clients who come from broken families and have had troubling relationships in their lives. I work to help heal and repair attachment wounds with individuals and couples.

Specialties

Top specialties

GriefSelf Esteem

Other specialties

I identify as

Man

Serves ages

My treatment methods

Couples Counseling

I enjoy supporting couples in improving their mutual understanding of one another’s feelings, needs and preferences while helping to bolster their communication. I pride myself in being fair and offering each partner equal support and accountability.

Acceptance and commitment (ACT)

I like to encourage clients to lean into the notion that unpleasant feelings are a normal part of life, and to commit to taking positive action in their lives that is accordance with their values.

Positive Psychology

I love discussing what the research says about what makes people happy with my clients, as most people want to feel better and live happier lives.

Cognitive Behavioral (CBT)

I like to examine peoples’ negative core beliefs and assist them in developing affirming beliefs that help them reach their goals.

Compassion Focused

Empathy and compassion go a long way in helping people heal and progress in therapy, and this comes naturally to me. I ultimately aim to teach clients how to cultivate compassion for themselves.

Location

Virtual
Rated 5.0 stars out of 5, 88 ratings

6 ratings with written reviews

July 7, 2025

Paul listens and provides insight that allows me to think through any next steps or perspectives to achieve a resolution/strategy moving forward.

Verified client, age 55-64

Review shared after session 13 with Paul

June 2, 2025

We had a great first couples session with Paul. We like his laid back and down to earth personality, as well as, his process and goals for supporting couples.

Verified client, age 35-44

Review shared after session 1 with Paul

May 17, 2025

Paul is an astute and compassionate couple's therapist. I don't think I could have found anyone better to help navigate a difficult time. Good couple's therapy takes away ambivalence/ambiguity and leaves you with clarity on how to proceed. Paul led us to a lot of clarity. Thank you, Paul.

Verified client, age 25-34

Review shared after session 4 with Paul