Lauren Graham
Maybe you love your partner but rarely feel interested in sex. Maybe your desire has changed after motherhood, stress, medication changes, relationship difficulties, trauma, or simply over time. You might find yourself thinking, “I want to want sex—but I just don’t.” I specialize in working with women experiencing low sexual desire, desire differences in relationships, intimacy concerns, sexual shame, and feeling disconnected from their bodies or sexual selves. Sex therapy with me is not about pressuring you to have more sex or meeting someone else’s expectations. Together, we’ll explore the emotional, relational, psychological, biological, and lifestyle factors that may be affecting your desire. We may work on understanding your unique desire patterns, reducing pressure around intimacy, strengthening boundaries and communication, reconnecting with your body, and discovering what intimacy and pleasure actually mean to you. My goal is to provide a comfortable, judgment-free space where you can talk openly about sex, relationships, desire, and intimacy without embarrassment or shame—and develop a sexual life that feels authentic to you.
First session
Your first session is a relaxed conversation focused on understanding your story, your concerns, and what you hope to gain from therapy. We may talk about your relationship history, sexual concerns, stress, mental health, medications, medical factors, body image, past experiences, and what intimacy currently looks like—but you are always in control of what you share. Whether you're struggling with low desire, intimacy concerns, anxiety, relationship patterns, or feeling disconnected from yourself, we'll explore what's contributing to those challenges without shame or pressure. My goal is to create a safe, supportive environment where you feel heard, understood, and empowered. By the end of the session, we'll have identified your goals and created a personalized plan for moving forward together.
Strengths
Clients often tell me they appreciate having a therapist who is both approachable and knowledgeable. I combine evidence-based interventions with genuine warmth, curiosity, and a nonjudgmental style to help clients feel comfortable discussing topics that are often difficult to talk about. My specialty in women's intimacy, desire, and relationships allows me to address concerns that are frequently overlooked or misunderstood. Therapy with me is collaborative, personalized, and focused on helping you create meaningful, lasting change, not just temporary symptom relief.
Ideal clients
I’m best positioned to work with adult women who are struggling with their relationship with sex, desire, intimacy, or their bodies. You may love your partner but feel little interest in sex, experience a difference in desire between you and your partner, avoid intimacy because it feels pressured or overwhelming, or wonder why your sexual desire has changed. I also work with women who have spent years prioritizing other people’s needs and are now trying to understand their own wants, boundaries, pleasure, and sexual identity. Anxiety, motherhood, stress, relationship patterns, medication changes, body image concerns, past experiences, and trauma may all be part of the picture. You do not need to already know why this is happening. We can figure that out together.
Treatment methods
Eclectic
My approach is eclectic, meaning I draw from several evidence-based methods to tailor therapy to each client’s unique needs. I frequently use person-centered, collaborative, and strengths-based, blending evidence-based modalities such as Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT), Solution-Focused Therapy, Narrative Therapy, and Motivational Interviewing. Sessions are guided by your unique goals and values, with a focus on self-empowerment, authenticity, and lasting growth. I aim to help you uncover the patterns that keep you feeling small and develop new ways to show up fully in your life and relationships.
Location
Virtual sessions