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I’m Chad Stiles, PhD, LMFT, and I work with adults who may look like they are managing life well on the outside but feel anxious, overwhelmed, disconnected, discouraged, or stuck on the inside. I help people navigate anxiety, trauma, depression, relationship stress, grief, life transitions, self-esteem concerns, and patterns that no longer seem to be working for them. My style is collaborative, practical, and nonjudgmental. Therapy with me is not about being told what is wrong with you. It is about understanding yourself more clearly, recognizing the strengths you already have, and finding realistic ways to move toward the life you want.
Our first session is a chance for me to understand what is bringing you to therapy, what has been difficult lately, and what you would like to be different. We will talk about what is happening in your life now, the experiences that may be influencing it, and what you have already tried. I will also ask about times when the problem feels less intense, what helps you cope, and the strengths or resources you may not be giving yourself enough credit for. You do not need to arrive knowing exactly what your goals are or where to begin. We will figure that out together and develop a direction for therapy that feels meaningful, manageable, and relevant to your life.
I bring a calm, curious, and practical approach to therapy. I listen closely, ask thoughtful questions, and help clients look beneath the surface of what they are experiencing without making therapy feel like an endless analysis of everything that has gone wrong. One of my strengths is helping people hold two things at the same time: understanding why certain thoughts, emotions, or behaviors developed while also figuring out what can change now. I pay attention to the parts of you that may feel anxious, critical, angry, avoidant, overwhelmed, or protective while also helping you recognize your resilience, abilities, and moments when you have already handled things differently. The goal is greater self-understanding paired with practical movement forward.
My ideal client is an adult who knows something in their life needs to change but may not yet know exactly how to change it. You may be dealing with anxiety, overthinking, depression, trauma, relationship stress, burnout, grief, low self-confidence, or a major life transition. Perhaps you keep repeating the same patterns even though you understand intellectually that they are not helping you. You may be highly capable in other areas of your life while privately feeling overwhelmed, disconnected, stuck, or uncertain about yourself. You do not need to come to therapy with everything figured out. What matters most is a willingness to be curious about yourself and consider the possibility that things can be different. I work especially well with people who want more than a place to vent. You want to understand yourself, recognize what is keeping you stuck, build on what is already working, and leave therapy with a clearer sense of how to move forward.
Cash - $175 per session
Aetna
Aetna - Allied Benefits
Aetna - ASR Health Benefits
Aetna - Lucent Health
Aetna - Luminare
Aetna - Medicare
Aetna - Moda
Aetna - WebTPA
Aetna – HealthEZ
Amerihealth
Amerihealth Administrators
Amerihealth NJ Medicare Advantage
Anthem
Arlo
Blue Cross Blue Shield
Centivo
Cigna
Cigna - HealthEZ
Evernorth
GTEB
Humana - Medicare
Humana Dual (Medicare & Medicaid)
Independence Administrators
Independence Blue Cross
Kaiser Permanente
Kaiser Permanente - Medicaid
Kaiser Permanente - Medicare
Tufts Health/Cigna
I believe therapy should help you understand what is happening while also helping you move toward something better. Instead of spending every session focusing only on what is wrong, we also explore what you want your life to look like, what is already working, and what small changes could make a meaningful difference. I often ask questions that help you notice exceptions to the problem, identify previous successes, clarify your goals, and recognize resources you may already have. Together, we turn those observations into realistic next steps. This makes therapy active and purposeful while still leaving room to slow down and process difficult experiences when that is what you need.
You may notice that different sides of you seem to want completely different things. One part may want connection while another wants to pull away. One part may be confident while another constantly questions whether you are good enough. You may understand logically that something is safe while another part of you still feels threatened. I help clients become curious about these different internal reactions instead of fighting them or judging themselves for having them. We explore what these reactions may be trying to protect you from, when they developed, and whether they are still helping you in the way they once did. The goal is not to eliminate parts of yourself, but to develop a more compassionate understanding of them so they have less control over your choices, relationships, and emotional life.
Therapy can easily become focused on everything that is going wrong. I intentionally look for what is also going right. That includes abilities you have developed, challenges you have already survived, relationships that support you, coping strategies that have worked before, personal values that matter to you, and moments when you responded differently than you normally would. Sometimes clients have lived with a problem for so long that they stop noticing their own competence. I help you identify those existing strengths and use them as building blocks for change. Rather than viewing you as a collection of symptoms that need to be fixed, I see therapy as a collaborative process of helping you better understand yourself and expand the abilities you already possess.