LMFT, 10 years of experience
I use this modality to treat single incident traumas as well as incorporate and strengthen resources that the client has or increasingly enjoys as the result of our work together. EMDR is a powertool for when clients are ready to change their story about who they are by unhooking belief systems from (often) early memories that have distress associated with them.
We learn about how the world works when it comes to safety and love from our parents and other caregivers. Can we be loved and still be ourselves? What is more important: attachment or authenticity? Can we self-soothe by positive self talk or reaching out to friends, or do we soothe our distress by leaning into alcohol and procrastination? There is so much about how we relate to our own feelings, ask for help, self- isolate when feeling shame, etc that stem from these early impressions passed down from our parents. We perpetuate those patterns when looking for life partners, burdening them with the unmet expectations from our early years. I have trained in EFT, NARM, IFS and other modalities to help clients identify their own needs and yearnings that are trapped under patterns of anxious or avoidant attachment.