Grant Tomey

LPC, 12 years of experience
Authentic
Intelligent
VirtualAvailable

Hi, I’m Grant. Are you struggling with a difficult life decision, relationship issue, or emotional challenge that feels hard to sort through on your own? Do you find yourself talking through the same problem with friends or loved ones, only to still feel stuck? Starting counseling can feel intimidating, but my calm, practical, and down-to-earth approach helps create space to talk honestly about what matters most. I have extensive experience working with adolescents and adults from a wide range of backgrounds and life circumstances. My clinical experience includes supporting individuals through anxiety, depression, stress, relationship difficulties, major life transitions, emotional overwhelm, and complex mental health concerns. I also bring experience from community-based, school-based, and crisis-oriented settings, which has helped me develop a steady, grounded approach during difficult seasons. Every person and situation is different; there is no one-size-fits-all approach to therapy. Some people seek short-term, focused support around a specific problem, decision, or season of life. Others want a longer-term therapeutic relationship where they can grow, reflect, and work through deeper patterns over time. I value both approaches and have worked with some clients for many years, while also seeing how meaningful brief therapy can be when centered on clear goals and next steps. My clinical approach is grounded in evidence-based practices, with a preference for Cognitive Behavioral Therapy, Dialectical Behavior Therapy skills, Solution-Focused Therapy, and insight-oriented work. Sessions may include identifying patterns, building coping and communication skills, clarifying goals, strengthening emotional regulation, and exploring the experiences that shape how you see yourself, others, and the world. I strive to meet you where you are, understand what matters most, and move at a comfortable, productive pace. Together, we can better understand what is happening and identify practical steps toward healing and growth.

Get to know me

In our first session together, here's what you can expect

In our first session, we will take time to get to know each other and begin understanding what brought you to therapy. I will ask about what you are currently experiencing, what you have tried so far, what has or has not helped, and what you hope to get out of counseling. You do not need to have everything figured out before starting; part of therapy is working together to make sense of things. The first session is also a chance for you to get a feel for my style and decide whether I seem like a good fit for you. My approach is calm, conversational, and collaborative. We will move at a pace that feels comfortable, while also beginning to identify goals and practical next steps. By the end of the session, my hope is that you feel heard, understood, and clearer about how therapy may be able to help.

The biggest strengths that I bring into our sessions

During sessions, I bring a calming, grounding, and down-to-earth approach. I strive to create a space where you can feel safe, respected, and understood, even when discussing the most personal, intimate, or difficult parts of your life. My goal is to help you feel less alone in what you are carrying and to support you in making sense of your experiences at a pace that feels manageable. I have provided care, led, and supervised clinical teams across Mental Health Emergency Services, Community-Based services, and School-Based services. These experiences have given me a strong foundation in working with serious mental illness, crisis situations, complex family, relationship, and life stressors, and the many practical challenges that can come with mental health treatment. I understand that healing often involves more than symptom reduction; it can also involve rebuilding stability, improving relationships, strengthening coping skills, and learning how to navigate life with greater confidence.

The clients I'm best positioned to serve

I enjoy working with adolescents and adults who want therapy to feel both supportive and practical. Some clients come in wanting specific tools, coping strategies, and clear next steps. Others are looking for a space where they can slow down, reflect, and feel truly known over time. I especially value the kind of therapeutic relationship where trust builds gradually and we can come to understand the deeper layers of your personality, history, relationships, values, and inner world. You do not need to have everything figured out before starting therapy. A good fit for my approach is someone who is willing to be honest, curious, and collaborative, even if change feels intimidating. Whether our work is brief and focused or longer-term and more exploratory, we can work toward greater clarity, healthier coping, stronger self-understanding, and a more grounded sense of direction.

Specialties

Top specialties

Anxiety

Depression

Other specialties

I identify as

Man

Serves ages

Teenagers (13 to 17)

Licensed in

Accepts

Location

Virtual

My treatment methods

Cognitive Behavioral (CBT)

I use Cognitive Behavioral Therapy, or CBT, in a practical and collaborative way. I help clients notice the connection between their thoughts, emotions, physical reactions, and behaviors, especially when they feel anxious, depressed, overwhelmed, or stuck. Together, we identify the thoughts, fears, assumptions, and behaviors that may be keeping symptoms going. This often includes recognizing cognitive distortions, such as catastrophizing, all-or-nothing thinking, mind-reading, overgeneralizing, or focusing only on the negative. For anxiety and social anxiety, this may involve patterns of avoidance, overthinking, fear of judgment, or expecting the worst. We then work on challenging those thoughts and taking gradual, realistic steps toward difficult situations. For depression, I use CBT to help clients recognize self-criticism, hopelessness, withdrawal, low motivation, and distorted thinking patterns. We work on developing more balanced thoughts while identifying small, meaningful actions that support reconnection with relationships, responsibilities, goals, and values. My use of CBT is not about forced positive thinking. It is about helping clients understand their patterns, reduce avoidance, and practice responses that feel more flexible, grounded, and helpful in daily life.

Dialectical Behavior (DBT)

I use Dialectical Behavior Therapy, or DBT, skills to help clients manage intense emotions, distress, and urges to respond in ways that may create more problems over time. This can be especially helpful for clients struggling with emotional overwhelm, relationship conflict, impulsivity, self-destructive coping behaviors, or symptoms associated with borderline personality disorder. In treatment, I focus heavily on distress tolerance and grounding skills. This may include helping clients recognize when they are emotionally escalated, slow down their reactions, reconnect with the present moment, and use coping strategies that are safer and more effective. Together, we work on identifying patterns such as shutting down, lashing out, avoidance, self-sabotage, or other behaviors that may provide short-term relief but increase pain later. I help clients build a personalized set of healthier coping tools, including grounding, self-soothing, emotional regulation strategies, crisis survival skills, and more effective ways to communicate needs. The goal is not to eliminate emotions, but to help clients respond to distress with more stability, self-awareness, and control.

Person-centered (Rogerian)

I use a person-centered approach to create a therapeutic relationship that feels safe, respectful, and collaborative. I believe meaningful change often begins when clients feel genuinely heard, understood, and accepted without judgment. This allows us to explore difficult thoughts, emotions, relationships, and life experiences with greater honesty and clarity. In treatment, I pay close attention to the relationship we build together. The therapy space can become a place to better understand your patterns, practice new ways of expressing yourself, and identify what helps you feel more grounded, confident, and connected. Through this process, we can notice what happens in relationships, how you respond to stress, and what strengths or needs may be harder to recognize on your own.

Strength-Based

When people are struggling, it can be easy to focus only on symptoms, problems, or what feels wrong. In treatment, I help clients also notice what has helped them survive, cope, adapt, and keep going. Together, we identify existing strengths and build on them in practical ways. This may include recognizing patterns of perseverance, insight, creativity, loyalty, problem-solving, humor, compassion, or the ability to seek support. We also look at times when things have gone even slightly better and use those moments to understand what works.

Existential

I enjoy working from an existential perspective to help clients explore deeper questions about meaning, identity, choice, responsibility, freedom, isolation, and uncertainty. Many people come to therapy not only because they are experiencing symptoms, but because they feel stuck, disconnected, unfulfilled, or unsure of who they are or what direction their life is taking.

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