Jaime Lee Bello
I am a licensed clinician dedicated to helping individuals break free from stuck patterns, navigate complex trauma, and build stable, fulfilling lives. My practice focuses heavily on adult mental health, substance use recovery, and specialized behavioral tracks—specifically treating pornography addiction, intimacy challenges, and compulsive, sexualized coping loops. I recognize that deeply stigmatized or complex challenges often carry overwhelming shame, which is why my clinical space is entirely non-judgmental, collaborative, and objective. By integrating Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT) and Dialectical Behavior Therapy (DBT) with a solution-focused and strategic brief Therapy model, I help you heal both the mind and a dysregulated nervous system. Together, we look beyond baseline talk therapy to restore your personal autonomy, expand your distress tolerance, and create real, lasting behavioral integrity. You don't have to navigate these heavy stressors alone; I am here to work alongside you as a dedicated teammate.
First session
Our first session is all about building a safe foundation and creating a shared roadmap for your growth. We will start with brief introductions to ensure you feel entirely comfortable in the space, and then pivot into a collaborative conversation about what brings you to therapy. We will discuss your current stressors, explore your history, and clarify your personal goals. Treatment with me is structured as a 24 sessions program where results can be expected at week 6. If you are looking to make sustainable change and are motivated to reflect between sessions, there is a path to healing I can show you how to walk. This is not a passive therapy approach- the space is highly collaborative, structured and effective. A priority in our initial sessions is gathering baseline data for symptoms and creating actionable steps that will yield long-term results. My goal is that my clients will not need me after 24 sessions. This process may be uncomfortable at times- however I rely on the philosophy that short term discomfort is worth creating sustainable results. Most clients who are in a place desiring change thrive in this environment. Clients who are more exploratory and not motivated for change often seek a different approach. If you are ready to roll and want to avoid talking in circles for months look no further.
Strengths
My greatest strength as a clinician lies in my ability to handle highly complex, deeply stigmatized, and sensitive behavioral challenges with objective, clinical precision and genuine empathy. Because of my extensive forensic background and familiarity with containment methodologies, I excel at stripping away the layer of shame that frequently traps people in harmful behavioral patterns, addictions, or court compliance loops. Additionally, my ability to blend "top-down" cognitive restructuring (CBT/DBT) with "bottom-up" somatic nervous system regulation allows me to offer truly holistic care. I don't just help you understand your patterns intellectually; I teach you how to physically calm your body's fight-or-flight response when distress spikes. This unique dual approach empowers my clients to build exceptional distress tolerance, break complex habit loops, and secure profound, long-term personal stability.
Ideal clients
My ideal clients are individuals navigating complex life transitions, substance use recovery, behavioral patterns, or deep-seated trauma who are looking for a practical, collaborative, and entirely non-judgmental space to heal. I specialize in working with adults who experience the physical and emotional exhaustion of a dysregulated nervous system—whether that shows up as chronic anxiety, mood fluctuations, or utilizing compulsive behaviors and sexualized loops as a subconscious coping mechanism to manage deeper psychological distress. I am particularly well-positioned to serve individuals seeking to break free from cycles of shame surrounding intimacy, pornography addiction, or forensic/court compliance structures. My "dream client" is someone who is ready to look beyond basic talk therapy and combine actionable mindset tools with body-based healing to regain personal autonomy, fortify their distress tolerance, and build a stable life rooted in long-term behavioral integrity. Whether you are dealing with general mental health challenges or navigating deeply stigmatized struggles, you will find an objective, clinically precise teammate in me.
Treatment methods
Solution-Focused Brief Treatment
If you are serious about change and looking for an effective, structured, treatment program fashioned solution look no further. Treatment with me involves a structured 24 session model in which you can expect results by session 6. I do not believe in endless billing- my client's achieve results. My goal is for my clients to no longer need me after 24 sessions. I appreciate being held accountable for my client's to be able to notice measure able change due to their treatment. While it is important to understand your past, SFBT allows us to focus heavily on your future. We will hone in on your natural strengths, clarify your immediate goals, and explore what is already working in your life. This approach ensures that our time together is highly collaborative, actionable, and focused on creating measurable progress from day one. In my practice, Solution-Focused Therapy is used to immediately pivot clients away from shame-inducing, past-focused morality traps and toward actionable, future-oriented outcomes. Rather than dissecting personal flaws or dwelling on past slip-ups, we focus on what is functionally working in your daily life and build upon those baseline strengths. We utilize structured discovery prompts to identify "exception states"—the specific times, transition windows, or emotional environments where you successfully managed an urge or chose a healthier dopamine replacement. By scaling urge intensity, measuring friction tolerance, and tracking small weekly wins, we define concrete benchmarks for success. Whether working individually on pornography recovery or with a couple restoring trust, the focus remains entirely on building practical skills, restoring autonomous agency, and moving toward a sustainable, fulfilling future.
Dialectical Behavior (DBT)
I see DBT as CBT's more trendy and progressive sibling. While CBT can force change, that is not always accessible immediately. That is where DBT comes in. Life can bring intense emotions that feel impossible to manage. Using DBT, I will teach you tangible, real-world skills to navigate crisis moments, regulate overwhelming emotions, improve your relationships, and tolerate distress without relying on old, harmful coping mechanisms.
Cognitive Behavioral (CBT)
In my practice, CBT is utilized through a non-shaming, functional lens to break the "Binge-Restrict Cycle" common in compulsive pornography use and sexual behavior. Instead of relying on rigid restriction—which builds internal pressure and leads to inevitable behavioral rebounds—we use CBT to externalize behavior into objective data points. We actively target automatic "should-thinking" (e.g., replacing "I shouldn't do this," which triggers internal resistance, with "I am choosing to do X," which fosters autonomy). Clients log urge intensities, identify task-escapism mindsets, and map high-risk "transition states" (like unstructured downtime returning home from work or school) to restructure cognitive loops and regain executive control.
Mind-body approach
Compulsive behavior and dopamine dependence are deeply physiological processes, not moral failings. I incorporate somatic and mind-body interventions to help clients regulate their nervous systems during high-urge states. A core pillar of my protocol is the 5-Minute Friction Rule. When a high urge occurs during a transition state, clients execute a mandatory 5-minute sensory or physical replacement activity (such as cold-water resets, movement, or walking) before responding to the urge. This physical friction decouples the automatic brain-reward sequence, allowing the neurobiology of clients with ADHD or receptor sensitivity to recalibrate baseline dopamine tone without triggering restriction-induced anxiety
Sex Therapy
My sex therapy framework bridges the gap between physiological drives, digital over-reliance, and real-world relationship intimacy. I view sexual expression as a core physiological drive (analogous to hunger) rather than a moral defect, helping clients separate their identity from their coping mechanisms. For individuals, the gold standard of treatment is transitioning from a chemical dependence on high-novelty digital stimuli toward meeting needs through memory, imagination, and authentic connection. For couples, I utilize this framework to address relational intimacy gaps without pathologizing either partner. We work to de-escalate shame, rebuild emotional safety after trust breaches, and align relationship accessibility with genuine emotional and physical needs.
Location
Virtual sessions