Hi there, my name’s Stacee and I’m a transgender therapist who specializes in work with adult LGBTQ+ clients. There are so many parts to our shared experience: Trauma that’s related to our families-of-origin. For many of us, our families were our first bullies. Grief from our losses of intimate partners, lovers, friends, family, and pets. Anxiety and perfectionism that comes with trying to prove our worth in the world. Spiritual trauma from histories with shame-based religious systems. History with abusive or exploitative relationships, whether bullying bosses, predatory ex-partners or family members. Sometimes, we allowed ourselves to be exploited if it meant we could matter to someone. Weird shaming dynamics that exist within our queer subcultures around body image, shape, and size; our gender behaviors; and even social factors like a decision to live sober. Legitimate fear for our own lives and the safety of our families that’s in response to government actions. Our histories can show up in complicated ways: intrusive thoughts and nightmares, panic and anxiety, compulsive behaviors that once soothed us but now are destructive, cycles of depression. Then we experience guilt and shame that comes with the belief that we should ‘just get over it,’ just as we’ve had to forgive and get over so many things. Yet, there are some things we can't just get over on our own. This is the subject of my self-help book, The Healing Otherness Handbook. I look forward to meeting you and learning how I can help you get your fabulous back, or maybe discover it for the first time.
What can clients expect to take away from sessions with you?
We get to work quickly! I get that you've been carrying around this thing for probably some time before you ever came to me. You're here because you want things to change. I'll listen, I'll assess, and from jump we'll begin formulating a plan that meets your vision for how you want live your life.
Explain to clients what areas you feel are your biggest strengths.
I've been out and active in our queer community for more than 30 years. Our story, our humor, and our resiliency are part of who we are, and I honor the ways that each of us has learned to survive. You can curse, talk about sex, and make reference to the many parts of life and culture that impact you. You've come to this point in a life where the rules were written by and for someone else. Now you can write the rules that work for you. Let me help you get started.