Maya Attia
You read all the books and listened to all the podcasts, but opening your relationship wasn’t as easy and straight forward as you thought. You’re feeling jealous and the usual distractions aren’t working. You also may be exploring kink, D/s dynamics but you need some guidance on figuring out what you want. Maybe you want to be more assertive as a Dom or you’re having trouble surrendering and dropping into sub space. You’re in the right place. I specialize in kink, BDSM, and ethical non-monogamy, and I bring ten years of lived experience in these communities alongside my clinical training. My clients tell me I’m direct, unfiltered, a little nerdy and easy to talk to. I may also use too many video game references.
Whether you're navigating the complexities of polyamory, kink, or BDSM, or simply seeking to enhance your relationships and well-being, I'm here to support you.
As a diagnosed autistic, gender fluid person with lived experience practicing polyamory, kink and BDSM I am passionate about supporting people in these intersecting communities, challenging traditional ways of doing therapy.
First session
In our first session, we’ll spend 50 minutes getting to know each other. There’s no separate consultation call, so we’ll use this time to talk about what brings you in, your background, and what you’re hoping to work on together. I’ll ask questions to understand your situation and what matters most to you. By the end, you’ll have a sense of how we work together and whether this feels like the right fit. I come into every first session genuinely curious about your story, and my goal is to help you feel heard and understood from the start.
Strengths
My greatest strength is meeting you where you are with both professional training and genuine community knowledge. I don’t just study these things—I’ve lived them. That means I understand the nuances of ENM relationships, kink dynamics, and neurodivergent experience from the inside, which translates to faster rapport and less explaining on your part. I’m also direct and practical. I won’t overcomplicate things or use jargon to make myself sound smarter. I listen carefully to what you actually need, not what I think you should need, and I’m willing to adjust our approach if something isn’t working. And because I’m autistic, I tend to notice details that matter—inconsistencies, patterns, the specific language you use—which helps us get to what’s really going on more quickly. My clients appreciate that I take their concerns seriously while also maintaining a sense of humor about the messy reality of relationships and bodies.
Ideal clients
You’re ready to embrace your open relationship and learn to have a fun and successful relationship without letting jealousy destroy your connection with your partner. You want to be able to ask for your needs to be met without the fear of being abandoned. You can talk to talk to your partner again without being afraid that this will be the end. I can help.
Treatment methods
Gender-affirming therapy
I follow your lead on who you are. That's it. I'm not going to ask you to justify your gender before we get to the actual work. Questioning, transitioning, nonbinary, still figuring out the words. All of it happens here without a gatekeeping conversation first.
Person-centered (Rogerian)
I used to use DBT and CBT in my practice. I no longer do. The majority of my caseload is neurodivergent identified individuals and couples, and as an autistic person myself, I understand how much harm these modalities can do when used to change behavior and thoughts rather than understand them. As a late diagnosed autistic person, I had several therapists try to use DBT and CBT on me to change my behavior and thoughts. It did more harm than good and did nothing to help me identify my underlying needs or appreciate how my brain worked. I don't use these modalities now. You don't have to mask in here. Your relationships and your identity don't need translating for me. I'm not learning queerness for the first time in session with you. Monogamous, nonmonogamous, questioning, in flux. We start from where you actually are.
Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT)
It's attachment work. What are you needing. What are you longing for. There's a cycle between you and your partners, and a cycle within yourself, and both matter. An anxious partner reaches. An avoidant partner needs space to process. There's always a reason for it. Never nothing.
Internal Family Systems (IFS)
Do you ever feel like your anger controls you? Anger is one of many important parts of you that may be trying to protect you from getting hurt. That friend who stole your boyfriend? You might be feeling really angry about that, but underneath is sadness and grief. Anger protects us from our sadness. In order for anger to calm down, we need to listen to its story so we can attend to the sadness below.
Location
Virtual sessions