Monica Englander, LCSW - California Therapist at Grow Therapy

Monica Englander

Monica Englander

(she/her)

LCSW
23 years of experience
Holistic
Empowering
Virtual

I understand what it's like to be anxious, to be depressed, or to just feel lost. So I'd like to help you, if I can, to find your way towards wellness, happiness, and a fulfilling life. But I know you need the right help at the right time, and that is my first goal -- to make sure I'm the right therapist for you now. I don't work with all issues, so let's go over that now. And if I'm not the right person, I'll give you referrals for other qualified therapists. I want you to have what you need, and a therapist that is great for you, whether it's me, or someone else. So here's some info on my work: I do work with individuals, and with couples. I don't work with issues of Domestic Violence, Suicidal Ideation, Self Harm, Harm to Others, Addictions, Eating Disorders, Anger Management or any legal issues. What I do work with is self-doubt, anxiety, sadness or depression, and relationship issues. I'm good with helping people heal wounds about themselves. And I love doing relationship work: I believe that love and belonging are most people's priority in life, and if you are on the journey to find that, or need to repair a love you already have, I'm glad to help if I can. I'm familiar with most modalities of therapy. I focus mostly on Strengths-Based work, Reality Therapy, Narrative Therapy, and Compassion-Based CBT. And I'll be paying close attention to you and engaging in ongoing assessments: how you feel, think and believe are crucial to helping us find what's right for you. So communication is key. We'll talk, we'll listen, we'll collaborate, and we'll work as a team towards getting you to feel better and make choices that honor your needs, and your chosen path.

What can clients expect to take away from sessions with you?

In our first session, I'll want you to tell me why you're seeking therapy now, and what you'd like into see healed, solved, or made better in your life. I'd also like you to let me know what's bothering you -- what's missing? What do you need that you've been going without? And how is your job, your family, your primary relationship supporting you (or not supporting you?) in living your best and healthiest, happiest life?

Explain to clients what areas you feel are your biggest strengths.

How you feel about yourself, life, and relationships, I believe is the key to your happiness. We'll spend time looking at those ideas, and trying to find out where they came from. And we'll try to find out if those ideas are things you really believe are right and true -- or whether they're just unnecessary baggage that is holding you back, or even hurting you. What you believe to be true about yourself, I think, is the bottom line for the decisions you make, the choices you think you have, and is key to how you let others treat you. I hope to be able to help you find those answers. My assessment and analytical skills are very keen. And I'll be using them to help you find your answers, your truth, and your path.

About Monica Englander

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Appointments

Virtual

My treatment methods

Reality Therapy

Reality Therapy believes in people getting their needs met -- and I believe that, too. We will work together to identify your core needs, your core beliefs, and how to get them met. I also use a mix of psychodynamic therapy, and narrative therapy, to help you figure out the life story you have now, and the one that you really want and need. You cannot meet a goal if you don't know what you need. We'll establish what it is that you long for, what is in the way, and determine the choices you have available for getting to feel better and to get your needs met. I want you to succeed, and I believe that with the right help, you can find opportunities to get on that path towards your own healing and happiness.

Cognitive Behavioral (CBT)

CBT focuses on challenging negative self-talk, and on choosing behaviors that are actionable: you realistically can do them, you've chosen them, and you can set a time-line for accomplishing them one step at a time.

Compassion Focused

Compassionate understanding and validation of you, your experiences, and the context of your life is the foundation for a good therapeutic bond. When we are hurt by life, or by not having what we need from life, we need to be compassionately understood, and receive encouragement and support. Without that, our feelings would not be validated, and we do enough invalidating of our feelings on our own! Therapy is a place to come tell what's happened to us, what we need, what we feel, and what are beliefs are about ourselves, life, and others. Without the listening, guidance and compassion of someone who really does understand, there would be no healing accomplished, no matter how many times we shared our story. It's the compassionate understanding that makes all the difference.