Nazar Flome
I work with high-functioning adults who look capable on the outside but are running on chronic survival mode underneath. Clients often reach out when hyper-preparation and control hit a wall; waking with 2 AM panic spirals, treating every uncertainty like an emergency, or crashing into shame and burnout.
I know firsthand how exhausting it can be when anxiety, depression, or PTSD weigh down your daily life.
Using evidence-based trauma therapy and somatic grounding, we help you quiet the harsh inner critic, process deep-seated wounds, and retrain an overactive threat system. Together, we move you out of constant fight-or-flight so you can finally inhabit an ordinary, safe life without needing a crisis to survive.
First session
In our first session, we will cut through the daily noise to map out your current baseline, looking beneath the surface of the chaos to understand how chronic hypervigilance, overcontrol, and survival mode are driving your distress. We will clarify what you actually want your life to look like and collaboratively build a grounded, realistic roadmap that respects your nervous system's capacity rather than pushing cookie-cutter expectations. You won't leave with vague platitudes or have to wait weeks to feel a shift; we will test and equip you with actionable, day-one somatic grounding techniques and cognitive tools that you can immediately put to work the moment anxiety, overthinking, or panic surfaces between our appointments.
Strengths
I bring a calm, steady presence and the ability to look beneath the surface of daily chaos. Combining trauma expertise with somatic tools, I cut through the noise without judgment, giving you concrete strategies to quiet hypervigilance, dismantle shame, and build grounded, real-world relief.
Ideal clients
My ideal client is the capable, reliable high-achiever who appears entirely put-together on the outside, but is quietly running on the fumes of chronic survival mode underneath. They are the fixers, creatives, managers, and first-generation overachievers who learned early that safety required hyper-vigilance, emotional self-reliance, and anticipating problems before anyone else saw them coming. My ideal client is not looking for passive head nodding, toxic positivity, or surface level breathing exercises. They are insightful, self-aware individuals who are thoroughly done white-knuckling their way through daily life. They are ready to do the deep, structured work, combining cognitive clarity with nervous system regulation, to finally take off the armor, dismantle the shame, and learn how to inhabit an ordinary, grounded life without needing a crisis to feel safe.
Treatment methods
Cognitive Behavioral (CBT)
In my practice, I utilize Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT) to help you systematically identify and dismantle the deeply ingrained, fear-based thought patterns that keep you trapped in survival mode. We work together to break down the compulsion to treat uncertainty as an active emergency and the habit of blueprinting contingency plans for hypothetical disasters. By challenging the relentless inner critic that labels exhaustion as laziness or minor mistakes as fundamental failures, we restructure how your brain interprets everyday ambiguity. Through targeted cognitive reframing and practical behavioral experiments, I help you learn to view intrusive, midnight anxiety as harmless neurological static rather than urgent court summons, equipping you with the actionable skills needed to pause, untangle your reactive thoughts from reality, and choose grounded, intentional responses instead of operating on pure adrenaline.
Acceptance and commitment (ACT)
In my practice, I utilize Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT) to help you stop fighting a war against your own nervous system and instead build a life aligned with what actually matters to you. Rather than trying to forcefully eliminate every anxious thought or uncomfortable memory, ACT teaches you the psychological flexibility to step back and observe the noise. We focus on dismantling the toxic shame and hypervigilance that keep you stuck, helping you accept the messy, unresolved gray areas of life without needing to impulsively fix or control them. By clarifying your core values, we anchor your daily choices in intention rather than survival reflexes, giving you the practical tools to take meaningful, committed action toward a grounded life, even when the anxiety is humming in the background.
Cognitive Behavioral Therapy for Insomnia (CBT-i)
I utilize Cognitive Behavioral Therapy for Insomnia (CBT-I) to dismantle the exhausting cycle of nocturnal panic and conditioned hyperarousal that turns your bed into an operational war room. When your nervous system is stuck in survival mode, waking between 1:00 AM and 4:00 AM frequently triggers an immediate adrenaline surge—launching you into compulsive midnight planning, catastrophic catastrophizing, or intense frustration over not sleeping. Through CBT-I, we systematically recalibrate your biological sleep drive and retrain your circadian rhythm using evidence-based stimulus control, sleep consolidation, and somatic step-down techniques. We address the core anxieties that keep you wired at night, teaching your body to recognize middle-of-the-night wakefulness as harmless biological static rather than an emergency to solve, and ultimately rebuilding the bedroom into a conditioned space of genuine autonomic safety and deep, restorative rest.
Compassion-Focused
I utilize Compassion-Focused Therapy (CFT) to systematically dismantle the toxic shame and brutal inner critic that were forged in an unsafe environment. For high-functioning individuals, intense self-criticism often started as a survival tool, a way to anticipate mistakes, stay perfectly compliant, and ensure the floor wouldn't drop out from under you. Through CFT, we work to differentiate between normal, adaptive guilt and the deeply internalized belief that you are fundamentally defective. We focus on neutralizing the internal whip that labels you as "lazy" the second you try to rest, retraining your threat-response system so you no longer have to attack yourself to feel secure. Ultimately, CFT equips you to replace chronic self-punishment with practical, grounded self-advocacy, allowing you to inhabit your life with genuine self-respect and quiet confidence rather than fear.
Cognitive Processing (CPT)
I utilize Cognitive Processing Therapy (CPT) to help you systematically identify and resolve the trauma-driven "stuck points" that keep your mind and body locked in perpetual danger. Traumatic experiences often distort your core beliefs about safety, trust, control, and self-worth, convincing you that letting your guard down invites catastrophe, or that you were somehow to blame for the harm and chaos you endured. Through the structured, evidence-based framework of CPT, we examine these deeply rooted conclusions without relying on superficial positivity or invalidating your lived reality. We work together to untangle distorted self-blame, separate the facts of what happened from the protective assumptions your brain created to survive, and safely file the past away so it stops hijacking your present. Ultimately, CPT allows you to evaluate your life with clarity, reclaim your sense of agency, and finally step out of the shadow of an unsafe yesterday.
Location
Virtual sessions
In-person sessions16888 Nisqualli Rd, Victorville, CA 92395, 200
Identifies as
Man
Top specialties
ADHD
Depression
Trauma and PTSD
Other specialties
Anger Management
Bipolar Disorder
Child or Adolescent
Coping Skills
Life Transitions
Men's Issues
Mood Disorders
Self Esteem
Spirituality
Serves
Adults (18 to 64)
Elders (65 and above)
Individual Therapy
Man
Non-binary
Transgender
Woman
Doesn't specialize in
Couples Counseling
Couples Counseling
Licensed in
CaliforniaLicense 159517
IowaLicense 138290