I was born in Amsterdam but moved to California. I am the mother of one child. I was born into a dysfunctional family and overcame trauma. I like to help you heal your painful past as well. Talk therapy can only take you so far because it does not process your emotions. I can help you integrate the cognitive part of the brain with the emotional part. This integration is a fast-lane approach to healing very fast. My therapy adds a deeper dimension to regular talk therapy as I incorporate EMDR, EFT, NLP, Gestalt, Internal Family Systems, and hypnotherapy. Try a new approach; it is beneficial.
In our first session we will introduce ourselves and I will ask you about your life and what issues you are currently struggling with. I will also tell you about my treatment approaches.
Having worked with traumatized individuals for many years I developed a keen awareness of PTSD, Complex PTSD and methods to heal it. I am empathic, empowering, creative and spiritual. I will be your enthusiastic cheerleader encouraging and help you to turn your life around reach your goals.
I love working wit (spiritual) )adults who are still affected by their crappy childhood. They can suffer from substance abuse issues, Low self-esteem, a negative self-image, triggers and flashbacks, high anxiety, depression, and difficulties relating to or suffering from the effects of sexual or physical abuse, neglect, or indoctrination in childhood. PTSD or traumatized clients are also welcome including but not limited to divorce, break-up, death, illness, war experience, and marital issues.
What can happen when trauma goes untreated? It can lead to relationship problems, disassociation, low self-esteem, a negative outlook on life and other people, or even a shorter life span. I am a certified Complex Trauma therapist. You deserve a better life. Start your New Year with good self-care. Start therapy, and don't let the past ruin the present.
EMDR Processes painful emotions from childhood so you can take emotional distance from them. I also integrate Emotional Freedom Technique, NLP, inner family systems, hypnotherapy, DBT and Cognitive behavioral therapy. As a front runner, I had weekly sessions with Albert Ellis, PhD for a year. He developed Cognitive Therapy. When I studied it, it was called Rational Emotive Behavioral Therapy. Rational Emotive Behavior Therapy helps us listen to our inner compass and reduce challenging or irrational thoughts. I have been practicing REBT in my own life and have taught clients the methods and benefits of Rational Thinking vs Distorted thinking patterns.
A solid emotional and physical bond to one primary caregiver in our first years is critical to our development. If the bond is weak, it will lead to problems with attachment in later life. Attachment issues often go hand in hand with trauma. If our bonding is strong and we are securely attached, we feel safe exploring the world. If our bond is weak, we feel insecurely attached. We are afraid to leave or explore a rather scary-looking world. We may have difficulties in relationships, such as being avoidant, overly anxious out of fear of abandonment, or ambivalently attached, both wanting and fearing a relationship. We will explore your attachment style and how it affects your current relationships. Through CBT, EMDR, and other methods, we will work on establishing more secure relationships. That thrive.
Schema therapy looks at beliefs formed in childhood that no longer serve you such as " I am not good enough." We process these painful memories with my trauma based treatment methods. Therapy (CFT) is a form of psychotherapy commonly used to help individuals who are dealing with high levels of shame and self-criticism. It encourages psychological and emotional well-being by helping individuals cultivate self-compassion and compassion towards others. I use it for clients who suffer from the continuous self-judgment judgment of others due to traumatic experiences, which often go hand in hand. Self-acceptance and the ability to acknowledge the inner shadow and be accountable is part of being a mature adult, so I usually start by exploring self-compassion in a supportive environment. The goal is to accept oneself, including one's mistakes, without invalidation of self. To understand that bad behavior doesn't equal being a wrong person.
Your childhood experiences form you to a large extent. Children are like sponges soaking up all the impressions. Because children are egocentric they assume that if they don't get enough attention or are being treated badly or put down that there is something wrong with them rather than the parents. This belief can leave deep scars. So I spend time on treating and discussing childhood traumas.