Licensed to practice in Missouri and accepts 23 insurances. Specializes in LGBTQ, Sex Therapy and 10 more.
Paul Dohearty
(he/him)
About me
I am focused on sex therapy, working with people who have gender or identity questioning issues, issues with partners, kink/fetish/swinging related issues, or problems or issues with sex and sexuality. I see individuals, couples, and polycules. I have both book learning and practical, lived experience in many sex/gender/sexuality issues. I am a member of the American Association of Sex Educators, Counselors, and Therapists. I believe there is no single “right” way to experience desire, identity, or relationships. Therapy with me is an affirming, open-minded space where clients can explore who they are, what they want, and how to move forward with greater confidence, clarity, and self-acceptance. Outside of therapy, I enjoy spending time in the wilderness, thrifting or browsing rummage sales, and sharing life with partners and five and a half cats.
Get to know me
In our first session together, here's what you can expect
Our first session is focused on building comfort and trust at your pace. We’ll take time to get to know each other, and you’ll have space to share what feels most important to you—whether that’s a specific concern, a broader question about identity or relationships, or an overview of patterns and experiences that feel connected. You’re never expected to share more than you’re ready for. Together, we’ll explore possible next steps and begin identifying approaches that feel aligned with where you are and where you’d like to go.
The biggest strengths that I bring into our sessions
My strengths include understanding, clear communication, and the ability to explain complex or sensitive topics in relatable ways. I often use analogies, examples, and relevant lived experience to help clients make sense of thoughts, emotions, and relational dynamics that may feel confusing or overwhelming. Clients frequently share that this approach helps them feel understood, validated, and less alone, especially when discussing topics that can feel difficult or taboo to talk about elsewhere. I've also experienced many of the same situations that my clients my clients are currently experiencing, and I help normalize and validate the struggles that they are having.
The clients I'm best positioned to serve
I have experience with folks who are curious about, having issues with, or working through their gender identity, sexual orientation, fetishes, kinks, swinging, alternative sexuality, polyamory, ethical non monogamy, and lifestyle situations. Many of my clients come to me and ask me, “Am I normal?” Sometimes our interests or lives feel weird, different, or out of sorts. Working on either self-acceptance or a path to change is Many clients are also seeking out or unsure of their authentic identity or are hesitant to make changes to be authentic. Being true to yourself, finding out who you are, and what feels authentic to you is a difficult, but rewarding journey. Many times, our identities are placed upon ourselves by the people around us, or society as a whole. Figuring these things out is hard, but often brings about inner peace within. Clients sometimes want to be their true selves, whether that’s a change of attitudes or jobs, or else looking more into their sexual or gender identities.
Specialties
Top specialties
LGBTQ
Sex Therapy
Other specialties
Life Transitions
Men's Issues
Older Adults
Peer Relationships
Self Esteem
Sex Addiction
Sexual Abuse
Substance Misuse
Trauma and PTSD
Women's Issues
Identifies as
Gender fluid
LGBTQ
White
Serves ages
Adults (18 to 64)
Elders (65 and above)
Licensed in
Missouri
Accepts
Aetna
Aetna - ASR Health Benefits
Aetna - Allied Benefits
Aetna - Lucent Health
Aetna - Luminare
Aetna - Medicare
Aetna - Moda
Aetna - WebTPA
Aetna – HealthEZ
Amerihealth Administrators
Amerihealth NJ Medicare Advantage
Arlo
Cash - $100 per session
Centivo
Cigna
Cigna - HealthEZ
EAP:Cigna
EAP:Evernorth
Evernorth
GTEB
Humana - Medicare
Humana Dual (Medicare & Medicaid)
Tufts Health/Cigna
Location
Virtual
My treatment methods
Adlerian
Overcoming feelings of inferiority and working on bettering self esteem and self image
Couples Counseling
Working with two or more partners to come to an understanding
Gender-affirming therapy
Working on gender identity and questioning to find the more true version of ourselves
1 rating with written reviews
July 3, 2026
Really felt so much better after the session. It was solution-focused and practical