Therapy is a valuable resource that can help individuals navigate challenging emotions, improve their mental well-being, and enhance their overall quality of life. Unfortunately, there are several common myths and misconceptions surrounding therapy that can deter individuals from seeking the help they need.
If you’re considering therapy but are unsure about what really happens in a therapy session, continue reading to learn what to expect — and what not to expect — during therapy.
Key takeaways:
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Many common ideas about therapy are untrue, and this misinformation can be harmful to people with mental health conditions
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Myths about therapy also keep people from getting the help they need, because the myths perpetuate confusion, shame, and fear
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Therapy can be helpful for almost anyone, because therapists possess a unique and practical skillset to help people overcome challenges
Myth 1: Therapy is only for “crazy” people
This myth perpetuates a harmful stigma about mental health. Therapy is indeed a valuable tool for people in crisis. However, anyone, regardless of their mental health status, can benefit from building resilience, self-awareness, and positive relationships. Tahara DeBarrows LMFT, a therapist with Grow Therapy, says, “Therapy is not just a reactive measure. It can also be seen as a proactive tool to help with personal development and emotional well-being.” Challenging this common misconception helps remove the stigma around mental health and encourages more people to prioritize their well-being through therapy.
Myth 2: Therapy is a quick fix for mental health issues
Therapy is often thought of as a quick solution to complex issues, but it’s actually a process that requires time, effort, and teamwork. Building a strong bond with your therapist can take a few sessions, and learning healthy ways to cope and deal with deep-rooted problems can’t be rushed. Therapists work with clients to create personalized treatments, monitor progress, and make lasting changes by developing skills and insights that go beyond the therapy sessions. By understanding that therapy is a journey, you can set realistic expectations and commit to the process of personal growth and change.
Myth 3: Therapists just tell you what to do
Therapists don’t simply issue advice or instructions. Therapy is a joint effort where you actively participate in setting objectives, addressing challenges, and finding resolutions. You, the client, retain control over decisions that align with your values and aspirations while therapists provide guidance and encouragement. Clinicians use evidence-based methods to steer this interactive process and help keep you accountable. This method enables you to pursue solutions that work for you and your goals, creating deeper self-awareness in the process.
Myth 4: Therapy is too expensive
There are many ways to make therapy more affordable and accessible. Online therapy platforms like Grow Therapy can help you choose from thousands of therapists covered by your insurance. Copays vary by your individual insurance plan but often range from $0 to $50+ per session. Some employers also offer a health savings account (HSA) or flexible spending account (FSA) which you may be able to use to pay for mental health care using pre-tax dollars. Many therapists and mental health professionals offer reduced fees, while workplace employee assistance programs (EAPs) and community health centers provide low-cost or free services.
Therapy involves learning new coping skills, identifying unhelpful patterns, and processing deeper emotions to enhance your self-awareness and create lasting change.
- Tahara DeBarrows, LMFT, Grow Therapy provider
Myth 5: Talking to friends and family is just as good as therapy
While the support of family and friends is important, professional therapy provides unique advantages that surpass personal relationships. Most people find that they can discuss things in therapy that would be too difficult to bring up with a friend or family member. With a therapist, you can speak freely without worrying about judgment or what you say being shared with others. A good therapist offers a neutral, confidential, and non-judgemental space supported by specialized training and evidence-based techniques that even our most insightful loved ones don’t have.
Myth 6: Psychotherapists just blame your parents for everything
Therapists do not attribute everything to your parents or upbringing. While understanding past experiences can be important, therapy focuses on empowering you to make positive changes in your present life. Good therapists work with you to explore various factors contributing to your current challenges and help you develop effective problem-solving strategies for moving forward. The goal is to support your growth and well-being, rather than assigning blame to specific individuals or circumstances.
Myth 7: Therapy is nothing but a bunch of talking
DeBarrows notes that “Therapy is beyond just talking. You and your therapist are working together to develop practical tools to help you manage your challenges.” Therapy is a collaborative process that uses evidence-based techniques and coping strategies to help improve mental health and make positive changes in life. Therapists use different types of therapy, such as cognitive behavioral therapy (CBT), dialectical behavior therapy (DBT), and psychodynamic therapy. These approaches are tailored to address specific mental health concerns and help you achieve your therapeutic goals, promoting insight, positive change, and emotional well-being.
Myth 8: Once you start therapy, you have to go forever
A therapist’s job is to help you resolve or work through whatever brought you to therapy in the first place — not to keep you in therapy sessions forever. How long you stay in therapy depends on your individual needs and goals. For some, short-term therapy is enough to address issues or develop coping skills, while others may benefit from longer-term support. The decision to continue therapy is based on your progress and ongoing needs, and therapists work together with clients to analyze this. Therapy is ultimately a personal choice, and you have the autonomy to decide when it’s the right time to conclude your sessions.
Myth 9: All therapists are the same
The myth that all therapists are the same ignores the diversity within the field of mental health. Therapists come from various backgrounds, training, and theoretical approaches, which can significantly influence their counseling style and techniques. Each therapist brings a unique perspective, personality, and set of skills to their practice, allowing them to offer individualized and tailored support to their clients. You can find a therapist who aligns with your preferences, needs, and therapeutic goals to ensure a positive and effective counseling experience.
Myth 10: People should be able to figure things out on their own
The myth that people should be able to fix things on their own overlooks both the complexity of mental health struggles and the value of seeking professional therapy. This myth also perpetuates a number of stigmas and cultural ideas that can prevent people from seeking the help they need: for example, the idea that it’s weak to talk about one’s feelings or seek help for mental health. In reality, many people benefit from the opportunity to gain insight, tools, and support from a trained mental health professional. Seeking therapy, for many, is a brave step toward improving their mental health that can benefit not just the individual, but a person’s family and larger community as well.
Myth 11: Social media is just as useful
The idea that social media is just as helpful as therapy is not true. There are many well-intentioned people on social media who produce helpful content — some are licensed therapists, others are coaches, and many have lived experience but no official credentials. Regardless of a creator’s background, they speak to a broad audience and are often focused on increasing their engagement and reach. Even if you find some of these creators’ content helpful, engaging in therapy with a licensed mental health provider means you’re participating in a healing relationship that’s personal and tailored to your needs and goals. Therapy provides a safe and private space for you to talk about your emotions and make positive changes that social media cannot provide.
Myth 12: Therapists just want your money
Therapists are trained professionals who genuinely want to help people improve their mental health and well-being. While it’s true that they are paid for their jobs just like anyone else, they invest time and effort in understanding your concerns, offering support, and providing effective strategies to help you overcome difficulties. Therapists prioritize your progress and work collaboratively with you to ensure that you receive the help you need, demonstrating their dedication to your overall mental wellness rather than solely focusing on financial gain.
Helpful resources
For more information on therapy and mental health resources, consider reaching out to a Grow Therapy provider or visiting reputable sources such as the American Psychological Association (APA) and WebMD, just to name a few. If you’re ready to take the first step towards positive change, we encourage you to seek the support of a qualified therapist. Don’t let myths or misconceptions hold you back — begin your journey towards growth and healing today with the guidance of a skilled therapist from Grow Therapy.
