I have been practicing as a counselor since 2012, in variety of settings from church settings to hospitals, with the longest stint in a community mental health clinic. I provide talk therapy, helping clients discover the unconscious patterns in their lives that may be holding them back. Outside of my academic and counseling career, I have faced and overcome my own mental health challenges. There is no one answer that serves all, but there is one best answer that fits you. Let's see if we can find it.
The initial session is mostly discovery. I learn about you, your concerns, your histories, your failures, your successes, your goals, and ultimately how to help you determine your optimum resolutions to life's challenges. In this process, you also are learning about me, determining whether you are comfortable and confident in me guiding the process.
For the longest time, I favored intelligence. It is only been since developing a greater sense of emotional intelligence that I discovered balance is preferable. Have you ever seen a bird fly with one wing? If you row a boat faster on the left oar than the right, you go in circles. We have two hemispheres, you need both working together to navigate. I am knowledgeable in variety of areas, academics, science, arts, music, and esoteric literature. At one time, I was a musician and an aircraft mechanic. I have traveled the world and have cultural competency. At 56, the one thing I find the most beneficial for self and my social circles is being genuine and being kind.
The first helpful thing to know if you have symptoms or you struggle, you're not broken or lacking. It is not the lack of fear that is the measure of the Lion's courage, but his ability to do what must be done even though he is afraid. It is the same with anxiety, cope is not the absence of anxiety, but the ability to function despite sometimes being concerned! Indeed, if you watch the news and you don't have concerns, I would be worried for you. And I might recommend not watching the news. Ha! My interaction style is truly eclectic, but my preferences, not in order, are Existential, REBT, Transpersonal, and Rogerian. Again, intelligence by itself is insufficient. Existentially, this is that deep dive into the soul and life, while Rational Emotive Behavioral Therapy, Albert Ellis, is a little bit rational, a little bit emotional, and a little bit behavioral. We can work together to increase competency in one or two domains, and as confidence increases anxiety tends to decrease. Mindfulness exercises, humor, movie homework, reading homework if you want, and the dynamic interaction of talk therapy is how we start. If you want to check out Ellis from the library, I recommend 'Feeling Better, Getting Better, and Staying Better.'
If intelligence alone was sufficient to overcome depression and anxiety, there would be no smart depressed and anxious people. I am truly eclectic, tapping into existential and transpersonal, but building competencies in multiples domains boosts confidence which tends to decrease symptoms.