Jacqueline Rafter
If you struggle with anxious attachment, people pleasing, setting boundaries, feeling triggered, anger, anxiety, depression, co-dependence, parenting issues, and ADD/ ADHD, then I want to work with you.
I am sex positive and competent to work with folks who do (or don’t) engage in an alternate lifestyle including poly, ENM, or identify as LGBTQ+ with regard to the issues mentioned above.
These symptoms and attachment style are often related to each other and often related to similar childhood experiences of inconstant or abusive/neglectful caregivers. (ADD and ADHD is not cause by caregivers, however, when it goes undiagnosed in children, there is s strong correlation to symptoms described above)
First session
In our first session together, I will ask you to share with you what prompted you to seek out therapy in the first place, and what goals you have for our time together. I will share feedback and talk with you about how we can work together to meet your goals both in session as well as what you can do to support your goals between sessions. We will review confidentiality expectations, cost / payment/ insurance, scheduling/ canceling appointments and other housekeeping type information.
Strengths
My counseling style is non-judgmental, direct and empowering in my counseling style. I have been described as supportive, caring, and compassionate, with a pretty good sense of humor. I'm here to help you sort through the things that are difficult right now, and offer you a safe place to be open and honest without fear of judgment. I am sex positive and competent to work with folks who do (or don’t) engage in an alternate lifestyles
Treatment methods
EMDR
If you have ever thought to yourself "I know one thing is true... but the way I feel is the complete opposite of what I know" of “I feel triggered” or felt “like a child (or teenager)” when triggered, then there is a strong potential that EMDR therapy techniques along with Inner Child Healing can help to resolve this conflict between what is known and what is felt. EMDR is a technique that has shown to be highly effective to treat the lasting effects of traumatic experiences, including traumatic childhoods. Essentially, EMDR "Puts the past in the past." EMDR uses (primarily) eye movements to access the parts of the brain that cannot be accessed through talk therapy alone. Inner Child Healing is a technique that actually accesses the emotional part that is the unhealed child and works to heal the hurts of trauma, and support the grief over what should have been but never was… (This is often an adult who failed to provide protection, love, education, support etc.) I have been using these techniques for about 10 years overall and about 4 years online. They are equally effective for In-Person and Online therapy formats
Trauma-Focused CBT
CBT (Cognitive Behavioral Therapy) Considers the connections between thoughts, feelings and behaviors, (conscious and subconscious) and that the relationship between then can be adjusted for insights awareness and behavioral changes. In other words, CBT focuses on the belief systems (or feelings) that a person experiences, that inform how they respond to life experiences "Triggers" and teaches how to think differently about these experiences.
Solution Focused Brief Treatment
SBFT – is a strengths based, preventative, and wellness-based approach to therapy which uses solution focused intervention to support clients using their innate strengths to address problems, situations, or obstacles. SBTF shifts focus form the negative to the positive, from the past to the future, and from what’s wrong to what’s going well. This empowers the client.
Location
Virtual sessions
Identifies as
White
Woman
Top specialties
ADHD
Trauma and PTSD
Women's Issues
Other specialties
Anger Management
Anxiety
Coping Skills
Depression
Family Conflict
Grief
Parenting
Peer Relationships
Self Esteem
Licensed in
CaliforniaLicense 118581
IndianaLicense 34009470A
MichiganLicense 6801106200