Licensed to practice in North Carolina and accepts 27 insurances. Specializes in ADHD, Anxiety, Life Transitions and 4 more.
(he/him)
Many of the people I work with feel stuck in patterns of overthinking, anxiety, or difficulty following through on the things that matter most to them. I strive to help adult clients better understand these patterns and develop practical strategies to manage stress, improve focus, and move forward with greater confidence. With over 18 years of experience, my approach focuses on building skills that help people respond to challenges more effectively in everyday life.
The first session is an opportunity for us to get to know each other and begin understanding what has been bringing you to therapy. We’ll talk about your current concerns, what you’ve been experiencing, and what you hope to gain from our work together. I’ll ask questions to understand your background, patterns, and goals so we can begin identifying helpful strategies moving forward. My goal is for you to leave the first session feeling heard, understood, and clearer about how our time together can help.
One of my greatest strengths as a therapist is helping people translate insight into practical change. Many clients come to therapy understanding their challenges intellectually but struggling to apply solutions consistently in daily life. I focus on helping clients recognize patterns in their thinking, emotions, and behavior, and then develop realistic strategies they can actually use outside of sessions. With over 18 years of experience, I work to create a structured but supportive environment where clients feel understood while also gaining the tools needed to move forward more effectively.
My ideal clients are individuals who feel stuck in patterns of overthinking, stress, or difficulty following through on goals. Many struggle with anxiety, ADHD, procrastination, or feeling mentally overwhelmed by responsibilities at work or in life. They are often thoughtful and capable people who want practical strategies to better manage their thoughts, emotions, and daily demands. They may have tried to solve these challenges on their own and are now looking for guidance, structure, and support to move forward more effectively.
Cash - $110 per session
Aetna
Aetna - Allied Benefits
Aetna - ASR Health Benefits
Aetna - Lucent Health
Aetna - Luminare
Aetna - Medicare
Aetna - Moda
Aetna - WebTPA
Aetna – HealthEZ
Amerihealth Administrators
Amerihealth NJ Medicare Advantage
Anthem
Arlo
Blue Cross Blue Shield
Centivo
Cigna
Cigna - HealthEZ
EAP:Cigna
EAP:Evernorth
Evernorth
GTEB
Humana - Medicare
Humana Dual (Medicare & Medicaid)
Independence Administrators
Independence Blue Cross
NC State Health Plan
Tufts Health/Cigna
I frequently use Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT) to help clients better understand how their thoughts, emotions, and behaviors interact. Together, we identify unhelpful thinking patterns and develop practical strategies to respond to challenges more effectively. CBT is especially helpful for anxiety, stress, and ADHD-related patterns such as avoidance, overthinking, and difficulty following through. My approach focuses on building skills that clients can apply in everyday situations.
Mindfulness-based techniques help clients become more aware of their thoughts, emotions, and physical responses without becoming overwhelmed by them. I often incorporate brief mindfulness exercises to help clients slow down, reduce anxiety, and improve emotional regulation. These skills can be especially helpful for individuals who feel mentally “stuck,” distracted, or reactive in stressful situations. The goal is to build greater awareness and the ability to respond intentionally rather than automatically.
I take an eclectic approach, meaning I draw from several evidence-based methods to meet each client’s individual needs. While CBT and mindfulness often provide a foundation, I adapt techniques depending on a client’s goals, personality, and life circumstances. This flexible approach allows us to focus on practical strategies that improve functioning and well-being rather than using a one-size-fits-all method. Therapy is collaborative and tailored to what will be most helpful for you.
2 ratings with written reviews
August 7, 2026
Lance is a great listener and asks questions pertinent to my immediate issues. He validates thought processes where they are healthy and probes where I need work.
August 4, 2026
I found this provider, Grow, when I gave up on the waiting lists of the local offices where I had my name down, and threw open a broad Google search for "Therapists in Winston Salem." Mr. Oldham was highly recommended and had 18 years of experience, and a specialty working with ADHD, which I have. He is a good listener and has a pleasant demeanor. I feel cautiously confident that I will be able to make improvement to my mental and emotional state with his help.