A Big Hello to you. You are scanning all these profiles. Looking for something to stand out to make you say,"I will go with this one." It is daunting but you have made it this far. Here is the tip. Your choice is not terminal. It is absolutely ok to try multiple therapists to see who gets you the best. Who understands you the best. After each session, you should feel lighter. You may not recall all that was said, but you will note how you feel. Did you feel heard? Understood? Did the therapist talk to me like they were reading a book or did it sound like they really got me? When you get the right one, those questions will be answered with a firm, Yes.
I love the question of what can a client expect in the first session. I know for sure how anxiety producing this can be. But let me ease that right now. Think the first session with me as a conversation. It will not feel clinical but more conversational. I will not push you to talk about anything that makes you feel uncomfortable. So don't worry there. I will ask you to share what you feel comfortable with sharing that day and that will be that.
I am very easy going but keen. Check my website to see what clients have said.
I mentioned somewhere else on this site that my goal is to send fire myself. I don't want to hold on to any client week after week unless they are gaining skills that they are using. Talking is fine. Listening is fine. Changing you life does not come from either of those things. Changing you life only comes from what you do after a session. It will be the skills that you practice that improves your life. Often clients will praise a therapist but still struggle months and years after therapy. I believe it is because the talking and listening were good in session but the practice of new skills was not the focus. I want you to have skills for a lifetime. My goal is to motivate you to use those skills. Then, I promise, you will see massive improvements in all areas of your life.
I welcome clients to bring the faith into their sessions to the extent that they wish. I will never impose my opinion or views on clients. Instead, I make myself available for clients to share their strengths and challenges with their faith as it relates to what they are currently working through.
How often do you tell yourself and other people, "I'm OK" when you really may not be? Our minds don't allow us to feel. It's always trying to protect us from something. That is where the body steps in. It tells us the truth through head or stomach issues, colds, and other things. Learning how to respect the signals your body gives you early on can really help in resetting the nervous system. Therapy is a good tool to support you in listening not only to your head but your heart and body as well.
My job as a therapist is to work my way out of a job. That means, if I teach you about what your brain and body are doing and give you ways to practice skills in your everyday life, you will be in therapy for a shorter period of time. This is my goal as a therapist. That is, give you all that I know so that you can take care anytime, anywhere.
The brain is marvelous and at the same time, it does not automatically lead us towards good mental health. It just repeats back to you what you have already said and done in a reoccurring loop. It does not generate anything new on its own. We have to train the brain to go where WE WANT it to go. CBT is a model that is easy to grasp and connect to. The skills are sensible if you practice them. Therapy should encourage you to see ways you can incorporate those skills naturally each and every day without feeling overwhelmed.