Craig Steckowski

(he/him)

LMFT, 8 years of experience
Authentic
Open-minded
Solution oriented
VirtualAvailable

I'm going to go out on a limb and guess that something isn't OK right now. That something might be new, or it might have been around a long time. You might be able to describe it perfectly, or you might just feel off without knowing why. Either way — you're here, and that's the only thing that matters right now. I start from wherever you are. No assumptions, no judgments, no one-size-fits-all approach. Just a genuine desire to understand you — what's brought you here, what you're carrying, and what you're hoping for. Therapy with me — whether you're coming alone or with a partner — tends to be honest and occasionally even a little lighthearted. The human experience isn't black and white, and neither is the work we'll do together. What stays consistent is that you'll have a space that belongs to you, where nothing you say or feel changes how I show up for you. For couples, that space belongs to both of you equally. I don't take sides. What I do is help you see the pattern you're both caught in — because most of the time it's the cycle doing the damage, not each other. When that shifts, something else becomes possible. No matter what it is you are navigating — depression, relationships, identity, or the gap between how you show up and how you actually feel inside — you don't have to have it figured out to reach out.

Get to know me

In our first session together, here's what you can expect

The first session tends to flow organically — more conversation than intake form. I want you to get a real sense of who I am and how I work, understand what brought you here, and have space to ask whatever's on your mind. I ask questions as things come up naturally, not from a prepared list. Nothing about how I show up with you is scripted. The first session is as tailored to you as everything that follows.

The biggest strengths that I bring into our sessions

Military culture and the transition out of it aren't things I studied from the outside — I've lived them. Working with veterans, active duty service members, and their families doesn't require explaining that world from the ground up. It's a world I came from. That experience extends beyond the military. Legal systems, addiction, homelessness — I've worked across some of the harder edges of people's lives, and that shapes how I understand what people are actually carrying. The people I work with are navigating depression, self-worth, and identity, couples caught in patterns neither partner fully understands, and major life transitions. What they share isn't a diagnosis — it's usually a sense that something has to change and not quite knowing where to start. Clinically, my greatest strength is presence. I work from a foundation of narrative therapy, Emotionally Focused Therapy, and attachment-based frameworks — but what I've found matters most is genuine investment in the specific person sitting across from me. Clients often describe feeling like they're talking to someone who actually listens rather than waiting to offer the next technique. What I bring into every session is curiosity, honesty, and a consistent belief that the patterns keeping someone stuck can be understood — and that understanding them is usually where things start to shift.

The clients I'm best positioned to serve

If you're an adult who's carrying something you haven't been able to put down — whether that's depression, relationship patterns that keep repeating, questions about who you are or who you're becoming, or the weight of a life that looks fine from the outside — this is a space for you. The common thread isn't a diagnosis or a demographic. It's usually something simpler — a sense that things could be different, and a willingness to find out if they can be.

Specialties

Top specialties

Couples Counseling

Depression

Military/Veterans

Other specialties

Anger Management

Coping Skills

First Responders/Healthcare Workers

I identify as

Man

Serves ages

Adults (18 to 64)

Elders (65 and above)

Licensed in

California

Accepts

Cash - $150 per session

Location

Virtual

My treatment methods

Integrative

No two people come to therapy carrying the same thing, which means no single approach works for everyone. I draw from narrative therapy, Emotionally Focused Therapy, and attachment-based frameworks — not as a menu to pick from, but woven together based on what you're actually bringing into the room. The theory informs the work, but you shape the direction. What stays consistent regardless of approach is this: the relationship we build in therapy is the foundation everything else is built on. Technique without genuine connection is just procedure.

Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT)

EFT is at the heart of how I work with couples. Rather than focusing on who's right or teaching communication scripts, we look at what's happening underneath the conflict — the unmet emotional needs and fears that are driving the cycle you keep getting stuck in. When both partners can see the pattern they're caught in rather than just each other as the problem, something shifts. My role isn't to take sides or hand down verdicts. It's to help you both find your way back to each other.

Narrative

Narrative therapy starts from the idea that you are not your problem — the problem is the problem. The patterns, beliefs, and stories we carry about ourselves often made sense at some point. They were survival strategies. But they don't have to define what comes next. Together we look at where those stories came from, whether they still serve you, and what it might look like to start writing a different one. This approach works with individuals and informs everything I do with couples as well.

, 115 ratings

14 ratings with written reviews

October 23, 2025

Incredibly understandanding, helpful, genuinely has my well-being in mind, the best therapist I've ever worked with bar none.

Verified client, age 25-34
Review shared after session 62 with Craig

October 21, 2025

We have been seeing Craig for a few months, and he has strengthened our marriage in many ways. He is warm and authentic and challenges us with solution-based and tangible takeaways. Sessions are fun and easy while still getting to deeper topics. We look forward to our sessions with him and recommend him!!

Verified client, age 25-34
Review shared after session 11 with Craig

September 22, 2025

Craig made me feel as if I’m talking to a friend who understands me. Session felt very genuine, very welcoming. He is very down to earth open minded and ready to find solutions.

Verified client, age 35-44
Review shared after session 1 with Craig