Hi, nice to meet you, my name is Rebecca. It would be so nice to get to know you. Let me just provide a brief introduction because after all this is about you, this is your time. So, sit back, take a deep breath, grab a coffee, and get comfortable. Twenty-two years ago I received a Masters in counseling-Marriage and Family Therapy. I have been licensed for the past thirteen years and in private practice for the past eight years. In those eight years, I have been successful in assisting individuals work through various issues and develop skills that helped them resolve conflicts in their lives and within themselves.
Let's take a moment to acknowledge, that starting therapy for the first time or with a new therapist, is hard. It can be daunting and feel overwhelming. I am aware that by the time you schedule your appointment, you are ready to start talking, venting, crying, sharing your story, and not to mention that you are seeking some sort of relief from yout current life situation. Plus, you are exhausted! Sigh! Well, I am here to listen, follow along, and provide the guidance you are seeking. My goal is to create an environment where individuals feel safe and comfortable to discuss sensitive topics that are often difficult to address. Come as you are. Just be yourself and breathe.
When a client is able to gain insight, learn something new about themselves or their situation, when they begin to think about or see their situation with a new perspective, this is progress. You will be encouraged to come into session to: let it out "dump" all emotions/feelings/thoughts that you have been holding onto. As, I previously mentioned, we often get stuck in our negative patterns of behavior that cause us to feel less than, we doubt ourselves and we don't think so highly of ourselves. Despite all the toxicity and dysfunction that you are drowning in, it is important for me to emphasize that you are still a good person. Together we can work through this stuff and slowly you will learn to accept that you are worthy of all good things and most importantly, you are enough!
If you are ready and willing to begin your healing journey, be prepared for some turbulence. It can get messy at times and it may feel impossible. However, just know, you will be equiped with the tools needed to get through the pain, the rage, the fear, the sadness/despair, the anger within. Change is hard and rewiring our brains can be difficult, yet not impossible. Clients who choose to come to session on a regular basis, take an active approach to learn on their own by doing research, read articles and listen to podcasts related to their issues, are more likely to find the motivation to change rather than staying stagnant and stuck in the negative patterns they find themselves repeating.
I believe individuals gain insight into their pattern of bx by looking into past relationships/childhood, etc. I encourage clients to take a deeper look and begin identifying the underlying issues that contribute to their current bx. While I also believe in the importance of focusing on the "here and now", there is so much we can learn about ourselves when we "dig" a little into our past/our childhood. It is extremely important to prepare clients with appropriate coping skills (breathing techniques, journaling, guided meditation, positive outlets) prior to, "digging". In addition, I also like to make sure individuals are stable in their current level of functioning to ensure they can handle what may be uncovered, as we look into the past.
I utilize the cognitive triangle (thoughts, feelings, behaviors) in order to assist clients in understanding how their thoughts, feelings, and behaviors are interconnected. I also utilize the "thought stopping" and "thought replacement" techniques for individuals who have repetitive negative thoughts. This can be helpful for those with anxiety and often allow their thoughts to spiral. I also provide psychoeducation in regards to cognitive distortions, a common one that I find myself discussing is catastrophizing, which many people with depression and anxiety often "catastrophize."
I do not utilize solution focused as much, however I do love to utilize the "magic wand" technique. Clients may say, I want things to be better. So, using the magic wand, how does better look, describe what would be happening?, how will you know things are better? When client's say I had a good day yesterday. So, I want them to go back to that day so we can replicate what took place that day, to make it "good".
I believe educating our clients is important. I encourage all my client to do their own research, read books on the topics discussed, listen to podcasts, etc. Understanding ourselves, studying and being accountable for our behaviors, and accepting that we are good people, despite not being perfect is key to healing.